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Time Management Tips That Actually Make Sense

March 30, 2006 by Joi 4 Comments

Time Management: Why It Matters

If there’s one thing people talk about, maybe, even more than the weather it’s time.  More specifically, how we don’t have enough of it, how we wonder where it “flies” off to, and how in the world we can get all that we need to do DONE in the amount of time we have.

It’s not a case of creating more time, however (even if we could!).  What we should be focusing on is spending the time we have wisely – not wasting time on activities or even thoughts that won’t carry us forward.

Effective time management will do more than just lead us to a more successful life, it’ll GREATLY reduce the amount of stress in our lives.  A great deal of stress comes from thinks that are UN-finished and UN-done.  When we find a way to effectively manage our time, we’ll get more things done and have fewer reasons to stress.

What’s more, as we accomplish more, our self confidence will grow and, before you know it, we’re practically unstoppable!

But, before we get ahead of ourselves, we have to confront how we manage our time… or if we even do. Right up front, it’ll help to realize one very important thing:  Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King, Jr, Harriet Tubman, Eleanor Roosevelt, Booker T. Washington, Benjamin Franklin, Mother Teresa, and Marie Curie EACH had the same number of hours in their day that we have.  EACH had the same number of days in their week  and the same number of days in their year as we have.

And look at what they did with it!

These people, and countless other giants, knew one of the greatest secrets of all:  If you waste time, you waste your life. Pure and simple.

Many people will argue that it’s harder to focus on work in the time we live in.  They’ll argue that with technology, television, video games, dvds, and so forth – there are simply too many distractions.  They’ll even try to make you believe that people such as Lincoln and Washington had an advantage – fewer things to distract them from their work.  Nonsense!  I agree, there are tons of distractions and many of them are the biggest wastes of time ever known to man.

However, we have far more advantages today than the men and women who lived before us had.  We have washers, dryers, Kroger, automobiles, e-mail, computers, refrigerators, Starbucks, top-notch eyeglasses, the best doctors, and the list goes on.  We may have DISTRACTIONS but they had extreme DISADVANTAGES. Yet they persevered.   A lot of it had to do with determination and character – traits that, in my opinion, they’d still possess if they lived amongst us today.

How can you improve your time management skills and, thereby, improve your quality of life?

Below are time management tips that can help you get on track and stay on track.

