There are seveal relationship-minded articles at The Mental Fitness Center that you might find interesting, especially during the season of love. With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I thought I’d help Cupid out…..so, below are a few links and snippets of a few of the articles:
Love Eluding You? Let Go and It May Find You
How many times have you heard someone say it was when they weren’t looking for love that they found it? Often they’ll say, “I had just accepted the possibility that I may not find someone and realized that I’d be ok.” Or, “It’s ok if I’m single for the rest of my life.”It’s a paradox. We’re taught to focus on what we want and to take action until we reach our target. Yet if we focus or hold on too tight to the target, it eludes our grasp and gets further and further away.
What’s a single gal or guy to do?….( Read on…. )
Fear of Relationships
Snakes, elevators, sharks, death, spiders, darkness, mice, relationships….Relationships? To some, its presence amongst the heavyweights of fear may seem out of place. But to many people who suffer from relationship anxiety, it’s the others that seem out of place. Everyone has his or her own personal fears and it really doesn’t matter if anyone completely understands or not. As a cat-lover I can’t even begin to relate to having a fear of cats, but that doesn’t make it any less “real” for someone who has a feline phobia. ( Read On…. )
Everything I Know About Relationship Success I Learned At The Playground
It happened again!I was enjoying an evening with my little 2-yr. old son at the playground when, BAM, it happened. You ever have one of those moments in life when you know you are being taught an important lesson?
Picture in your mind a chaotic atmosphere of over fifty little children battling for their turn to play on a handful of playground rides and objects.
Recipe for disaster, huh? That’s what I thought, too, until my observations quickly picked up something else. ( Read On… )
Power Struggles: Being Right or Being Loving
Mandy and Evan consulted with me for couple’s counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them. They loved each other very much, but the bickering was certainly getting in the way of enjoying each other.I ask Mandy and Evan to come up with some recent conflicts so I could experience what was happening between them. They had conflicts over time, money, child rearing, family, and chores. The dynamic between them was the same no matter what the issue: One of them would complain about something – like the house being messy or the other person not being on time, and the other would argue, explain and defend. Then they would go back and forth, each one defending and explaining their position. Neither one listened to the other or even seemed to care about the other’s feelings or position. They would each get locked into their positions, seeing themselves as right and trying to convince the other person to see it their way. They had what I call a “control-resist system.” ( Read On…. )
Joi
