Highly Recommended Self Improvement Books!

Reading is a favorite pastime and I believe reading great books (and magazines) is more than just entertaining. Reading is educational, enlightening, and even relaxing. In the following pages, you’ll find my favorite books, book reviews, suggestions, and recommendations.

Ancestory, Genealogy, and Your Family Tree

The Best Guide for FIning Your Way to the Past

by joi

in Book Reviews, Books I Love

The Complete Idiot's Guide to Genealogy With my self help website, food blog, and other online publications, I have the opportunity to read and review a good number of books. I’ve been a bookworm since the great and varied adventures of “Spot, Dick, and Jane,” so you can imagine how delirious I am when a new book to review comes in the mail. My smile stretches from ear to ear and my feet kind of do this little happy dance.

I’ve got nothing but mad love for great books, the authors who pen them, the publishers who publish them – and nothing but crazy mad love for the publicists who add to my personal library.

A recent book is from one of my favorite series of books, “The Complete Idiot’s Guide To…” series.  I’m mad about these books!  They take a subject matter that you’d LIKE to be an expert in and MAKE you an expert.  Given the fact that these wonderful books cover just about any subject you can think of, that means you can become an expert in any field you want.

I’ve always been fascinated by genealogy, for example, but honestly had no idea where to start. When asked if I’d be interested in reviewing The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Genealogy, 3rd Edition, I jumped in with both dancing feet.

About the Authors

Christine Rose is a full-time professional genealogist. She was elected a fellow of the American society of Genealogists in 1988, an honor bestowed on only 50 living genealogists at any time.  Kay Germain Ingalls is a certified genealogist and is past president of the Association of Professional Genealogists and a trustee for the Board for Certification of Genealogists.

I’ve always wanted to dig around in my own family tree (as well as my husband’s).  I’ve been intrigued with my ancestors since I was about 17 years old.  A great, great uncle showed me a picture of someone in our family from YEARS ago.  She was dressed like Laura Ingalls Wilder if that gives you an idea of how old the picture was.  Her name was Annie, and her picture made me freeze in my tracks. She looked exactly like me.  My mom and other relatives in the room all looked back and forth between me and Annie’s picture and everyone agreed that we looked exactly alike.   My mom tried to get her hands on more pictures and information of Annie, but nothing really turned up.

To this day I’d just love to know more about her!  How many children did she have?  Who did she marry? Did she love animals? Did she have a cup of coffee by her side all day, too?  Things like this fascinate me.  I couldn’t help wondering, too, what her children looked like and what they did with their lives.  And their children, and their children, and…

From the Back Cover:
You’d love to learn more about your ancestors, but the wealth of information online, in family scrapbooks, in libraries, and at courthouses is so vast, you don’t know where to start your search.

The next best thing to a personal genealogist, this revised and updated guide gives you all the knowledge you need to trace your heritage.  In it, you get:

  • Guidance on sorting through census data, plus tips on widening your search with surname variations.
  • Tips for fact-finding in newspaper archives, military records, Social Security records, cemeteries, and more.
  • The latest information on using Ancestory.com, GenWeb, and other online sources – plus hundreds of links to visit.
  • A new chapter devoted to researching African American lineage.
  • Expanded information on how to use DNA testing in your genealogical search.
  • Insightful ideas for breaking through the brick walls and seemingly dead ends all genealogists face.
  • A primer on organizing your work with charts, forms, and logs; citing sources; and establishing a numbering system.

The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Genealogy, 3rd Edition is like having a couple of genealogists siting on each side of you – telling you why you should research your family history, where to begin (with Mom and Dad!), how to proceed, and what to watch for. The advice and tips are priceless. I promise you, the book is filled with things you’d never have even thought of.

There are “Tree Tips” as well as “Lineage Lessons” and “Definitions” along the way. The definition prompt came in handy with Daguerreotypes, as you might imagine.

Who are You?
What’s the fascination? Curious as to why Grandpa never spoke about his family? Yearn to know your ethnic roots? Whatever it is, this part will get you going. Starting the search with your own family, you’ll learn how to spot the significance of all the papers and memorabilia you’re sure to find. If you’ve already started with the Internet, find out how to build on that.

You’ll also get the basics of recording what you find and an introduction to some of the charts, forms, and logs that will help you keep on track. You are laying the groundwork for a wonderful adventure. – From the Intro to Part 1

And that’s just Part 1!

I could give you a wonderfully flowery spiel about how “learning who your ancestors were will help you learn who you are.” I could point out how important it is to unearth family traits, illnesses, and whatnot to better understand and protect you and generations after you. I could also tell you how much your mind LOVES learning new things and the pursuit of new hobbies such as genealogy. And all that would be true. But, frankly, I’m just going to say this, “How freaking cool would it be if you found a face in the past that looked just like the one in the mirror?!”

Click through The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Genealogy, 3rd Edition to learn more. Trust me, this is a book you’ll want to add to your library because this is book that will serve you well.

A Great Summer Read: The Millionaire’s Handbook

How to Look and Act Like a Millionaire Even If You're Not

by joi

in Book Reviews, Books I Love

The Millionaire's Handbook

Sigh. I love The Millionaire’s Handbook: How to Look and Act like a Millionaire, Even if You’re Not. In fact, I want to be this book when I grow up.

I regularly do book reviews for Self Help Daily, as well as a few other websites. 7 out of 10 times the book I’m sent to review is a wonderful book that I’m delighted to share with my online friends (that’d be you). For the self help blog, most of the books are a little serious in nature – after all, self improvement, health, fitness, and self motivation are serious matters. Because of this fact, I think I got an extra kick out of The Millionaire’s Handbook: How to Look and Act like a Millionaire, Even if You’re Not. When I first opened the book, I thought it was going to be a straight-laced, straight-faced approach: “To look like a millionaire, one must first believe that they are a millionaire, for all good things begin with thought.” I thought it might urge the reader to purge negativity from their center…. to embrace their potential.

Yes, as a matter of fact, I do read a lot of books, why do you ask?