  • Plan each day. If you’ve never been a fan of to-do lists, please give them a shot.  I can’t even remember a time when I didn’t use to-do lists.  They help to round up and organize your thoughts and goals.  Write the most important things at the top and tackle those first.  This way, if the unexpected comes up, the most important things have been done.This prioritizing will help you take care of both the most important things on your to-do list as well as those things that aren’t quite as important.
  • Don’t waste time – not even an hour. When you sit down to watch a television show that you’re only watching because it’s on (admit it, we’ve all done it), ask yourself, “What could I accomplish in these 60 minutes instead?”  If you’re a writer, depending upon your medium, you could write 3 blog posts, an entire chapter, or a couple of articles.
  • Delegate. I have to admit, I’m not a huge fan of delegating.  I don’t know why – maybe because I was an only child. I was just always accustomed to doing it myself, if it were within my powers and abilities.  However, if you have children to help with housework, or co-workers to help with a task – utilize them.  It’s far better than taking on so much, yourself, that you turn into a first class grouch.
  • Focus on each task. If you don’t take the time to “get it right” the first time, you’re only going to have to re-do it… which is one of the largest time wasters ever.  Allot enough time for each task to do a great job, not just a good job.  Having said that…
  • Don’t obsess over details! Wasting time trying to achieve perfection simply wastes time, frustrates you, and keeps you from getting more accomplished.
  • Break large, time-consuming tasks into smaller tasks. If there’s an especially large task you have before you, break it down.  Work in “chunks” – piecing the puzzle together until it’s a work of art.
  • Embrace the 10-minute rule. It’s a beauty!  You work on a  task that you’ve been putting off or dreading for a good, straight 10 minutes. More often than not, once you’ve started, you’ll finish.  Then it’s over and done with, never to haunt your good spirits again.
  • Evaluate how you’re spending your time. In The Skinny on Time Management by Jim Randel (the link leads to my review of this outstanding book), Randel calls Self-Awareness the Sine Qua Non – in his words “You can’t go anywhere with time management until you are aware of how you are spending your time.”  He goes on to recommend keeping a “time journal” for a week or so.  The goal is to see where you may be wasting time – then you can do a little brainstorming and find how you could utilize this time better.  For example, if you find that you spent 2 hours watching a baseball game (a favorite pastime of mine that I wouldn’t even dream of giving up), use that time to work out as you watch your favorite team.  If you do your pilates, weight lifting, yoga, or even aerobics (running in place, calisthenics, etc.) during the time you’re watching a game or television show, you’ll free up the time during the day when you’d normally work out.   You might also consider ironing, cleaning, writing, checking your e-mail, engaging in social media, or any number of other activities.
  • Limit distractions whenever possible. Set aside specific time for specific projects and cut off all potential distractions.  As a mother of three daughters and 5 cats, and the wife of a busy bee husband – I don’t distract easily.  I can write, code, or do any other tasks while carrying on 4 conversations, petting a cat, and cooking supper.  Necessity breeds the ability to find a way to do far more than one ever thought and since children and husbands don’t come with PAUSE buttons, I’ve learned to just keep on keeping on.  However, most people haven’t had to develop this knack and they can (and do) get distracted easily. Simply cut out and cut off any distractions that you may have while working on your to-do list.
  • Adopt a healthy lifestyle. Get plenty of sleep, have a healthy diet and exercise regularly.  It may sound like I just segued into a fitness or health article but, a healthy lifestyle can improve your focus and your ability to concentrate.  These traits can help you get more done in less time.
  • When you need a break, take a break! If you allow yourself to get stressed and burned out, you will undo all the good that you’ve done.  Remember, you aren’t a machine!  When you feel like you need a break – even a mini-vacation – take one.  A little while back, I felt like I couldn’t write another word, type out another recipe on my food blog, install another plugin, or customize another theme.  I wanted to cringe when I thought of words that normally excited me:  Plugins, blog, search engine optimization, courting Google, affiliate programs, e-mail, and so on.  I LITERALLY pushed myself away from the computer and didn’t return until a couple of days later.  In that time, I caught up on a few books, gardened, worked on the bird stations in our yard, and played with cats. Can you say MENTAL VACATION!?!?!  I returned to my work refreshed and invigorated. I know it’s not always possible for those who don’t work at home… those who have to answer to someone other than their cat.  But, when possible, take a little time away – not just partially away… completely away.  When you return, you’ll be a ninja!

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P.S. Thank you, thank you, thank you for the sweet e-mails concerning the loss of my mother.

It was a terrible loss that just fell from the sky – she was far too young to die and it was a terrible shock.  But I’d compound the tragedy, and make her as mad as a hornet on a July morning (in case you aren’t from the South, that means DANG mad) if I didn’t try to get on with my life.

And this would be me trying to do just that. With a heavy heart and overwhelming sense of loss – but trying the best I know how.

Filed Under: Must Reads, Self Help, Time Management Tagged With: time management, time management tips

Language of Love

March 26, 2006 by Joi Leave a Comment

The past week was the worst one I’ve ever lived through, and it will forever be a prayer of mine to never encounter a worst one.

One week ago today I found out that my mom had died.  You always look for “blessings” in these things.  It’s as though the mind says, “Hey, you can handle this.  After all, she isn’t sick anymore….She died in her sleep…..She’s with her own mom and with Daddy now…”  All of the thoughts are comforting to an extent.  The same way Neosporin and a Band-Aid are comforting to a cut.  It covers it up a bit, making it more tolerable – but it doesn’t heal the wound and it most definitely doesn’t make the pain go away.

This post will have no rhythm or rhyme to it because I have no rhythm or rhyme to me right now.

At all.

I remember when I lost my dad, 11 years ago, it took a while for the darkness to let up – the light was finally switched back on in my life, but certainly not right away.  I realize more and more each day how incredibly young my father was when he died – only 54.  My mom wasn’t much older than that.  When they say, “You never know…,” they‘re painfully right.

In the coming week I’ll post about different things I learned from my mother, as well as different things I heard about her this week.

I believe each family has its own language of love.  Some families – like me, my girls and husband say “I love you” everyday – when getting off the phone, when someone leaves for work, at bedtime, etc.  We’re mushy, I guess.  When my girls were little, they were like little dolls to me and I just said the words automatically each time I looked at them.

And some things never change.

My mom and dad’s families were different, so were my husband’s.  The love was still there, make no mistake about it – it was just said and shown in different ways.  Rather than a big hug topped off with a peck to the cheek and an “I love you”, a pat on the back was often the message in full.  When my dad would bring home the newest Shaun Cassidy poster and come into my room with “something” behind his back, that was his “I love you!”  I knew it then and I know it now.  And when I’d watch a western with him (some for, like the 500th time), and act like it was the most interesting and fascinating entertainment in the world, that was my, “I love you, dad and you’re a lot of fun to hang with.”

