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Dancing in the Rain: A Great Quote About Life

Definitely One of My Favorites... Ah, the Imagery!

by joi

in Daily Quote, How to Be Happy, Positive Thought

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain!This life quote is one worth memorizing!  Some people think they can only be happy when the sun’s out, when the kids are behaving perfectly, when the spouse is saying all the right things, when the cat’s feeling cuddly, and when money’s in the bank. The bad thing is, they don’t end up smiling nearly as much as they scowl.  Expecting things to be perfectly agreeable all the time’s like expecting the sun to shine every day of the year.

The trick is to learn to accept the bad days as well as the good – and to not only accept them, but delight in them.

I’m not perfect (far from it). If you ever saw me try to budget money (or calories), drive in the dark, or carry a tune you’d give me a hearty amen right about now.  However, this dancing in the rain thing? I own it.  I’m an expert at finding “my happy place,” so much so that most of the time people around me don’t even know when I’m burdened with something.  “Well, she’s smiling, dancing and chit-chatting – all must be perfect in her world.”

Once (about 459 years ago), when I was in my twenties – my mom asked me how I kept from allowing a certain family (health) situation to “get to” me.  I told her that it had definitely gotten to me, I just wasn’t letting my face know about it.   After all, I had three little girls – and everyone knows how perceptive these little creatures are.  So the heart was heavy but the feet did all they could to stay light.

When the world seems unreasonable and even ridiculous, do all you can to rise above it.  Think of these storms as your mortal enemies, then catch them off guard and DANCE. They won’t be expecting that.  Advantage: YOU.

Dance On!Dance on!

Ancestory, Genealogy, and Your Family Tree

The Best Guide for FIning Your Way to the Past

by joi

in Book Reviews, Books I Love

The Complete Idiot's Guide to Genealogy With my self help website, food blog, and other online publications, I have the opportunity to read and review a good number of books. I’ve been a bookworm since the great and varied adventures of “Spot, Dick, and Jane,” so you can imagine how delirious I am when a new book to review comes in the mail. My smile stretches from ear to ear and my feet kind of do this little happy dance.

I’ve got nothing but mad love for great books, the authors who pen them, the publishers who publish them – and nothing but crazy mad love for the publicists who add to my personal library.

A recent book is from one of my favorite series of books, “The Complete Idiot’s Guide To…” series.  I’m mad about these books!  They take a subject matter that you’d LIKE to be an expert in and MAKE you an expert.  Given the fact that these wonderful books cover just about any subject you can think of, that means you can become an expert in any field you want.

I’ve always been fascinated by genealogy, for example, but honestly had no idea where to start. When asked if I’d be interested in reviewing The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Genealogy, 3rd Edition, I jumped in with both dancing feet.

About the Authors

Christine Rose is a full-time professional genealogist. She was elected a fellow of the American society of Genealogists in 1988, an honor bestowed on only 50 living genealogists at any time.  Kay Germain Ingalls is a certified genealogist and is past president of the Association of Professional Genealogists and a trustee for the Board for Certification of Genealogists.

I’ve always wanted to dig around in my own family tree (as well as my husband’s).  I’ve been intrigued with my ancestors since I was about 17 years old.  A great, great uncle showed me a picture of someone in our family from YEARS ago.  She was dressed like Laura Ingalls Wilder if that gives you an idea of how old the picture was.  Her name was Annie, and her picture made me freeze in my tracks. She looked exactly like me.  My mom and other relatives in the room all looked back and forth between me and Annie’s picture and everyone agreed that we looked exactly alike.   My mom tried to get her hands on more pictures and information of Annie, but nothing really turned up.

To this day I’d just love to know more about her!  How many children did she have?  Who did she marry? Did she love animals? Did she have a cup of coffee by her side all day, too?  Things like this fascinate me.  I couldn’t help wondering, too, what her children looked like and what they did with their lives.  And their children, and their children, and…

From the Back Cover:
You’d love to learn more about your ancestors, but the wealth of information online, in family scrapbooks, in libraries, and at courthouses is so vast, you don’t know where to start your search.