I wasn’t even out of the Introduction before I realized that this book had much more FUN running through its veins than I thought. I wasn’t off the first page of the Introduction before I developed a literary crush on the book.

This book will show you how to wing it till you cha-ching it – by spending what little money you do have wisely and making a positive investment in yourself. It will help you gain the trappings of luxury – even if you’re six generations removed, not just from Kevin, but from anyone who brings home the Bacon. You’ll learn how to look, dress, speak, and behave like a millionaire so that you, too, can enjoy the same privileged lifestyle.

There are entire stores filled with chichi clothing. There are countless ways to pamper, party, and globetrot – all while sampling the world’s finest luxuries. But if you have to worry about how much it all costs, then this is the right book for you. It will help redistribute the perks that come with the power of money, so that we can all get more of what’s coming to us (for a great deal less).

If you can dream it you can look it. This book describes eighteen separate aspects of looking and acting like a millionaire, even if you aren’t one. Each chapter begins with a fictional scene, which sets the stage for the true-life advice and tips that follow.

As we travel together through these chapters, you will meet some friends and learn what to do (and, indeed, what not to do)….

The book is, obviously, written in a humorous, very fun to read fashion but the truly great thing is: There’s a lot of priceless advice in this book. You can look and behave as though you have more money than you actually do!

One of the first sections in the book includes Twenty Must-Have Items to Look Like a Millionaire. A few of these are:

 

  • One pair of sunglasses that hides majority of face for instant celebrity appeal.
  • One gadget (cell, iPhone, iPad, BlackBerry) to prove your time is valuable.
  • One ticket stub to a cultural event within the last year.
  • An eye for art (Not confusing Jasper Johns with Jackson Pollock is a good start).

Some of the Chapters in The Millionaire’s Handbook:

  • The Ten Laws of Material Success (Or How to Dress the Part on a Pauper’s Salary)
  • Amass a $64 Million Vocabulary
  • Skimp on the Items No One Else Will Notice
  • Covet Thy Neighbor’s Catalogs
  • Develop an Obscure Hobby
  • Blend in to Stand Out
  • Millionaire Skin
  • Foster an Eccentricity
  • You, Only Richer
  • Show Some Class
  • Your Personal Brand

In the back of the 267 page book, there are a few pages dedicated to websites and books that’ll help you along your way to looking richer and a list of  20 Must-Have Catalogs…  I’m afraid to say I only subscribe to one.  I have so much work to do.

This wonderfully funny and enjoyable book actually gives you FACTS while it feels as though it’s just giving you FUN.  You LEARN while you think you’re just LAUGHING.   The Millionaire’s Handbook would make an ideal book any time of year – whether you’re sitting enjoying a cup of hot chocolate in the winter or lying in the sun in the summer.  It’s the sort of book you’ll devour quickly, then lend to everyone you know. With the promise that you get it back.

Take a closer look at The Millionaire’s Handbook: How to Look and Act like a Millionaire, Even if You’re Not.  I can’t recommend this book enough!

 


I recently read, then wrote a review for, a great book called Make the Bread, Buy the Butter: What You Should and Shouldn’t Cook from Scratch — Over 120 Recipes for the Best Homemade Foods . Click the link for my review of this fun and informative book – the post includes a recipe from the book for Homemade Baked Beans!  OR, click the book and read more on Amazon.

Book Description

When Jennifer Reese lost her job, she was overcome by an impulse common among the recently unemployed: to economize by doing for herself what she had previously paid for. She had never before considered making her own peanut butter and pita bread, let alone curing her own prosciutto or raising turkeys. And though it sounded logical that “doing it yourself” would cost less, she had her doubts. So Reese began a series of kitchen-related experiments, taking into account the competing demands of everyday contemporary American family life as she answers some timely questions: When is homemade better? Cheaper? Are backyard eggs a more ethical choice than store-bought? Will grinding and stuffing your own sausage ruin your week? Is it possible to make an edible maraschino cherry? Some of Reese’s discoveries will surprise you: Although you should make your hot dog buns, guacamole, and yogurt, you should probably buy your hamburger buns, potato chips, and rice pudding. Tired? Buy your mayonnaise. Inspired? Make it.With its fresh voice and delightful humor, Make the Bread, Buy the Butter gives 120 recipes with eminently practical yet deliciously fun “Make or buy” recommendations. Reese is relentlessly entertaining as she relates her food and animal husbandry adventures, which amuse and perplex as well as nourish and sustain her family. Her tales include living with a backyard full of cheerful chickens, muttering ducks, and adorable baby goats; countertops laden with lacto-fermenting pickles; and closets full of mellowing cheeses. Here’s the full picture of what is involved in a truly homemade life—with the good news that you shouldn’t try to make everything yourself—and how to get the most out of your time in the kitchen.

The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life

How to Get Through Life's Holes Without Getting Stuck in Them!

by joi

in Book Reviews, Books I Love

The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life

The Swiss Cheese Theory of LIfe, by Judith A. Belmont, MS and Lora Shor, MSW, is such a fun, delightful, and thought-provoking book that I only wish I could put a copy into each one of my reader’s hands.  I was sent my own review copy a few weeks ago and I’ve really gotten a kick out of it.

Don’t get me wrong. Just because it’s fun, delightful, colorful, and has a killer personality doesn’t mean there isn’t a great deal of substance here, because there is.  The fact that it has a great deal of fun serving up the wonderful nuggets of self growth simply means that you’ll stay with them all the way to the end.  I can’t imagine anyone bailing on this book midway – you’d be too afraid of missing what might come next!

From the back cover:

Take The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life Challenge

  • Are you trying to make changes in your life, yet find yourself digging deeper into a hole?
  • Do you “know better” but still continue unhealthy patterns and habits?
  • Do you often have “why does this happen to me” thinking?
  • Are you looking for happiness in all the wrong places?
  • Are you ready to make healthy changes in your life…. physically, emotionally, spiritually?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions – this book is for you!