My mom and I weren’t as touchy, feely as my daughters and I are – because that’s how she was raised.  If great big hugs were given out in her family people would wonder what someone had done wrong.  Love and affection were simply shown in different ways.  One of the main ways was always being there when they were needed…. always lending an ear and a shoulder.

Always being there – like it was second nature.

When my daughters came along, everyone got a lot more touchy feely – something about adorable, soft little babies that turns everyone into hugging, cuddling, cheek kissing machines!

There is no ONE language of love.  I guess that’s what I’m attempting to get at.  So, whatever your family’s language of love is, I’m just encouraging you to speak it and speak it often.  If it’s taking a deli-bought or homemade cake by to a loved one, or sitting and listening (really listening) to their stories, even when they’ve hit syndication – just do it.  Make it a point to touch each person as often as you can, and never wait for “tomorrow” to say or do anything.

We aren’t guaranteed any tomorrows.

My mom sounded and felt wonderful on Saturday afternoon, but when she went to bed Saturday night, with her much beloved dog by her side, she never opened her eyes again. Not on earth, anyway.

Ironically, the night before she died, she was even fussing a little about her house – not enough closet space, counter space, or cabinets.  She said that this year she WOULD be moving into a larger house.  I told her, “Okay, if that’s what you want...”

Little did we know then the larger house she’d be moving into.

MAKE.  EACH.  MOMENT.  COUNT.
~Joi

Filed Under: Relationships, Spiritual

Beautiful Quote About Books

March 20, 2006 by Joi Leave a Comment

“A book is the only place in which you can examine a fragile thought without breaking it, or explore an explosive idea without fear it will go off in your face.  It is one of the few havens remaining where a man’s mind can get both provocation and privacy.”  ~Edward P. Morgan

Filed Under: Daily Quote

How Teachable are You?

March 17, 2006 by Joi 2 Comments

How Teachable Are You?
Do you believe that you can learn at least something from every person you meet? I absolutely, positively believe that – though, granted, the lesson isn’t always obvious.

The day we STOP learning is the day we STOP growing and if that thought, alone, doesn’t convince you to open your eyes to being more “teachable,” nothing will.

Below are 12 “self test” questions to help determine how teachable you are.  They were devised by Marty Williams and can provide you with a wealth of insight.

How Teachable Are You?

  1. I am willing to listen more than talk.
  2. I admit when I am mistaken.
  3. I observe before acting on a situation.
  4. I am able to agree to disagree.
  5. I desire information more than answers.
  6. I enjoy asking questions.
  7. I am open to suggestions and new ideas.
  8. I feel comfortable asking for advice or directions.
  9. I am a patient and willing “student.”
  10. I enjoy reading for information that is practical and applicable.
  11. I seek out new perspectives on the questions of life.
  12. I can appreciate criticism without being deeply wounded.

If you’ve come up short – and let’s face it, we all will in at least one area – simply vow to work on becoming more teachable. More times than not, that involves just one thing: Realizing that we don’t know everything!

Filed Under: General, Self Help

14 Tips for Getting Up On the Right Side of the Bed

March 14, 2006 by Joi 1 Comment

Kentucky

Not long ago, I came across these great suggestions for starting your day “Sunny Side Up.”   They’re by Becky Stephens, a registered nurse, which means she’s one of the hardest working individuals in the world.  Add her profession to a long list of professions I’d never be able to handle.  Not even on a good day.

Thank God for nurses.

While I think they’re all worthwhile suggestions, I’m particularly fond of number 12 – hot tea at bedtime and number 3 – saying a prayer.  Hot tea and conversations with God are beautiful ways to end the day!

14 Ways to Get Up On the Right Side of the Bed

  1. Stretch your arms and legs.
  2. Take four big healthy yawns.
  3. Say a prayer.
  4. Push back the sheets and jump out of bed.
  5. Take a shower.
  6. Look forward to something.
  7. Exercise for at least five minutes.
  8. Brush your teeth.
  9. Think positively.
  10.  Take a walk.
  11. Breathe deeply.
  12. Enjoy a hot cup of coffee, tea, or hot chocolate.
  13. Consider who you can encourage today.
  14. Thank God for the sunshine and the rain and that you have the strength to appreciate whatever the day will bring.

 

Filed Under: Self Help, Spiritual

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