A Great Quote About Life
Sometimes we become so focused on the finish line, that we fail to find joy in the journey. – Unknown
More quotes about life.
Sometimes we become so focused on the finish line, that we fail to find joy in the journey. – Unknown
More quotes about life.
Picture it. A documentary is coming on the television set. The music sets a dramatic tone. The narrator (let’s give him a British accent for effect) announces that a new tribe of people has been discovered in (surprisingly) a part of the world that isn’t even remotely remote. You lean in close, wondering how a new race of people could have hidden all these years, undetected. You watch, expecting them to be draped in animal skins, living in caves, speaking in grunts, and sporting, possibly, nose rings.
You admit to yourself that maybe you watch too much National Geographic.
As you wait, literally on the edge of your couch, for the big reveal, the camera zeroes in on the new breed.
It’s us. As images of social media, pictures on Facebook and Instagram, infidelity statistics, divorce rates, and so on flash across the screen, the narrator pauses dramatically then announces the name of the new breed: the Self Absorbed.
Kidding aside, I just have to ask, what is with people these days? Why are so many individuals as self absorbed as high-end paper towels? When I was in high school, the ancestors of the self absorbed were called “self centered.” But the generation they gave way to has far surpassed their efforts.
Odds are you know at least one person (the odds are greater that you know quite a few) who is self absorbed. Heck you may even be showing signs of heading that way yourself. If that’s the case, take heart. Maybe this article was meant for YOU and will prove as a life boat to keep you from drowning in a sea of YOU.
When something happens gradually, it becomes our NORMAL. What we accept as the norm today would have mortified us 20 years ago. As a comparatively small example, think about the commercials you see on TV today. If you could transport yourself back 20 or even 10 years ago, can you imagine your reaction if you saw some of this crap come on? Something my husband used to do, when our girls were younger was probably the best way of handling idiot commercials I’ve ever seen. He’d always have a “back up” channel in place during the show we were watching (especially during sporting events, where commercials really show their immaturity). He’d flip over to the “back up channel” (usually the Golf Channel or the Weather Channel) as soon as the commercials tried to throw themselves into our living room.
Since he didn’t want three young girls exposed to stupidity and flirtations with porn, he’d simply opt out. He was a dad who didn’t want to let what was becoming “norm” to the rest of the world to become the “norm” for his family.
Unfortunately, the commercials – gradually – have become even worse.
Isn’t that how most things happen? Slowly. Gradually. Then you sit there one evening while a commercial plays out that leaves your jaw on the floor as you ask, “America… what happened?!”
Like commercials (and magazines, movies, television, music…), the road to self absorption for so many people has happened gradually. They didn’t set out to become narcissists. But unfortunately, they didn’t set out NOT to become narcissists either.
[nahr-suh-sist] noun1. a person who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish.2. Psychoanalysis . a person who suffers from narcissism, deriving erotic gratification from admiration of his or her own physical or mental attributes.
In a nutshell, the self absorbed makes every single moment, every single situation, and every single experience about them. What matters most isn’t who they are with, the beauty around them, the moment they’re in, or what they can do for anyone else.
What matters most to them is… well… them.
A few questions that’ll help classify a self absorbed person:
Before you start to think I hate self absorbed or self centered people – I do not. I don’t hate anyone. In fact, I feel sorry for them because if you limit your world to YOU, you’re missing out on so, SO much. If you make every situation, every day, every holiday, every moment all about you, you’re missing out on everyone around you. What’s more, you’re creating a void between you and everyone else. If your life is all about you 24/7, make no mistake about it, you’ll end up pushing everyone away and you will be left with your one true obsession.. yourself. How lonely does that sound?
As I said earlier, sometimes things happen slowly over time. Many self absorbed people slowly transition into being that way because of a health scare or other dramatic event in their lives. A loss of a very close loved one makes some people become very self absorbed.
Over my lifetime, I’ve seen a lot of people become very self absorbed because of a health issue or because of aging. They become, literally, obsessed and preoccupied with the person they see in the mirror. They’re every conversation and thought is channeled in that direction.
