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How to Achieve Your Goals

January 6, 2011 by Joi 30 Comments

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The vision must be followed by the venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps – we must step up the stairs. – Vance Havner

My husband, Michael, has been in the building industry for many years. He sells bricks, blocks, mortar, and other constructional materials, so he visits job sites regularly. I love to ride along with him and see what it looks like when a store, house, hospital, school (or whatever) is more of a VISION than a VISUAL.  It never ceases to amaze me how returning to the same dirty, cluttered, and genuinely unimpressive-looking location months later can take on a whole different meaning.

The architect has a clear vision of what the end result will look like. Even an architect years ago who envisioned an elementary school in New Albany, Indiana had a clear vision. It was a checkered, whack-a-doodle kind of vision, but a vision nonetheless. When my husband showed me the building, he asked what I thought. I said it was probably the biggest eye sore I’d ever had the pleasure of seeing. He laughed and said he felt the same way but that the architect was so delighted he was beside himself.

Yay, him!

When it comes to self improvement, resolutions, and self growth goals, we’re a lot like architects. We have a clear vision of what the “end result” will look like and, more importantly, feel like.  (More about feelings later.)

If we want to lose weight, we envision ourselves in the same size of Levi’s we wore in college. We think of how amazing it will feel to have better mobility and to look in the mirror without hating the golden arches with a cruel, unChristian hatred.

If we want to make more money, we envision ourselves in a new UK Wildcat’s blue Ford Edge, making a joyful trek from Starbucks to Target to the Mall and back to Starbucks (say hello to my personal vision).

If someone wants to learn to control their temper, they may envision themselves smiling and remaining calm while dealing with every nut job in the county.

You get the idea. No matter what the end goal is, we have a clear vision of it. Oddly enough, there are a lot of well-meaning, usually high-pitched men and women who’d lead you to believe that having this vision, alone, will bring good things your way.

H-o-g-w-a-s-h.

That’s akin to telling an architect, “Stand in the field and attract the building to you. The universe wants you to have the building.” I don’t know who the universe is, but even God expects us to earn the things we want.

Anything worth having has to be built. One brick at a time. Is it fun? Not always – but it is necessary. One of the problems we run into is feelings and emotions.

Make no mistake about it, we are governed to a great extent by feelings.

Some of us (my hands in the air) more so than others. That’s one of the reasons we have trouble “staying on course” while trying to achieve goals or adhere to resolutions. Eating a cream-filled, chocolate-covered doughnut feels better than NOT eating a a cream-filled, chocolate-covered doughnut (did I mention that the hand in the air has chocolate on it?).

Obviously, this makes it vital to focus on the end result. We HAVE to picture – throughout the day – ourselves at the finish line, whether we’re in a smaller size Levi’s, in a Ford Edge, or lying on a beach in Hawaii.

Picturing ourselves there won’t transport us there. What it will do is motivate us to stay on track…. and not just any track. The track that WILL lead us where we want to go.

Motivation is when your dreams put on work clothes. – Author Unknown

All of this SOUNDS lovely, doesn’t it? It SOUNDS pie in the sky amazing. We read or hear words like the ones above and we get so motivated and inspired that we can hardly sit still. Unfortunately, there is a rub. A rub so powerful that it knocks the majority of people clean off the track.

It’s the rub of instant gratification. If you work from home like I do, you know how hard it can be to fight the urge to just get up from the computer and…

  • watch a cooking show
  • take a walk
  • play with the cat
  • raid the fridge
  • go to Starbucks
  • read a book
  • feed the birds
  • stare out the window
  • play solitaire
  • stroll through the house and make sure the layout’s the same as it was an hour ago

… basically do anything BUT work.   Unfortunately there is instant gratification in slacking off.  However, giving in a couple of times makes it far too easy to give in more times.  After a while, everything you’re working toward moves further and further away from you. You look around and you ARE now where you WERE then and the only thing around you is your “slack.”  The tv shows and the wasted trips say, “Hey, you still have us!”

Somehow, it’s just not what you’d envisioned, right? There’s an old saying, Always do what you’ve always done and you’ll always have what you’ve always had!

What does a construction crew do when they have a building to erect?  They keep going back each day until the job’s done. It doesn’t matter if they’re tired, it doesn’t matter if they’d rather be home watching tv.  They have a job to do and they keep at it until the job is complete.  One brick at a time.  One day at a time. One victory at a time.

It’s the same way with resolutions, self improvement, and goals.  We have to earn what it is we desire.  We have to show up, show up, show up, and show up again – until the job is done. It doesn’t matter if we’re tired, it doesn’t matter if we’d rather be doing (or eating) anything else.  We have to put on our proverbial hard hat and work our butts off if we want to build the future we want.