The next best thing to a personal genealogist, this revised and updated guide gives you all the knowledge you need to trace your heritage.  In it, you get:

  • Guidance on sorting through census data, plus tips on widening your search with surname variations.
  • Tips for fact-finding in newspaper archives, military records, Social Security records, cemeteries, and more.
  • The latest information on using Ancestory.com, GenWeb, and other online sources – plus hundreds of links to visit.
  • A new chapter devoted to researching African American lineage.
  • Expanded information on how to use DNA testing in your genealogical search.
  • Insightful ideas for breaking through the brick walls and seemingly dead ends all genealogists face.
  • A primer on organizing your work with charts, forms, and logs; citing sources; and establishing a numbering system.

The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Genealogy, 3rd Edition is like having a couple of genealogists siting on each side of you – telling you why you should research your family history, where to begin (with Mom and Dad!), how to proceed, and what to watch for. The advice and tips are priceless. I promise you, the book is filled with things you’d never have even thought of.

There are “Tree Tips” as well as “Lineage Lessons” and “Definitions” along the way. The definition prompt came in handy with Daguerreotypes, as you might imagine.

Who are You?
What’s the fascination? Curious as to why Grandpa never spoke about his family? Yearn to know your ethnic roots? Whatever it is, this part will get you going. Starting the search with your own family, you’ll learn how to spot the significance of all the papers and memorabilia you’re sure to find. If you’ve already started with the Internet, find out how to build on that.

You’ll also get the basics of recording what you find and an introduction to some of the charts, forms, and logs that will help you keep on track. You are laying the groundwork for a wonderful adventure. – From the Intro to Part 1

And that’s just Part 1!

I could give you a wonderfully flowery spiel about how “learning who your ancestors were will help you learn who you are.” I could point out how important it is to unearth family traits, illnesses, and whatnot to better understand and protect you and generations after you. I could also tell you how much your mind LOVES learning new things and the pursuit of new hobbies such as genealogy. And all that would be true. But, frankly, I’m just going to say this, “How freaking cool would it be if you found a face in the past that looked just like the one in the mirror?!”

Click through The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Genealogy, 3rd Edition to learn more. Trust me, this is a book you’ll want to add to your library because this is book that will serve you well.

Be bold! Stand out!

In the Bible, there’s a passage that used to bumfuzzle me.  When I was much younger, I even wanted to ask my preacher about it.  I didn’t because I didn’t want to seem, at best, a simple little dummy or, at worst, a Hell-bound little heathen. I’m certain I’m neither, so I just decided to figure it out for myself.

The passage basically says that it’s better to be cold or hot than to be lukewarm. To my young mind, I was certain the Bible had gotten it twisted. After all, wouldn’t it be better to be at least a little warm than to be altogether cold?  Time and life experience have taught me that, OF COURSE, the Bible was right.

When I came home from the store this morning, one of our outside cats (Hannah) was standing in the middle of the driveway.  Naturally, I had to wait (while finishing off my breakfast sandwich and black coffee from Burger King) as she decided which way she intended to go – toward her favorite patio chair on the carport or toward a sunny spot in the yard with her name on it.  It didn’t take long (I timed it right around two bites and four sips) for her to realize her chair just didn’t look quite right without her.

Hannah, in the middle of the driveway is like a lukewarm person.  You almost want to yell, “Pick a side!”  But I never yell at cats, so that’s out.

It sort of comes down to two things:

  • If we’re right, we should always stand up for our beliefs. Head up, chest out, feet firm. Move us if you dare.
  • If we’re wrong, we should always stand up for our beliefs. Head up, chest out, feet firm. Move us if you dare.

