“Often we change jobs, friends, and spouses instead of ourselves.” -Akbarali H. Jetha
I guess it’s easier to change things around us than it is to change ourselves. Of course, going about it this way only means the cycle will repeat itself.
It reminds me of people who are always looking for THINGS to make them happy. They’ll buy new clothes, furniture, or even cars…looking for a lasting fix. Unfortunately these types of material fixes are simply sugar highs – the sort that’ll wear off soon enough, right before the crash.
Or the people who think “the magical answer” lies in a new state. “I’m not happy. It must be because I live in ???????? If I move to !!!!!!!, I’ll be happy!” More likely than not, the problems they have in ???????? will follow them to !!!!!!! – the weather will just be nicer.
I actually heard something in the parking lot yesterday while leaving my favorite grocery store. It was early but already pretty darned hot. The man rounding up carts was complaining about the heat to a woman, fanning herself with a circular. He said he’d heard it was going to reach the late 80′s by noon and she said, “I know, I can’t stand summer. I’m trying to talk my husband into moving to Florida.” The worker, his carts, me, my bags – we all froze in place. None of us were aware Florida didn’t have summers. I even lived there before. I’m almost certain they had warm weather.
In her haste to pull out a solution, she nearly won my Most Bizarre Statement of the Month award. Unfortunately for her, I’ve read some Britney Spears’ quotes lately – so she’s retaining a title she has a choke hold on.
We should start looking inward more than outward for our solutions. All of the answers to all of life’s questions lie inside of us – not outside of us.