It is NOT going to build itself.  The premise is lovely, but then again so is the premise of a Tooth Fairy.

Remember to take pride and pleasure in each small victory.  If you drive right past a hamburger joint and choose Subway instead – revel in the victory! If you stay at your desk and work a whole hour longer than you expected to, celebrate the victory with a pat on the back!  It’s these small victories that lead to the finish line.   Do you watch college basketball or football?  Many teams will take certain games for granted during the season and lose a game they should have won.  They lose focus and a much less talented, but hungrier, team gets the best of them.  It may seem like a small deal at the time to most people – but those of us who follow the sports regularly know that every game counts in the home stretch.  When you’re playing for the championship, losing games you SHOULD have won count against you in the worst way.

Often, it keeps the best teams on the sidelines watching less talented teams play for the championship title.

It’s a natural law: You receive as much as you give. – Paul Karasik

It doesn’t matter if it’s sports or self growth:  Each victory counts.  Each victory is huge.  Each loss counts.  Each loss is costly.

Whatever your goal is, I hope with all that’s within me that you reach it.  I know you can – IF you keep your focus.  Focus on what it is you want and where it is you want to be.  Focus on this image daily – throughout the day.  But don’t for a second think that visualizing it is equal to realizing it.  You have to work for it.  You have to fight for it.  You have to approach each day with the mindset that you WILL rack up as many victories as you possibly can and avert any potential chocolate doughnuts losses.

When it comes to success, attract isn’t the keyword, action is.  You have to take action – and not just once.  You have to be ready to take continuous action.  The more action you take, the more progress you make.

Victory after victory after victory….

Do this and you’ll build a masterpiece that’ll knock your darn socks off.

Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it. – Jack Canfield

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  1. Emily says

    January 6, 2011 at 9:30 pm

    Amazing post…so true, so true. And I, too, am easily distracted by shiny starbucky targety things. 😛

  2. Henway says

    January 6, 2011 at 10:27 pm

    Great post… I think getting started on a goal is easy but after a while you’re gonna reach a point where u’re gonna be tempted to quit because it’s just so hard… this is the point where most ppl do quit.. but if u keep going and going, u’ll find u’ll gain momentum.. it’s the tipping point

  3. Shailender @ Travel India says

    January 7, 2011 at 8:05 am

    Very true, action is the word for success.

  4. Calgary Psychology says

    January 12, 2011 at 10:13 pm

    Great article. I think that simplicity in goal setting implies harnessing the power of the concept of “one.” It’s a deceptively simple idea, based on the wise observation of old that a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Regardless of whether the thousand mile journey is an academic degree, a professional promotion, or an improved family relationship, it all begins with what you will do today to take one step.

  5. Alex Work says

    January 16, 2011 at 8:00 am

    Awesome post!

    And thank you for finally saying what a lot of (right thinking) individuals in the self-help industry have been thinking about a solution that includes only wanting something.

    It’s a sexy sell, but it’s pure fantasy. Goals have– and always, in my opinion– be the way to go to make productive changes in life.

    -Alex
    YourGoalBook.com

  6. Larry says

    January 18, 2011 at 8:28 pm

    So very true. Visualizing the end goal frequently helps give me the motivation to keep going. But it’s action which make it happen.

    To me, the secret is about breaking down goals into smaller, actionable items. Then write down the actionable items and keep referring to them. When I have the discipline to do that I am much more successful. Otherwise, the vision in my head tends to fade over time.

  7. Ashley Miles@Improving Your Personal Growth says

    January 19, 2011 at 12:40 am

    Nice content! It is nice to have goals to achieve, but it is not easy. If you want to achieve something, you must have a good plan. It is important to think in advance how reasonable your goal is and how long it will take for you to achieve it. Goal setting is my best way to kick start achieving my goal.

  8. fitness girl says

    January 19, 2011 at 5:35 am

    Setting up goals is never easy, I am one of those you couldn’t keep it going.

  9. Otto Pop says

    January 20, 2011 at 3:21 am

    Very nice! Thanks for motivate us!

  10. joi says

    January 20, 2011 at 2:59 pm

    Otto, Thanks so much and you’re more than welcome!

  11. joi says

    January 20, 2011 at 10:43 pm

    Fitness Girl, Setting goals is the easy part for me. I tend to have a “castle in the sky” kind of mentality. You know, aim for the moon! I’m still learning how to KEEP the goals, though. That isn’t nearly as easy I’m afraid.