Someone once told me they “hated” certain men and women who go door to door with little books.  Although I don’t personally agree with their literature, I have no ill-will toward them.  In fact, many years ago I invited a few of these women into my living room for what turned out to be a very interesting conversation. When I told them I wasn’t interested in reading their little books, one of them (the lead, I presume) asked if I’d listen to her for a few minutes. I told her I would if she’d return the favor. We talked and debated for 45 minutes.   The lead did all of their talking -with the younger woman looking back and forth between both of us.   The older lady had a huge Russian-style hat on and at one point I told her that a certain point I was making was as obvious as the hat on her head.   The younger woman burst out laughing. They retreated. My daughters applauded. I bowed.

I don’t hate these people. Far from it. In fact, can I let you in on a little secret? I admire their conviction, their determination, and.. yes… their bravery.

What if those of us who have strong convictions of our own…..

  • Fighting child abuse
  • Trying to end childhood diseases
  • Protecting wildlife
  • Believing that prayer, the Bible, and the Pledge of Allegiance to the American flag should have NEVER been taken out of schools

….. were just as determined, passionate, and brave?  What if we didn’t stand in the middle of the road – afraid to say what we really think (not giving two shakes about what people would think) but picked our side and defied an army to move us?!  Then the noisy, misguided minority would never win another battle.

Don’t quote me on an school exam, but meekness is not the opposite of boldness.  Middle-ness is.  As Charles Krauthammer said,  Middleness is the very enemy of the bold.

Below are some of my favorite quotes about standing up for what you believe in, whether it’s a political hot topic or a favorite patio chair.

When something important is going on, silence is a lie. – A.M. Rosenthal

Standing in the middle of the road is very dangerous; you get knocked down by the traffic from both sides. – Margaret Thatcher

A man’s judgment is best when he can forget himself and any reputation he may have acquired and can concentrate wholly on making the right decisions. – Adm. Raymond A. Spruance

You can lean over backward so far that you fall flat on your face. – Ben H. Bagdikian

He who turns the other cheek too far gets it in the neck. – H. Hert

The main discomfort in being a middle-of-the-roader is that you get sideswiped by partisans going in both directions. – Sydney J. Harris

You’ve got to stand for somethin’ or you’re gonna fall for anything. – John Mellencamp

A thing moderately good is not so good as it ought to be.  Moderation in temper is always a virtue; but moderation in principle is always a vice. – Thomas Paine

He that always gives way to others will end in having no principles of his own. – Aesop

It’s important that people should know what you stand for.  It’s equally important that they know what you won’t stand for. – Mary H. Waldrip

Learn to say no. It will be of more use to you than to be able to read Latin.  – Charles Haddon Spurgeon

Compromise makes a good umbrella, but a poor roof. – James Russell Lowell

A good resolution is like an old horse which is often saddled but rarely ridden. – Mexican Proverb

Never give in – in nothing, great or small, large or petty – except to convictions of honor and good sense. – Winston Churchill

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A Great Summer Read: The Millionaire’s Handbook

How to Look and Act Like a Millionaire Even If You're Not

by joi

in Book Reviews, Books I Love

The Millionaire's Handbook

Sigh. I love The Millionaire’s Handbook: How to Look and Act like a Millionaire, Even if You’re Not. In fact, I want to be this book when I grow up.

I regularly do book reviews for Self Help Daily, as well as a few other websites. 7 out of 10 times the book I’m sent to review is a wonderful book that I’m delighted to share with my online friends (that’d be you). For the self help blog, most of the books are a little serious in nature – after all, self improvement, health, fitness, and self motivation are serious matters. Because of this fact, I think I got an extra kick out of The Millionaire’s Handbook: How to Look and Act like a Millionaire, Even if You’re Not. When I first opened the book, I thought it was going to be a straight-laced, straight-faced approach: “To look like a millionaire, one must first believe that they are a millionaire, for all good things begin with thought.” I thought it might urge the reader to purge negativity from their center…. to embrace their potential.

Yes, as a matter of fact, I do read a lot of books, why do you ask?

I wasn’t even out of the Introduction before I realized that this book had much more FUN running through its veins than I thought. I wasn’t off the first page of the Introduction before I developed a literary crush on the book.

