There are many great lessons that can be gleaned from the pages of self-help books. Whether it’s quick life hack tips, new ways of thinking and behaving, or deeper analysis, it’s all there for people who are willing to take the time to look.
At other times, it’s useful to know when you need to ask for a little help. Sometimes, being strong means asking for help. We cannot be great at everything, so seeking assistance when we need it is smart too.
Here are a few smart ideas from the pages of self-help to think about.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
The text contained within the epic series of Don’t Sweat books from Richard Carlson speaks often about not worrying about the small stuff because (mostly) it’s all small stuff. The ideas reflect the reality that we worry far more than we need to about negative minor details of our lives that probably won’t come to pass anyway.
The books continue to provide a respite from the sometimes negative press, and although they are small, they are packed with uplifting messages and encouragement to help you live a happier life. Where focusing on life, relationships or other specific areas, the author (and often his wife too) wrote about life’s realities while publishing their own form of emotional therapy.
Build Assets Using Liabilities
While the Rich Dad Poor Dad book by Robert T. Kiyosaki gets the acclaim, it’s actually the Cashflow Quadrant, his second book, that lays out the principles of wealth generation more clearly. The ideas developed in the book focus around the idea of building assets that pay you money and not liabilities that drain money from your pocket every month. A controversial second point claims that your home is not an asset because it cost you money to own it rather than paying you. Not everyone agrees with this viewpoint because owning your home avoids the need to pay out for rent, and money otherwise paid to rent can then be diverted into creating assets. Either way, decades after their first printing, the books continue to sell well.
The Teachings of Tony Robbins
One idea shared by Tony Robbins is the idea of the pressure cooker. For someone seemingly caught in a loop where they keep repeating the same mistakes over and over, this process was referred to as the Pressure Cooker Effect.
The idea behind it is that you may have a tendency to wait until the pressure of inaction becomes so great that it demands action to reduce the pressure. Once in motion, a person stuck in the pressure cooker effect would do enough to resolve the issue partly or completely. This would resolve any related issue and reduce the pressure felt. Once achieved, the afflicted person would then return to their sedentary existence. Only when the pressure mounts again will they kick into gear to take away the pressure once more.
The way to get through this loop is to maintain a focus on your motivation for taking action, to establish better boundaries, and clearly understand your “why.”
Seeking Assistance from Care Givers
As well as learning from the teachings of others, it’s smart to know when you need some physical help from a caregiver. Visiting Angels is an innovative alternative to home health agencies in Springfield Missouri which has a focus on social caring, end of life, Alzheimer’s and dementia care. Care givers allow independent senior citizens to maintain their life while complementing that by providing help where needed.
At the end of the day, self-help is mostly about self-love. If you don’t like or love yourself, how can you be a happy person? Confidence and self-belief are the cornerstones of a life free of major doubts and anxieties. Perhaps we may never attain a stress-free life, but learning and getting support when needed are good steps towards such a goal.