To me, that’s not LIVING, that’s simply TRYING NOT TO DIE.
There’s a big difference. But, again, things happen slowly over time. The same person who would have been mortified by the idea 10 years ago is, today, discussing bodily functions with the hostess at Cracker Barrel and medications with a stranger in Target. Just because someone politely asks, “How are you doing?” doesn’t mean they want your medical history.
When you read interviews with people who have celebrated their 100th birthday, they look back over a life of living. They don’t look back over a life of trying not to die.
I think we have to cut our young people a little bit of slack, too. Young girls and boys, today, have grown up with Facebook, Instagram, constantly taking selfies (pictures taken by oneself of oneself), reality TV, and with the mindset of “By gosh, it IS all about me!” Sadly, it’s their norm.
And our future is in their hands.
Are you scared now?
I am a positive person – very positive, in fact. However, even I am driven to say that the self absorbed breed could just be our downfall. Think about some of the problems we face.
If you had an uneasy, “Uh oh” moment when you read the words “self absorbed” and saw a bit of yourself in the descriptions, you’re lucky. You’re probably cured already. Sometimes all it takes is a wake up call. It’s kind of like taking a good look in the mirror before going out for dinner and a movie and seeing that your hair’s standing straight up. It’s not a pretty sight, but thanks be to God you saw it before anyone else!
Personally, I think there’s hope for even the most self absorbed people. If not… at least they provide the rest of us with a little free entertainment. Just be sure you don’t buy into what they’re selling – it really isn’t any way to live.
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This is another one of the excellent “The Complete Idiot’s Guides” that I was sent to review. I love these books so much, I have an entire book shelf that’s orange. I pass them around for others to enjoy, then they come home to roost on the shelf. I pluck them off regularly to find information or recipes.
Seriously, you should begin your own collection of these outstanding books.
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Some of the chapters include:
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Each time I read a Complete Idiot’s Guide, I think, “Why didn’t all those school books I read over the years use THESE authors and THIS approach?!”
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“Expect problems and eat them for breakfast” - Alfred Montapert
In addition to one of my favorite photo ops (love it when my food’s in good spirits), you’re looking at one of my favorite quotes of all time.
Simple. Basic. Understated. Golden.
Easiest way to set yourself up for a mad case of the blues? Expect life to always be in as good a mood as my bacon and eggs were.
People who are completely thrown off their axis by traffic, bad drivers, long lines, and high grocery prices kind of amuse me. Seriously, man. That’s life. I’m not sure why we seem to think we should be immune to any sort of inconveniences, but it seems to me that people’s fuses are getting shorter and shorter.
I have absolutely no idea what we could contribute this to. Some people say it’s because people aren’t “conditioned” to be patient any longer. I guess you could make a case for this theory – we are kind of a drive thru and microwave society, aren’t we? Give it to me NOW! I have no intention of waiting or being inconvenienced!
The sooner we realize that life doesn’t OWE us anything, whether it’s a carefree day or a new dining room table, the sooner we’ll be at peace.
EXPECT problems… because they are going to come, but instead of letting them eat away at you, plate them and eat them before they even see the fork coming.
Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. – Miguel Angel Ruiz
How could I have gone through my entire life of being full on obsessed with inspirational quotes and not come across the one above before?
I even collect quotes!
This wonderful quotation is a perfect reminder to take everything others say or do with a grain of salt. NEVER let others define you or direct your world. There are people in the world who delight in trying to do both.
Live your life on your own terms, be the best you that you can be (as defined by YOU, not someone else), and never look in someone else’s mirror to see your own reflection.
As you know, I often tell you to write certain quotes down. This time I’m ordering you to! This one’s a life changer.