This book will show you how to wing it till you cha-ching it – by spending what little money you do have wisely and making a positive investment in yourself. It will help you gain the trappings of luxury – even if you’re six generations removed, not just from Kevin, but from anyone who brings home the Bacon. You’ll learn how to look, dress, speak, and behave like a millionaire so that you, too, can enjoy the same privileged lifestyle.

There are entire stores filled with chichi clothing. There are countless ways to pamper, party, and globetrot – all while sampling the world’s finest luxuries. But if you have to worry about how much it all costs, then this is the right book for you. It will help redistribute the perks that come with the power of money, so that we can all get more of what’s coming to us (for a great deal less).

If you can dream it you can look it. This book describes eighteen separate aspects of looking and acting like a millionaire, even if you aren’t one. Each chapter begins with a fictional scene, which sets the stage for the true-life advice and tips that follow.

As we travel together through these chapters, you will meet some friends and learn what to do (and, indeed, what not to do)….

The book is, obviously, written in a humorous, very fun to read fashion but the truly great thing is: There’s a lot of priceless advice in this book. You can look and behave as though you have more money than you actually do!

One of the first sections in the book includes Twenty Must-Have Items to Look Like a Millionaire. A few of these are:

 

  • One pair of sunglasses that hides majority of face for instant celebrity appeal.
  • One gadget (cell, iPhone, iPad, BlackBerry) to prove your time is valuable.
  • One ticket stub to a cultural event within the last year.
  • An eye for art (Not confusing Jasper Johns with Jackson Pollock is a good start).

Some of the Chapters in The Millionaire’s Handbook:

  • The Ten Laws of Material Success (Or How to Dress the Part on a Pauper’s Salary)
  • Amass a $64 Million Vocabulary
  • Skimp on the Items No One Else Will Notice
  • Covet Thy Neighbor’s Catalogs
  • Develop an Obscure Hobby
  • Blend in to Stand Out
  • Millionaire Skin
  • Foster an Eccentricity
  • You, Only Richer
  • Show Some Class
  • Your Personal Brand

In the back of the 267 page book, there are a few pages dedicated to websites and books that’ll help you along your way to looking richer and a list of  20 Must-Have Catalogs…  I’m afraid to say I only subscribe to one.  I have so much work to do.

This wonderfully funny and enjoyable book actually gives you FACTS while it feels as though it’s just giving you FUN.  You LEARN while you think you’re just LAUGHING.   The Millionaire’s Handbook would make an ideal book any time of year – whether you’re sitting enjoying a cup of hot chocolate in the winter or lying in the sun in the summer.  It’s the sort of book you’ll devour quickly, then lend to everyone you know. With the promise that you get it back.

Take a closer look at The Millionaire’s Handbook: How to Look and Act like a Millionaire, Even if You’re Not.  I can’t recommend this book enough!

 

Polar Bear

I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing. – Agatha Christie

I love this Agatha Christie quote.  Not only did the lady write the greatest mysteries the world has ever known (as her #1 fan, I may be a bit biased), she also had a great handle on life. Life is beautiful, even on the worst of days. Some people say they feel more alive than ever when they’re in the middle of a battle, while others claim the period just after a battle is the sweetest.

Personally? I feel more alive when things are calm and normal.  When chaos ensues, I’m the proverbial chicken with its head cut off – running in circles, clucking, and looking a perfect fool. This girl wasn’t built for chaos.  I’ll give chaos this, however, it does make lazy, calm, beautiful days like today feel thisclose to Heaven.

Bare Naked at the Reality Dance!

The Book's as Good as the Title

by joi

in Book Reviews

I just finished reading Bare Naked at the Reality Dance by Suzanne Selby Grenager. When I was asked if I’d like to read this inspirational book, I took one look at the title and asked, “How soon can you send it to me?”

I’m a sucker for attention-grabbing titles and this one grabs you with both hands.