The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life is a book about resiliency. Using Swiss Cheese as a metaphor for life itself, you will explore ways to get through life’s holes without getting stuck in them.  Swill is not like any other cheese – and neither are you!

Top 10 Things I Love About The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life:

  1. The book has such a positive vibe it floats off of the pages.  There’s no negativity, scare tactics, or heavy handed advice.
  2. The authors treat important matters as important matters but don’t take things overly seriously. Life’s fun and this book doesn’t just “get” that, it celebrates it.
  3. I look at reading as sitting down and having a friendly visit with an author or authors. These authors are great company and I’m hoping for more collaborations.
  4. This book is highly interactive, inviting the reader to think, solve, and resolve.  We don’t grow when others do all the thinking for us!
  5. There are many fascinating quotes, illustrations, and examples. The lively writing is compelling.
  6. There are FUN illustrations and even comics. LOVE that!
  7. The book reads very fast, but doesn’t at all feel like “fast food.”  It’s fine dining quality but can be read by even the busiest person in no time at all.
  8. The authors show you how to take complete control of your life and bring the changes about that YOU want – not the changes someone else wants for you. Very important.
  9. The authors take good ole human emotions and short-comings into consideration. Very often they hit you with your excuses before they’ve even completely formed in your mind! Best of all, they offer solutions.
  10. Last, but certainly not least, this book shows that it is never, ever too late.  Lifelong mistakes or even even consistent shortcomings can be turned around.  The ship can be “righted” and.. guess what… we’re at the helm!

About the Authors:

Judith A. Belmont, MS, is a national speaker and corporate wellness trainer, with over 30 years of experience as a psychotherapist. From college teaching to working with Fortune 500 companies, Judy uses practical, action-oriented strategies to get people through life s obstacles. She is the author of two professional books, 86 Tips for the Therapeutic Toolbox and 103 Group Activities and TIPS.

Lora Shor, LSW, is a psychotherapist, work/life consultant, and national speaker. She has helped thousands learn and implement resiliency skills and transformation techniques for happier, healthier, balanced lifestyle. Lora is an international consultant to Fortune 500 companies, the federal government, and non-profits, and also maintains a private clinical practice in the Philadelphia area.

The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life is JUST the book I want each of my readers to have by their side when the new year rolls in.  When you’re sitting at the table with pen and paper, making your New Year’s Resolutions, I want this book to be there with the three of you!  It just may be the glue that’ll make those resolutions stick.

Take a closer look at this very special book: The Swiss Cheese Theory of LIfe

100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Believe in Yourself and Others Will Too!

by joi

in Book Reviews, Books I Love, Self Confidence

100 Ways to Boost Your Self Confidence

The book lover in me delighted in the fact that I was sent a copy of 100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence: Believe In Yourself and Others Will Too to review on the self help blog. My inner self help diva rejoiced because it was about a favorite subject: Self Confidence.

We’ll only go as far as our self confidence will carry us – for better or worse.

Some people have an edge when it comes to self confidence. The people in their life (parents, spouse, children, etc) build them up to the point that they feel they can do anything. My parents always instilled this can-do attitude in me as a child. So much so that, right before a game, when my softball coach asked our team who could pitch, I raised my hand even though I’d never pitched a day in my life. I took the pitcher’s position, ball in hand, and never (even slightly) doubted that I could do it. My mom sat bug-eyed in the stands and my dad looked like he wanted to cry. I’d always been a catcher! Yet, there their daughter marched, like a boss, to the mound.

I struck out the first girl.

Then the next.

Third girl? She hit it back to me and I threw her out.

I wouldn’t have remembered these details, on my own but my dad repeated the story over the years so many times that it became ingrained in my memory – and probably everyone else’s for 6 counties! Proud dad.

Some people are at a complete disadvantage when it comes to self confidence. The people in their life never seem to say anything to them or about them unless it’s negative. How pathetic is that?! My heart breaks for these people and I understand why they struggle with confidence. However, if they realize that THEY aren’t the ones with the problem, they’ll be well on their way.

Most people fall somewhere in between. They don’t have cheerleaders on the sideline, but they also don’t have people hurling insults.

Irregardless of your supporting cast, your level of self-confidence can (and should) be built up and strengthened. We’ll only go as far as we think we can! Apparently a lot of people know that because one of the subject areas I hear from my readers the most about is Self Confidence. After reading 100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence: Believe In Yourself and Others Will Too, I’m delighted to say that I now have a wonderful book to recommend to anyone and everyone who wants to improve their self-confidence.

Book Description

When you don’’t believe in yourself, everything is more difficult. 100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence will literally help you change your life by changing the way you feel about yourself. Not only will you have faith in who you really are, but the people you love and work with will believe in you as well.

100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence will show you how to:

  • Discover the essence of your personal power and belief in yourself.
  • Create the life you want with practical “feel good” behaviors.
  • Reduce your doubts, increase your self-worth and make your world a better place.
  • Improve the quality of your relationships by changing the way you think about yourself and how others think about you.
  • Become your best self by employing these easy-to-use techniques
If you struggle with self-confidence, this wonderful, inspirational, and informative book will become your new best friend. The opening chapters point out the importance of having confidence in yourself and even include 10 Instant Confidence Builders.  The book proceeds to give the reader over 100 ways to boost their self confidence. I know the title says 100 ways, but there are actually more than just 100!
From the Introduction:
A person grows whenever he or she thinks, contemplates, and dreams.  Your ideas, reflections, and even random thoughts can build your self-confidence, but you have to be aware of them to get the full benefit.
Research tells us that the human brain can think of five to nine things at the same time, so it can be a bit challenging to isolate and identify the confidence-building thoughts from those that do you no good.
Realizing that you have confidence within you, even if it has been hiding for a while, is the first step in reinforcing it.  Deciding that you want to retain and focus on your self-confidence is the next one.  By first finding it, you then have the ability to harness it.
What follows is a beautiful education in both finding and harnessing this self-confidence.