A few days ago, I found myself thinking long and hard about baseball. Something, admittedly, I do a lot. That’s one of the things that you should know about me… I’m completely obsessed with baseball. For me, there are two seasons: Baseball Season and Withdrawal Season. We’re in the latter, but that doesn’t mean I don’t still think about it. I guess you could say I’m a “student of the game.” Not because I ever play baseball, or even have a desire to do so. I grew up playing softball (every year from the age of 8 to 18), but I don’t even feel the call to play softball – let alone baseball.
A fact my knees (and feet, back, arms…) are grateful for.
I love to dissect aspects of the game of baseball. The pitchers, hitters, stats, ball fields, match-ups, etc. To give you an idea of how eaten up I am with baseball, the other day I heard an announcer on the radio mention a particular team and my mind immediately pulled up the following information:
I am, for better or worse, just as big a student of the game of life. A philosopher without the degree, prestige, and title. I believe that’s one of the reasons I was drawn to writing in the first place. It provides a release for all the thoughts, analogies, and conclusions my mind creates. If they all stayed inside my brain, there wouldn’t be any room for anything else.
One of the thoughts bouncing around recently was this: There are two kinds of people in the world. There are the kind who say, “Look at everything I’ve BEEN through!” and there are those who say, “Look at what I SURVIVED!”
This occurred to me when I heard a woman ranting about 2012. She literally said the words, “God PUT me through….“ and as the words came out of her mouth, I thought, “You’re looking at it all wrong. Say, God BROUGHT me through…”
Sometimes just one word makes all the difference!
Our thoughts, attitude, and even our words create the story of our lives. We’re the author of our life’s novel and, personally, I’ve always wondered why anyone would want to portray themselves as the victim. Isn’t it much cooler to be the hero?
Words and thoughts like the following cast yourself in the victim’s role:
Not only do they make you the victim, the words themselves scream, “I’m weak!”
Words and thoughts like the following cast yourself in the role of the hero/heroine:
I’m reminded of one of my daughters, Brittany, when she was around 7 or 8. She was in the yard playing with her sisters and a couple of their friends. I was working in one of my flower beds and, like all over-protective mothers, I had two eyes on my kids and two eyes on the flowers. Only mothers are equipped with these magical extra eyes.
Brittany – who has always known one speed, TOP speed – fell while running. Smack right on the patio. Before I could even get up to see about her, she was back on her feet and running. She shot me a look that said, “THAT never happened.” I stayed put and went with her version of the story.
Basically, she fell and – in one motion – got back up again. I guess it’s odd that this scene from life has stuck with me all these years but I just thought it was cool. Make no mistake about it, the fall hurt. Both knees were scrapped and one hand was scuffed up. However, acknowledging the fall would have meant that, unlike the other girls, she slipped.
“THAT never happened.”
If there’d been such a thing as “Pictures with Captions” back then, I’d have labeled her reaction, “Life, you hit like a girl!”
The next time you find yourself heaving deep sighs or rolling in complaints – and long before you pick up your violin – ask yourself if you want to be the helpless victim or the conquering hero/heroine.
Let’s face it, one’s infinitely more attractive.
Normally, I have a real fascination with irony. Normally, there are few things that amuse me more than a deliciously ironic situation or occurrence. I say normally because irony recently smacked me on the backside.
Without my consent.
As you may know, last month I decided to take part in a National Health Blogger’s Challenge. Each day the blogger was to take the day’s “prompt” and write about something pertaining to health. I was off to a smashing success and was having a lot of fun with the process. I was doing a lot of research about health-related topics, learning a lot of fascinating things, and generally having a great time with the entire process.
Then… what would irony dictate in such a situation? Exactly. I got sick. Smack to the backside.
I won’t bore you with long details. Long story, short – I had my thyroid removed in 1990 and, since that day, have had to take a daily supplement (a supplement to give my body what my non-existent thyroid cannot). My daily medicine recently turned on me – giving me more than my body required. This threw just about everything in my body off kilter and ultimately led to low iron and a host of other less-than-fun side effects.
For a few months, I haven’t felt totally like myself. But you know how we wives and mothers are – the same things that would alarm us about our children and husbands.. we tend to overlook in ourselves.
