It is often said that the mountains move aside for the man who knows where he is going. This oft quoted maxim proves the value of determination and self- confidence because determination is a much needed value that oozes out of an individual only when he is has the self- esteem. Self- esteem is again a perfect combination of self- confidence and self-respect. This very important value of self- esteem is something that needs to be nurtured in a child right from a very young age. Only then would the child grow in an individual who would be successful as well as a person capable of accepting life as it comes.
The question is what steps you should take towards building self- esteem in your child. The answer lies in the following salient features:
Appreciating and encouraging uniqueness: an adult must always keep in mind that each and every child is unique and possesses his or her individual talent. Every child also has his or her own way of interpreting and accepting the world. So, once you are capable of appreciating the talent of the child, the child gains the confidence that his way of thinking is acceptable and only then does he try to excel in it. Acceptance of the child to his nearest family and friends is of vital significance in boosting the self- esteem of the child.
Promote responsibility: It is generally told that the duty of the teacher lies in teaching the child how to think and not what to think. So, a child must be taught how to think and interpret the world in his own way. On doing this, the child would become responsible and would also be able to differentiate between what is right and what is wrong.
Teaching him the value of contribution: Every child must be taught that every individual can contribute to the betterment of the family and the society. Once he learns that his small little contribution is of significant value, and then he would learn to be responsible and realize his worth.
Realizing the value of self: Most of us make the mistake of confusing our own selves with the others. We tend to forget our priorities in life. Consequently, we also lose our self- esteem leading to a loss of our own personalities. Every child must learn that the self and his own personality is of great value and far more important than any other person on this earth. Only when he realizes the important role that he plays on this earth would he realize and appreciate the value of his opinion in life.
As we have gone through the reasons and aspects which should be worked upon in order to improve the self-esteem of a child, we must also keep in mind that self-esteem is something that once instilled remains forever in a person and like every other value, it also must be hammered at a young age so as to achieve the best results. Adults must also remember that children inculcate what they see. So, the onus is on adults now!