Book Description:

Do you want to wake up and fall in love with yourself? Do you want to make the difference you were born and are dying to make? That’s what Suzanne Grenager does—and will help you do—in this intimate, from-the-trenches transformational journal of a wife, mother, daughter, yogini, spiritual mentor and work-in-progress. Whether you are a novice or veteran on the spiritual path, Suzanne’s soul-thrumming real-time trek toward her Self will amuse, shock, inform, and, most of all, inspire you to see and be the wild and wonderful person you already are. In the Himalayas and in Nova Scotia, at the ashram where she is blasted by a Swami yoga master’s love, and down on the farm, Suzanne’s struggles, triumphs and insights will ignite you from deep inside out. Instead of telling her readers what to do, this natural born teacher offers the example of her hard-won self-love and trust, spurring us to a way that is utterly our own. In her warm, transparent and distinctly feminine voice, Suzanne empowers us to take who we are and run with it, into a world that can’t wait for our light.

Love is who we are when we let go of who we are not.

Now’s as good a time as any to address a question I’m occasionally asked.  No, I do not always agree with absolutely every viewpoint, idea, belief, or concept expressed by the authors of the books I read and/or recommend.  I don’t choose my books based upon the criteria of I must agree with every single word and the author and I must see eye to eye on absolutely everything.  Where would the fun be in that?!  If you never broaden your horizons or stretch the boundaries of your mind, you can forget about growth of any kind, shape, or form. Sure, you may not be familiar with the term yogini (when I first saw the word, I pictured someone doing yoga in a bikini), but here’s the thing, you don’t have to be! I’m convinced that we can learn something from everyone. Yes, even someone doing yoga in a bikini.

Truth be told, some of my favorite books are those where I find myself blissfully unaware of where the author is “coming from” in the beginning.  I happen to enjoy the heck out of watching the answer unveil before my eyes.

The author of Bare Naked at the Reality Dance , Suzanne Selby Grenager is a very spiritual author and her writing is nothing short of beautiful. You’ll find her story very inspiring, insightful, and informative. This is a book I would definitely recommend.

Feelings are the voice of the soul. 

Author Biography

Suzanne Selby Grenager is a seasoned writer and spiritual mentor with a well-honed gift for helping people see, appreciate and express their particular greatness. A former Philadelphia Inquirer and Spiritsite.com columnist, her work has appeared in Yoga Journal. Suzanne was an early Kripalu Yoga student, teacher and regional leader, and for 10 years, a transformational life coach. Certified in the holistic Rubenfeld Synergy Method, she has lived in India and Egypt and has a second home in Nova Scotia. She is married to Trond Grenager, a Norwegian architect, and has two grown children.

The more I treat myself that I am worth it, the more worthy I see that I am. 

Wordless Wednesday: Quote About Smiling

Reason Enough to Turn the Frown Upside Down

by joi

in Daily Quote, Wordless Wednesday

Quote About Smiling

Never frown even when you are sad because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. :)

Quote About Paying it Forward

Sail Beyond the Horizon!

by joi

in Daily Quote, Make a Difference

Adorable Monkey and White Tiger Cub

“Sail beyond the horizon; fly higher than you ever thought possible; magnify your existence by helping others; be kind to people and animals of all shapes and sizes; be true to what you value most; shine your light on the world; and be the person you were born to be.” Blake Beattie

Quote About Love for All Girls to Memorize

Truer Words Were Never Written

by joi

in Daily Quote, Relationships

Happy Valentine's Day LOL Cats

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’ re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU… The one who turns to his friends and says, that’s her. – Unknown

I wish I had a dollar for every time I put this quote in front of my daughters’ faces over the years.  I could buy my husband a boat and possibly Kentucky Lake to go with it!

More quotes about love

I Love This Quote About Life

From Ordinary Sacred by Kent Nerburn

by joi

in Daily Quote

The world is not something that happens to us; we are something that happens to the world. – Kent Nerburn, Ordinary Sacred

You can read my review of Ordinary Sacred on She’s Got the Book!