When I realized that I had “enjoyed” recurring mouth ulcers for two months straight, I broke down and went to the doctor. I would often have two HUGE mouth sores at once. These weren’t your normal mouth ulcers, either. I’ve had those before and, while they’re bad enough, these beasts were far worse. Once, I even got one on my tongue that looked like a small crater. That dude hurt so bad, this non-drinker would have gotten snookered if it would have made me forget the pain for even 10 minutes. Each time, in the middle of the night, as I sat on the bathroom counter putting Orajel on these sores, I’d think, “If I had access to hard liquor I’d drink until I thought I could fly.
They were that bad.
Of course, since I have never drunk anything stronger than espresso, I’d probably think I could fly as soon as I opened the bottle.
Every meal hurt to eat, coffee hurt to drink, and life kind of sucked for a while. I’d wake up in the middle of the night in hideous pain because my mouth would have dried out while sleeping and the sores would feel like salt had been poured into them.
Salt was actually one of the countless “home remedies” I tried – a particularly painful one.
In addition to the personal hell the mouth sores caused, I also had zero energy and – to use a highly technical phrase my daughters and I use when we don’t feel right - simply felt “poopy” all day and all night. I’d fall asleep at night right in the middle of favorite prime time television shows. During the day, when I normally go back and forth between working in my home office and doing my regular housekeeping chores, I found myself not giving a dang about any of it. I normally go ALL OUT with Christmas decorations, but it was all I could do just to put the tree up this year. And, believe me, that was a day long production. Put a few limbs on… sit and play solitaire on my iPad… put a few decorations on…. lie down and recover.
I wasn’t ME and I wasn’t at all fond of the person impersonating me. After all, I’m seldom ever still and this imposter seldom ever moved!
And all of this went down right in the middle of writing about health topics like how important it is to see a doctor regularly, how vital it is to take care of yourself, etc.
Smack. Right on the butt.
Ultimately, it was the mouth sores that led me and my hard head to the doctor. Nothing like constant pain to break your will, is there?
The doctor was SO impressed with the size of the mouth sore I had at that time. I told him I was kind of lucky at that moment because I only had one. While he was admiring the size, I told him that it was the second largest one I’d experienced – that I’d had another one the size of Danny DeVito. He laughed and said he wished he’d seen that one.
I thought, “Me too.” Then I probably wouldn’t have had the 3 that followed.
As my body and health begin to get back to normal, I’m realizing how puny I actually felt. How could I not have seen that something was wrong?!
That’s a question most of us ask in these situations, isn’t it? We swear up and down that things “crept up on us” when the truth is, we knew it all along. We just looked the other way.
Ladies, I honestly believe we are the worst about this. It occurred to me when I was sitting in the doctor’s office – if one of my daughters or my husband had been experiencing painful mouth sores like I had, I would have dragged them kicking and screaming to the nearest doctor. I’d have thought, “Something is wrong, here. This isn’t remotely normal.”
Yet, here I was the one going through it and I had a million reasons why I didn’t need to see the doctor. Duh.
This would be a good time, in all fairness to my family, to point out that they had no idea I was going through all of this. If they had, they would have become impossible nags! All they really knew was I’d had a few mouth sores. They never saw how big they were and I did a great job of hiding the fatigue and weakness from them. Everyone always has a lot going on in their lives and I didn’t want anyone worrying about me. Besides, I fully expected to start feeling like my old self any time. After all….
In addition to my Self Help Daily, a food blog, and a cat blog, I have 9 other websites/blogs which happen to include a a Dream Interpretation Website. Your’s truly is a dreamologist. Nothing crazy like “You had a dream about snakes.. so you will be visited by bad luck…” That’s nonsense. What I do is “read” dreams – by “listening” to the dream symbols, the dreamer’s emotions during the dream, and other seemingly hidden details. I can tell what’s behind the dream, as in what’s hidden in the subconscious mind.
Either way, my mistake could have led to real trouble. That’s why I’m writing all of this for you – on the off-hand chance there are other hard heads out there besides me.