I absolutely love this book from the front cover to the back and if I could be granted a wish right now, it’d be that anyone who struggles with self-confidence at all would buy a copy of 100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence: Believe In Yourself and Others Will Too right this minute. Don’t spend another day doubting yourself or your abilities. Let author Barton Goldsmith, PHD show you how to open yourself up to a whole new world.

The Books You Read and The Company You Keep

Choose Wisely Because Their Fingerprints are All Over Your Future

by joi

in Books I Love, Self Improvement

 

8 Attributes of Great Achievers by Cameron C TaylorYou are the same today that you are going to be five years from now except for two things: the people with whom you associate and the books you read. – Charles “Tremedous” Jones

The quote above? You might want to write that one down. What’s more you might want to drill it into the heads of your children.   When I first read it, I nearly threw my wrist out of whack – that’s how fast I dove for my pen.
Think of you five years from now.  Think of you in just one year.  If you want  this person to be even stronger, wiser, and more successful than they are today, you’ll want to strongly consider the company you keep and the books you read.  They each have the potential to SHOVE you back, HOLD you in place, or PUSH you ahead.  You know me, I’m the queen of all book worms – so, it’ll come as no surprise to you to know that I want to talk primarily about the books we read.  Why?  Well, read the quote again.

The books you read directly affect the growth that will (or will not) take place between the you TODAY and you TOMORROW.

This truth is the reason I do so many book reviews on the self help blog.  A great book has the power to change your life.  It has the power to take you by the hand and cause you to demand more from yourself as well as life.

As much as I love books, however, I don’t even review books I don’t like – let alone recommend them.  I once had a publisher who would send me books to review on this blog. She’d mail them to me almost weekly.  Then, she noticed that I was only recommending about 1 out of every 10.  She asked what it’d take to make me recommend 10 out of 10.  I told her, “Better books.”

Never heard from her again.

Good books are more than just entertainment, they’re an education. You can think of them as a course in Self Growth and Development: A Better Life for Me 101!

This week, vow to start reading more great books. Great books, of course, include great magazines, like SUCCESS Magazine. It’s an outstanding magazine and each and every issue is off the charts.  SUCCESS Magazine, while the best business-minded magazine on the market, has more on its mind than just business.  The editor, the magazine, and every contributor knows that true success is measured throughout one’s life, not just at the office.

It’s one of the few non-cooking magazines where I save every issue.  If you aren’t familiar with SUCCESS Magazine, grab this month’s issue (Harry Connick, Jr. is on the cover) and prepare to be blown away.

What you read touches tomorrow and the day after and the day after and…. Choose with care.

 

 

 

Empty Spaces

An Excerpt from The Tao of Motherhood

by joi

in Book Reviews, Books I Love, Helping Children, Make a Difference, Relationships, Spiritual

The Tao of Motherhood

Empty Spaces

The empty spaces make
wholeness. The emptiness in a
pot makes it valuable; you can
fill it with food or water.

Pay attention to what isn’t. Listen
for what your child does not say.
Observe what she does not do.

Similarly, know that your child
uses your empty spaces. What
you do not say resounds. What
you do not do impresses.

- from The Tao of Motherhood by Vimala McClure

The above is a beautiful excerpt from a beautiful little book, The Tao of Motherhood.   Had it not been for our week-long, greatly uninvited and grossly unappreciated internet abstinence, I would have written about this beautiful book sooner.  However, if you use the Amazon river of greatness, you can STILL have this book delivered in time for Mother’s Day.  It’s truly, truly a wonderful little book filled with beauty.

What’s amazing about the words above is this:  The reader doesn’t have to be a mother, or even a female, to benefit from the lesson taught in wording so brief.

We can all benefit from the reminder that’s at the heart of this passage.  People will learn more from what they see us do than what they hear us say.  Sometimes they will get a better indication of our character by the things we DON’T say as opposed to the things we DO say.

I’m never, ever comfortable with writing or saying anything that can be construed as self-gratifying or seen as patting myself on the back.  I honestly cringe at the thought.  However, I think I have an illustration to share that can only be given by… well… giving it.

My mother was incredibly non-judgmental.  She didn’t look down on others, irregardless of their circumstances or abilities/inabilities.  She never copped a holier-than-thou attitude.  Ever.  The thought of her saying something derogatory or insulting about another human being is almost laughable.  Of course, there were behaviors that she didn’t condone and if she thought anyone was being cruel or mean-spirited, she’d be the first to say so.

But there’s a difference between hating what people do and hating people, isn’t there?  There’s a clear line and she never crossed it.

More importantly, she didn’t have a racist or bigoted bone in her body. She didn’t see color when she looked at people, she didn’t see ethnicity.  She saw people – made by God, loved by God. In fact, one of the things I hate most in this world is racism, which is something I strongly shared with my mother.

As a result of the things my mother didn’t say and the things she didn’t spew, she raised a daughter who is filled far more with love than with hate. I’m much more laid back than my mother was – and that’s not necessarily always a good thing.  She didn’t mind marching right into any situation that she thought called for her attention.  It was a trait that I admire although I don’t greatly imitate it.   Like my dad, I’m simply more “chillaxed.”

As a non-judgmental little girl, I became a non-judgmental mother to my own little girls.  Because they didn’t hear their mother judging others or being unkind and cruel, they have never taken part in the ugliness themselves.  It wasn’t something I sat them down one day and drilled into their heads, “You must not make fun of others or look down on them.  Even more importantly, you must not ever be bigoted! “  When you “leave out” certain things in your life, others will notice – whether they’re children or adults.

As Vimala McClure said, “Empty spaces make wholeness.”

In a Heartbeat by Leigh Anne and Sean Tuohy

I just finished a very special and ridiculously entertaining book: In a Heartbeat: Sharing the Power of Cheerful Giving.While I love all books, my favorite type of book to read is non-fiction. Whether it’s historical, motivational, inspirational, self growth, how to, biographical, or autobiographical, if there’s a non-fiction book on the premises, I’m not too far behind it.