If you find yourself EVER thinking, “I’m just not myself lately..” realize there is a reason for it. Never allow this situation to continue for any amount of time. After all, there are a lot of conditions that if (caught and treated early) won’t amount to anything, but if you ignore them, they can lead to something downright hideous.
In fact, because I let myself get so run down, I became an open invitation to a nasty bug that was going around. I never, never get sick, but here I was – mouth sores, runny nose, bad cough, and the worst sore throat I’ve ever had in my life. It felt like I’d been gargling glass.
If I had gone to the doctor as soon as I realized I wasn’t myself, I’d have spared myself a lot of grief and pain. It’s my hope that you’ll learn from my mistake and will always go to the doctor at the first sign of trouble.
Even if you find yourself feeling more tired than normal, don’t keep writing it off as something else. What’s the worst thing that can happen? The doctor’s going to tell you your healthy?! If that were to happen – and I hope you’d swing by Starbucks to celebrate your good health – you still got information you can use. If you get a clean bill of health, then you know that your lifestyle has to be held accountable. You aren’t getting enough rest, you need more nutrients, protein, and vitamins from food, or you’re running yourself ragged.
The trip to the doctor would have pointed you in the right direction.
Unfortunately, most of us try to weed out all of the things in our lifestyle, THEN go to the doctor. The problem is, by then, we’ll just be more run down and if there IS a medical problem, it will have only gotten worse during that time.
Never take your health for granted. When it has been compromised, even slightly, you realize what a blessing good health is. Life is too delicious to spend one minute of it feeling less than your best.
Listen to your body. If it begins behaving in a way that’s alien to you, don’t make excuses, make an appointment.
You probably, at this moment, have a preconceived opinion about hypnosis, self-hypnosis, and subliminal thought. You may be rolling your eyes, wondering if you’ll even read the next paragraph or you may be leaning in, anxiously waiting to learn more about a subject that already fascinates you. More likely than not, you’re somewhere in between these two extremes.
To be perfectly honest, that’s where I was before I read Self-Hypnosis And Subliminal Technology: A How-to Guide for Personal-Empowerment Tools You Can Use Anywhere!. I was in between the two extremes, but (shhh, don’t tell the author) I was closer to the eye roller than the leaner.
Then, as fate would have it, I read a little book that made a huge impact.
Self-hypnosis and subliminal communication have long been mired in mystique, urban legend and disinformation. The truth is that both of these techniques are backed by extensive research demonstrating their efficacy and more importantly, once learned, both tools can be customized for any situation and can be used almost anytime and anywhere.
Join Eldon Taylor as he unravels the truth behind these technologies, and demonstrates how they are invaluable tools in your self-help armamentarium. In this essential guide, you will learn:
Hypnosis and subliminal communication have been used for medical purposes as well as the metaphysical. Once you have mastered these two technologies, you will be able to use them anytime and anywhere to achieve a wide range of goals, from weight loss to stop smoking, from building your self esteem to maximizing your own healing potential, from enhancing your learning ability to dealing with anger and stress, and so much more.
Finally, you can take complete control of your own self-help program! – Book Description from Amazon
Self-Hypnosis And Subliminal Technology: A How-to Guide for Personal-Empowerment Tools You Can Use Anywhere! is, simply put, one of the most fascinating books I’ve ever read – and, you know me, I read A LOT of books. This is one of those books where you’re anxious to turn the page to see what you’ll learn next, but (at the same time), you aren’t quite “over” the page you’re on, so you don’t want to leave it quite yet.
Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds. – Franklin D. Roosevelt
It’s no surprise (to you, me, or anyone with an ounce of common sense) that the mind has boundless power. The saying goes, “You are what you eat,” but you can make a very strong case for, “You are what you think.” Consider what Eldon Taylor writes on page 13 of:
What is the limit to the power of the mind? For years the power of positive thinking has been heralded as almost a supreme power to attract and create wealth, power, relationships, success, and general prosperity of all kinds. Recently – at least within, say, the past 30 to 40 years – the power of the mind has also been championed as the body’s great healer. Word and abbreviations have been added to our vocabulary to accommodate the exchange of ideas regarding this seemingly miraculous interface between mind and body, words such as psychoneuroimmunology, or PNI for short. More recently, several researchers have stepped forward to inform us that our thoughts, the stuff in our minds, engage and activate the DNA molecule, and for this labels such as novelty-numinosum-neurogenesis and psychosocial genomics have been added to our vocabulary.
Eldon Taylor has been researching the power of the mind for over 25 years. He has testified as an expert court witness with regards to both subliminal communication and hypnosis. Eldon has been called ‘the master of the mind,’ and is the creator of the patented InnerTalk technology – the only such technology to be researched by numerous independent universities and institutions, and be demonstrated effective. Eldon is a Fellow in the American Psychotherapy Association and a certified hypnotherapist.
Self-Hypnosis And Subliminal Technology gives the reader a fascinating and straightforward introduction to hypnosis. It strips away the images many of us have of, “When I count to three, you’ll flap your arms and quack like a duck. 1 — 2—-3!” The reader soon realizes that, not only is hypnosis very, very real – it’s very, very powerful. What’s more, the possibilities are as limitless as the stars in the sky.
In addition to a fascinating education in the workings of the mind and the truth behind hypnosis, the reader is given a wonderful list of affirmations for use with the cd included with the book.
The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend. – Henri Bergson
I hope you’ll click the following link and learn more about a book I can’t stop thinking about – Self-Hypnosis And Subliminal Technology: A How-to Guide for Personal-Empowerment Tools You Can Use Anywhere!.
Funny, isn’t it, how oftentimes the answer to our problems is ridiculously simple. As you know, I work full-time from home as a web publisher. My husband has a full-time job, but as for my own personal income – what I make online is it. I may never be rolling in it, but I’m wild about the whole coffee in my pjs until the mood to get dressed hits me thing and my cats consider the arrangement the deal of a lifetime.
I recently had an issue with one of my websites. I won’t bore you with the details because my website and I aren’t what’s important here. You are. And if you can glean anything from our hassle, then the hassle would have been worthwhile.
I was starting to get a little stressed out over this particular website and felt like our relationship was about as strained as a jar of baby food. When I have something on my mind and want it resolved quickly, I always do one of three things:
It was cold outside and I didn’t want to get wet (a given in the shower), so I shot my computer an “I’m out!” look and headed for the Swiffer Wipes. Without fail, when I concentrate on something menial, like walking or cleaning (me or floors), my mind figures things out for itself.
“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” - Stephen Covey
The weird thing about my mind is that when it comes up with the solution, it doesn’t speak to me in long, poetic prose. It seldom even adds pictures to its message. Truth be told, the answer I need is very often simply a short sentence or even just one word.
As I pushed and pulled the Swiffer across the kitchen floor, wondering how I ever lived before these things were invented, it came to me, “If you want something to be as good as it possibly can be – you have to make it a priority, not an option.”
I literally uttered the word, “Ouch.”
I hadn’t really been making this particular website a priority. I guess I really hadn’t been making a lot of websites a priority if we’re being totally honest. The holidays have this effect on me. All I seem to want to do around November and December each year is bake, look for new recipes, bake goodies, watch Christmas movies, bake more goodies… You get the idea.
Basically, I was expecting everything to be sparkly and golden without putting in any elbow grease. What can I say, sometimes I’m a very clever girl.
After finishing the floors, I sat back down at my computer and vowed to make the website a priority. I’ve done so for a while now and our relationship has improved by leaps and bounds and, wouldn’t you know it, the website is now performing exactly how I wanted it to.
“Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.” ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
This same common sense approach can solve just about any type of problem you can think of.
Taking any of these from bad to good or even from good to great may be as simple as making it a priority as opposed to an option.
Priorities shape our actions and our actions shape our future. – This Side of the Swiffer