Character is something that you cannot buy, and it’s something that cannot be taken from you.  you can only lose it.  It’s the most important thing you own. – Sean Tuohy

One of the things that makes In a Heartbeat: Sharing the Power of Cheerful Giving so extraordinary is the fact that it could very well be listed under any of the categories I just described. How cool is that?

If you loved The Blind Side even half as much as I did (I laughed, I cried, I clapped), there’s a part of you that wants to know more about this warm and wonderful family.  They’ll tell you right up front that they aren’t perfect – but many things about them are so darn near, they know what perfect had for breakfast.

Even after the movie, I wanted to know more about Leigh Anne and Sean Tuohy as well as their children, Collins, Michael, and S.J.  I bought the book, The Blind Side (I laughed, I cried, I clapped).  After reading the book… you guessed it, I wanted to know more.

There are stalking laws, though, so I cooled my heels.  Finally, my patience and adherence to the law has paid off.  This outstanding book fills in the missing pieces and provides you with family histories that are more fascinating than even I had dared to hope.  I guess it makes sense that outrageously colorful people would have more of their kind up their family tree.

And what stories they have to tell!

We fight.  We make up.  And we get over it.  That’s what families do. -  In a Heartbeat, Page 27

The book is brilliantly divided into chapters which are “hosted” by different individuals (Tim McGraw, Sean Tuohy, Leigh Anne Tuohy, Collins Tuohy, S.J. , Sandra Bullock, and Michael Oher).  Being able to hear the different voices makes the book even more special. It really was a stroke of absolute brilliance.  When Sean and Leigh Anne Tuohy describe their childhood and college life, you feel as though they’re in the room with you.  Each has a conversational writing style that makes everything in the world right.

From Publishers Weekly
Those familiar with the film The Blind Side, or Michael Lewis’s best-selling book, will likely already know the inspiring story of how the Tuohys took future-NFL star Michael Oher into their home and adopted him. For anyone wondering what more there might be to say about it, the answer is: plenty. In a Heartbeat finds the Tuohys attempting to determine what it was that made them reach out to the homeless African-American boy they saw walking down the street in a t-shirt and shorts on a winter’s day. Leigh Anne and Sean had known tough times themselves and had put themselves on the lookout for troubled kids in need of help. As a white, southern, church-going family, they defy red-state/blue-state stereotypes (for instance, by sending their teen-age daughter to a seminar fostering racial and social justice); though Leigh Anne has been described as a “gun-toting Republican Christian,” and admits to carrying weapons, she also claims to cross “party lines all the time.” With Jenkins’s help they write with humor about their quirks and the joy that Michael brought to their family, finally arriving at the belief that “we can all change people’s lives by investing time in individuals.”

I’ll be completely up front with you (as  always).  I should have had this book review up last month.  February was ridiculous for me, though, and – literally – this is the absolute soonest I can write this review.  Don’t get me wrong, I could have thrown up a quickie – you know, here’s the picture of the book, here’s what the back cover says, here’s the link, you’ll like it. Wham, bam, go order it mam (or gentleman.)  This book deserves much more than that, so here is the review – a couple of weeks later than I would have liked to have written it.

As we reflected on our own ways of giving, we came to see that we often approached charity too formally.  Giving shouldn’t always be a prescribed ritual or ceremony; it doesn’t need to be accompanied by properly stamped paperwork. If we worried less about the procedures and methods of giving and concentrated more on a giving state of mind, we might have more to offer than we knew. – Page 22, In a Heartbeat

It’s funny, I’m not sure I’ve ever told you or not, but it’s WAY, WAY, WAY easier to write a book review for a book you either….

  • Vaguely liked
  • Didn’t totally hate
  • Tolerated
  • Hated so badly you wouldn’t even take it to Goodwill (had a few)

If this book had answered to one of these descriptions, the review would have been up long ago.  The book would have been boxed up and given away or spat on and thrown away.

But a book that you know to be a very special book – one that you wish as many people as possible would read?  That’s one tough assignment.  I have so many thoughts running around in my overly-caffeinated mind.  Each thought is clamoring for attention like a  roomful of kindergarten kids.  They’re bumping off of one another, each one trying to be louder than the next.  Normally, it’s a show I enjoy, but I really want to do right by this book.

Ever since, I’ve known how little it really takes to give someone a big leg up. – In a Heartbeat, Page 40

A sample of the random thoughts:

  • This book “reads” as entertainingly as any novel I’ve ever read.
  • The authors are so likable and colorful, you’d read anything they wrote – even if it were a grocery list.
  • This inspiring book makes where you ARE an uncomfortable place to be.  It makes you want to step outside of yourself and.. I dunno… see what kind of magic you can bring into someone else’s life.
  • This is the sort of book you carry from room to room with you, sneaking “visits” with the authors whenever you have a free moment.
  • It’s the sort of book that constantly has you reaching for pen and paper to write down a great quote.
  • In a Heartbeat will be the book you recommend to friends and family for years to come.
  • If someone doesn’t make another movie about this special, lovable family, I’ll be forever disappointed.
  • I LOVE that Sandra Bullock and Tim McGraw each have a chapter in this book!

Those are just some of the thoughts running around my head.  I guess now would be a good time to pause and thank God and WordPress for Bullet Points.

In a Heartbeat: Sharing the Power of Cheerful Giving is without a doubt the next book you should read.  I sincerely hope that you’ll grab a copy right away and devour it cover to cover.  I thought it’d be fitting to end with a favorite passage from the book. It’s written by Sean Tuohy.  It’s from a chapter in which he tells about his fascinating childhood, college basketball career, and the head-on collision with fate… also known as the night he met Leigh Anne.

One of the reasons I find this section of the story especially fascinating is that their relationship reminds me a great deal of the one I share with my own collision, aka my husband Michael.  In our world, however, he’s more like Leigh Anne, while I’m the one sometimes just trying to hold on!

When friends ask me how I’ve managed to forge such a happy marriage for twenty-eight years, I joke that it’s because I don’t have a huge need to be in charge.  But the real answer is more difficult to articulate.  How do you explain harmony? For whatever reason, we have it, even though we’re very different.  I’m a slow talker and more roundabout; she’s quick-firing, easy to rile, and very assertive.  My way of doing things takes three weeks; hers takes three minutes.  We’re both achievers – we just go about it differently.  So who is right?  I don’t think either of us cares, which is probably one reason we don’t have many arguments.  What matters most is that we complement each other.  And, on the important things, we understand each other perfectly.

Over the years, our differences have tended to be sources of interest, not conflict. – Sean Tuohy, In a Heartbeat, pages 56-57

Read more about In a Heartbeat: Sharing the Power of Cheerful Giving by clicking the link.

The Ultimate Book on Preventing Heart Disease

8 Foods, 8 Weeks to Reverse Heart Disease

by joi

in Book Reviews, Books I Love, Fitness, Health

Prevent a Second Heart Attack: 8 Foods, 8 Weeks to Reverse Heart Disease

You don’t have to be heart disease’s most recent victim to need Prevent a Second Heart Attack: 8 Foods, 8 Weeks to Reverse Heart Disease, you simply have to refuse to be its next.

February has been a blissfully busy month.  My wedding anniversary is this month – and, of course, Valentine’s Day also lands in the month of February.  If you’re like our family, you celebrate all holidays in a big way.  I decorate like crazy, bake special treats, and (of course) buy special things for all of my valentines.

Another wonderful thing about this particular February is the number of OUTSTANDING books I’ve been sent to review.  I’ve hit the jackpot this month – not only on this particular self help blog, but on my food blog as well (exceptional cookbooks).

One of the exciting books I’ve read for Self Help Daily is one that could actually be reviewed on the food blog or the self help site.   In fact, I’ll definitely be mentioning it to my friends over at Get Cooking.

Prevent a Second Heart Attack: 8 Foods, 8 Weeks to Reverse Heart Disease by Janet Bond Brill is one of those books you just can’t put down.  The information is spectacular, the advice golden, and the reading style flows effortlessly.  The beauty of this book is that it takes information we’ve always heard and puts it within reach. The author doesn’t just tell the reader what he or she should do for better heart health, she tells us WHY it’s important and explains it in such a way that multiple light bulbs go off.

Talk about lighting the way!

Each year, roughly 1.5 million Americans have a heart attack. How staggering is that?  Is it any wonder that so many people are seeking for heart health information?  Heart disease currently has the upper hand. Something has to be done to get this ridiculous disease under control, not only for our generation but for our children and their children.

Can we afford to let the number actually climb?

Prevent a Second Heart Attack: 8 Foods, 8 Weeks to Reverse Heart Disease is written in a step by step style that I love. Each step and each tip is clearly laid out for the reader.  The author makes such  an impact on you that you find yourself motivated to take better care of your heart in all facets of your life.

I have never had a heart attack or heart disease.  In fact, even my blood pressure and cholesterol are totally normal. However, if you’ve read Self Help Daily for any length of time, you know that I lost my mother nearly five years ago to heart disease. She was far, far too young to die and I am still far too young to not have a mom.

Heart disease doesn’t really care about details or emotions though. It’s cruel like that.

Even though I don’t have a personal history with heart disease, I have a personal grudge – and I’ll admit it, a personal fear.  Whether you’ve been touched in any way by heart disease or not, you’ll want to read Extreme Thought Makeover: 37 Days to Maximum Life.

As I said earlier, the book will affect your daily choices – I PROMISE you. Whether your own choices need to be cleaned up or those of a loved one have you concerned, this book may be the answer you’re looking for.  Personally, I believe it is.

Here’s why I feel so strongly.  Janet Bond Brill‘s research, statistics, and life-saving advice won’t just educate you, they’ll change the way you think.

Here’s a personal example. My typical weekday pretty much plays out like this:

After feeding all of my loved ones (the ones with skin, the ones with fur, and the ones with feathers), and pouring myself into a couple cups of coffee, I step into my home office and work online for a few hours.  I take a mid-morning break to clean house – then it’s back to work.  Around lunch, I go down the road to Kroger for any groceries I need for supper.  In the past, I’d often just grab a burger, hot dog, chicken sandwich, or taco through a drive thru. I’d bring it home and eat my “treasure” while my inside cat (Alexa) napped nearby.

Then, it’d be back to work again.

However, yesterday, armed with the information from this particular book, I found myself completely turned off by the fast food prospects.  I imagined what this food did inside my body once I granted it entrance. Instead, what I wanted… craved even… were dark greens, tomatoes, and steamed fish.  With a clear purpose in mind, I went into Kroger and hit the produce department hard.  Grapes, tomatoes, spinach, dark leaf lettuce, avocados, celery, and almonds.

I also bought a package of frozen tilapia to steam.

I came home and made the most beautiful salad you’ve ever seen and steamed the fish.  I seasoned it up and had the best lunch I’ve had in a long time.

The book even affected my salad dressing selection.  When I read the ingredients in my favorite dressings in the refrigerator (French and Ranch), I opted for a mixture of fresh lemon and lime juice and some cracked black pepper.

Outstanding!

I finished my work online and made a point of taking a walk outside before making supper (salmon, squash, brown rice with almonds, and roasted asparagus).

In Prevent a Second Heart Attack, you’ll learn…

  • The secret of the “numbers games” (cholesterol, blood pressure…). You’ll learn exactly why so much attention is paid to cholesterol and what you need to know to keep your cholesterol from becoming a problem.
  • The difference between good carbs and bad carbs.
  • Why oatmeal and popcorn lower bad cholesterol.
  • Why everyone should adhere to the Mediterranean diet.
  • Why fish is vital to heart health.
  • The best exercise for a healthy heart.
  • The most delicious everyday habit that’ll cut your risk of heart disease.
  • A wonderful, very do-able two week eating plan.
  • How to protect your cardiovascular health like never before!

A really special book will “stay” with you after you’ve read the last page.  It’ll impact your decisions and change your life for the better.  This is such a book and I strongly urge you to read it.  What’s more, I hope you’ll read it, then pass it on to other members of your family.  Explain to each that you don’t have to be a surviving victim of heart disease to benefit from this book – you just have to be someone who refuses to be its next victim.

Q & A with Janet Bond Brill, Ph.D. R.D., LDN

Author of Prevent a Second Heart Attack: 8 Foods, 8 Weeks to Reverse Heart Disease

Q: Why did you write the book Prevent a Second Heart Attack?

A: I saw a need among heart attack survivors that was not being filled. Currently, more than 13 million Americans have either survived a heart attack or been diagnosed with heart disease. As a registered dietitian specializing in cardiovascular disease prevention, I have found that heart attack survivors simply are not following a lifestyle plan that would help them to prevent a second attack. What many of these “survivors” need to know is that a healthy lifestyle and carefully following doctor’s orders can prevent another heart attack. The problem is that many of these individuals find the “cardiac diet” too restrictive or complicated, and some receive no lifestyle counseling. What’s more, if the heart attack survivor decides to go it alone and purchase a self-help book, he or she may reach for one of the best-selling heart disease reversal books that promote a punishing, “extreme” fringe diet. Most of these books feature Spartan, vegan-style eating plans that are simply too difficult to follow and frankly are just not livable. Why should heart attack survivors be punished further with the burden of tasteless, low-fat plans when there is a better way? My book gives these people good news – - that they can prevent new plaque buildup and even reverse or stabilize dangerous, vulnerable plaque in their coronary arteries with a delightfully palatable lifestyle strategy where they can still enjoy the good things in life.

Q: But what exactly are the best lifestyle changes – - alongside drugs – - for preventing a second heart attack and even reversing heart disease?

A: That is the very question this book answers. A tremendous amount of scientific research has investigated the application of various diet and exercise plans in preventing further coronary events. I have found that the bulk of the scientific evidence overwhelmingly supports the notion that post–heart attack patients should be advised to eat a Mediterranean-style diet, be physically active at least thirty minutes a day, and not smoke. In fact, the famed Lyon Heart Study that tested a Cretan Mediterranean diet in cardiac patients reported a phenomenal reduction of recurrence rate of 70 percent compared to the control diet (a typical low-fat Western-style diet). Thus, the bulk of the scientific research is crystal clear: a Mediterranean style of eating combined with physical activity is the optimal lifestyle plan for preventing a second heart attack and is far superior to the low-fat vegetarian diet regimens typically prescribed to heart patients in the fat-phobic ’90s (and that continue to line bookstore shelves today). I propose that a Mediterranean-style diet, as outlined in Prevent a Second Heart Attack and backed by powerful evidence, can be even more effective than the eating plans currently recommended by many cardiologists – - simply because it tastes good and makes life more enjoyable. Following vegan-style plans can also reverse heart disease but only if adhered to – - an extremely difficult chore for most Americans.

Q: Did you have a personal reason for writing this book?

A: All the men I love have either died of heart disease or are currently living with the disease. My father had his first heart attack at age forty-five and died from his second attack several years later. He was never given any lifestyle advice that could have helped him prevent or reverse his disease. My father-in-law, Harry, had his first heart attack at forty-eight years old and had his second bypass operation two years ago at age seventy-eight. He has tried many of the low-fat vegetarian diets over the years but has found them too difficult to adhere to on a consistent basis. My husband, Sam, had his first heart attack two years ago at age fifty-one. So I wrote this book with the hope that Sam, Harry, and the 13 million other American heart attack survivors will follow the advice set forth in these pages: a livable lifestyle that will show them the way to a long, happy, and healthy life by teaching them how to prevent that second lethal attack and even reverse the actual disease process.

Q: Hindsight is 20/20, but is there anything you would have suggested your husband, Sam, do to prevent his first heart attack?

A: Looking back, I would say I underestimated the power of three risk factors to promote a heart attack: severe emotional duress, family history, and a low HDL (“good”) cholesterol. Fearful that he would follow in his father’s and grandfather’s footsteps (his grandfather died of a heart attack at age thirty-five), Sam underwent an invasive medical test (an angiogram) at age forty-five to reassure him that he was free of his family scourge. The results came back negative for any trace of cardiovascular disease. His blood values were excellent except for a low HDL value of 32 (under 40 mg/dL is considered a risk factor). He didn’t smoke, had normal blood pressure, and was not overweight. He continued under the care of his cardiologist – - and had passed his exercise stress tests with flying colors. Then came the economic tsunami that hit the Florida real estate market (my husband is a general contractor) . . . combined with the stress of his father’s second bypass operation . . . and he had a heart attack on July 31, 2009 – - and thankfully survived with minor heart muscle damage. So obviously, looking back, he should have been taking much more aggressive preventive measures given his family history – - such as medications, HDL-boosting lifestyle measures, and practicing more stress management techniques.

Q: Is heart disease really reversible?

A: Yes. Studies published in leading medical journals have shown that following a lifestyle similar to the one outlined in my book – - and combined with physician-prescribed medications – - can stabilize and even reverse vulnerable plaque.

Q: Can I eat red meat?

A: The Prevent a Second Heart Attack plan consists of removing the plaque- building foods (red meat, cream, butter, eggs, and cheese) that cause blood vessel damage and replacing them with delicious anti-inflammatory foods that facilitate the body’s natural healing processes to reverse existing heart disease and restore quality of life. To combat the confusion issue, the Prevent a Second Heart Attack Plan offers powerful lifesaving advice, translating the complex clinical findings into a simple, easy-to-follow set of guidelines, “The Eight Dietary Commandments”: (1) no more butter and cream, to be replaced by extra virgin olive oil; (2) no day without greens and other vegetables; (3) no day without figs or other fruit; (4 & 5) no meat (beef, lamb, pork), and replaced by fish and legumes; (6) no day without walnuts and flaxseeds; (7) no day without whole grains and cereals; (8) and moderate alcohol consumption, mainly in the form of red wine, recommended at dinner. (Plus a bonus food – - deep, dark, sinfully rich chocolate!)

Q: What is the best exercise for my heart?

A: The scientific consensus is that walking is the best exercise prescription for fighting off heart disease. How much, how often, and how fast (plus a discussion of the latest scientific research on exercise for heart disease) is detailed in the chapter on exercise. The best medicine for healing the arteries and reversing heart disease is moderate exercise, and the best exercise for you is the one you will do on a daily basis!

Q: What makes your plan so different and easier to follow than some of the other heart disease reversal plans on the market?

A: Many of the best-selling plans advise avoiding fish; any and all kinds of oil; avocado; nuts; seeds, and chocolate–delightfully tasty foods–all advocated in my plan.

Q: Can I really begin to heal my arteries in just 8 weeks?

A: Clinical research has shown a significant reduction in the rate of secondary events in post-heart attack subjects switching to a Mediterranean-style diet–in as little as 6 weeks.

Q: What about protein–where do I get my protein from?

A: The Prevent a Second heart Attack plan urges you to become a “vegaquarium.” By getting your protein from the earth and the sea, you will also be fueling your body with numerous additional nutrients that fortify your daily heart disease defense system–artery healing components not found in a Western-style diet high in animal protein.

Q: Can I drink coffee and tea?

A: The Prevent a Second heart Attack plan is a plant-based diet. Both coffee and tea are made from plants–and plants contain plaque-fighting phytonutrients. So yes, you can have coffee and tea.

Q: What about supplements?

A: Not all supplements are created equally when it comes to treating and reversing plaque buildup. Three stand out among the crowd and should be in every heart attack survivor’s medicine chest: Niacin; Vitamin D3; Fish oil.

Author Bio
Janet Bond Brill, Ph.D., R.D., LDN, author of Prevent a Second Heart Attack: 8 Foods, 8 Weeks to Reverse Heart Disease, is a diet, nutrition, and fitness expert who has appeared on national television. She is the author of Cholesterol Down: 10 Simple Steps to Lower Your Cholesterol In 4 Weeks Without Prescription Drugs, and specializes in cardiovascular disease prevention. Dr. Brill lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and three children.

Refuse to be heart disease’s next victim. Whether you’ve had a heart attack before or not, this is a very, very, very important book and one you should buy, read cover to cover, and incorporate into your life. If you have a history of heart disease in your family, you have even more incentive to invite author Janet Bond Brill into your life. Please buy a copy for yourself and, certainly, one for anyone in your life who has been touched by heart disease: Prevent a Second Heart Attack: 8 Foods, 8 Weeks to Reverse Heart Disease

Every now and then (insert a light year between the now and then) a book comes along that’s so IMPORTANT the book reviewer is left searching for words like Gollum searched for his preciousssss.

It’s my fervent hope that as I lie in the floor of our home office writing these words I don’t physically resemble Gollum. I do, however, feel his pain.

Precioussss words, where are you????

Like so many people, my heart positively breaks for victims of bullies and bullying. No one should have their quality or enjoyment of life compromised by another person. Ironically, more times than not, the bully doesn’t have much quality or enjoyment in their own life – if they did, they’d find a more worthy title for themselves than “bully.” Be that as it may, they don’t have the right to impose their nastiness on others.

A very brilliant and timely book, The Skinny on Bullying: The Legend of Gretchen has been written by Mike Cassidy. I was lucky enough to receive a copy and it’s the very book that put me in kinship with Mr. Gollum (from the Lord of the Rings fame).

From the Back Cover:

The Skinny on Bullying is the story of two popular 5th graders at Stickville Elementary School named Beth and Billy. After a fun filled summer, the time has come to start 6th grade at Stickville Middle School. Once school starts, Beth and Billy soon realize they aren’t as popular as they used to be. They experience bullying. With the help of teachers, adults and friends they devise strategies to put a stop to bullying and grow up a bit in the process.

Like all of the books in “The Skinny On” line, The Skinny on Bullying: The Legend of Gretchen is exceptional.  The story flows in a very powerful and entertaining, yet easy to read format. People of all ages would enjoy this book but I’m particularly eager to see as many young people get their hands on The Skinny on Bullying as possible.

The Skinny on Bullying will teach you to:

  • Identify forms of bullying
  • Know when you are being bullied
  • Protect yourself from cyberbullying
  • Walk the halls without fear
  • Enjoy recess and lunch
  • Help a friend being bullied
  • Talk to an adult about bullying
  • Avoid conflicts with bullies

About the Author

Mike Cassidy is a writer and social media expert who grew up in the Connecticut suburbs outside New York City. Mike is a 2006 graduate of Villanova University with a degree in Communications.

Anyone who is interested in helping bring an end to bullying (online or off), should consider this as more than a book. The Skinny on Bullying: The Legend of Gretchen is what we’ve all been looking for and waiting for – a book that clearly shows young people what they need to do to avoid becoming victims or, for that matter, bullies.

I strongly urge all parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, teachers, and principals to put a copy of The Skinny on Bullying: The Legend of Gretchen in the hands of every young person in your life.  The book is presented in a very delightful comic book-type format with lovable, funny characters that kids of any age would love reading about.  I can see a teenager enjoying this book as easily as a fifth grader.

The Skinny on Bullying lays out for the reader the four main types of bullying:

  1. Physical – Intentionally hurting someone with force
  2. Verbal – Using words to hurt others
  3. Indirect – When you hurt someone behind their back, not to their face
  4. Cyberbullying – Bullying that occurs online or electronically

Each of the types of bullying is dealt with beautifully – with examples as well as ways to avoid bullies and how to handle them if complete avoidance proves impossible.

We honestly have to get a handle on this situation right now and, as is the case with all situations, educating everyone is the first step.  How can we expect the problem to go away if we don’t meet it head on? Our young people must be educated and this book is the ideal opportunity to make this happen.

I’d especially love to see someone, in a position to do so, make this book required reading in all public and private schools. If teachers would read it with their students, then discuss it in class – I know we’d have what we’re all looking for.

A happy ending.

Please click HERE today to order a copy for the young people in your life.