  12. Kim - fuel my motivation says

    January 22, 2011 at 2:02 pm

    Joi, you have a true gift for the written word. You have eloquently painted a picture of how to stay focused or get back on track to achieve your goals.

    I use the method you describe all the time. You just have to keep constantly seeing your end result. It’s so powerful, especially when you are up against a particularly challenging day.

    I can’t tell you how many times I have been really frustrated in a situation to stop and secretly smile, because I remember, I’m heading to a better place.

    So, instead of letting stress and lives little difficulties pull me under, I use it as extra added fuel to do “one more thing” so that I can live my vision.

    Great post.

  13. Fragments of a Broken Mind says

    January 22, 2011 at 8:01 pm

    You know Ive struggled in this area…whenever I get something done, it is usually pushed upon me by a deadline or something similar where i HAVE to do it…otherwise I tend to procrastinate until the last possible moment. I appreciate you taking your time to write all of this!

  14. Fragments of a Broken Mind says

    January 22, 2011 at 8:02 pm

    You know Ive struggled in this area…whenever I get something done, it is usually pushed upon me by a deadline or something similar where i HAVE to do it…otherwise I tend to procrastinate until the last possible moment. I appreciate you taking your time to write all of this!

  15. Angelique says

    January 24, 2011 at 11:56 am

    I have the same sentiments with Ms. Fragments of a Broken Mind. I guess this is what I should change in me. Thank you for opening my eyes.

  16. Maria Pavel says

    January 31, 2011 at 5:14 am

    – Act with actions in your action plans. Sounds redundant but it should make sense. Visionaries are consumate goal-setters and creators of efficient action plans to reach the goals. After planning, focus on proper execution.

  17. Aloys Jacobs says

    February 24, 2011 at 4:14 am

    Most projects fail because of lack of pursuit. It’s more difficult to keep one’s efforts on target than it is to come up with the project itself. Make your goal less lofty and keep working till you reach it.

  18. HGH Advanced says

    April 14, 2011 at 1:19 am

    I think motivation is the most important thing that you need to have in order to achieve your goals.

  19. Alex says

    June 5, 2011 at 12:10 pm

    I do believe, that the key to achieve set goal is in small steps, but, please do forget , that withot true desier for achievment and our persistence will take us to our goal. Thing is, that in life we have some many external influences, that we forget to stay focus. And that’s the main reason why it takes much oonger to achieve our goal, or maybe this even eman, not achieving it at all. Therefore, BE PERSISTENC and fight for your goal.
    Cheers
    Alex

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    June 15, 2011 at 1:01 am

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  21. shahrzad says

    July 1, 2011 at 7:04 am

    I believe we can do every things as michael jackson said every thing is possible ,nothing is impossible.

  22. John says

    July 6, 2011 at 2:01 pm

    Great article. I see it as the abc to success only you always have to start with the finished product.
    C – See your outcome or goal
    B – Believe in it without any doubt
    A – Achieve it through constant action

  23. Saim peter says

    August 9, 2011 at 10:54 pm

    ·observe a cooking display

    ·require a walk

    ·execute aided by the cat

    ·raid the fridge

    ·head over to Starbucks

    ·examine a ebook

    ·feed the birds

    ·stare out the window

    ·participate in solitaire

    awesome

  24. Steve seo says

    August 19, 2011 at 11:22 am

    Great.
    Reinforces the importance of defining the goal. If you have read Stephen Covey this is a key practical step. Only with that, but equally important you need to take the actions to move forward.
    Need to go and get back to doing my actions
    All the best
    Steve

  25. Wendy says

    October 15, 2011 at 1:51 am

    It is so true. Reaching our goals starts with a strong visualizing. A strong visualizing means for me that is gets a high priority on my goal list and stays there. It requires persistence to keep it there until it is accomplished.

  26. manny says

    October 20, 2011 at 2:45 am

    That is saying of continuous action is the most important to me. I have to learn that!!!!

  27. Gareth says

    November 13, 2011 at 1:55 pm

    Great article and great inspiration. I’m a definite believer of ‘the world is your oyster’ and I wouldn’t be where I am today without constantly setting goals and pushing myself to achieve them. It’s not easy though and but articles like yours really do inspire and motivate me to do better. Thanks 🙂

  28. BeccaMoteevates says

    February 27, 2012 at 4:26 pm

    Pursuing and achieving our goals can be an overwhelming process, especially if we have little guidance or experience in this journey.

    http://www.MOTEEVATE.com is a social networking site designed specifically to help you achieve your goals, no matter how big or small. Create a profile, set a goal, invite your friends, and join a community of experts and fellow moteevators to help you inspire and be inspired.

    Go be great, moteevate

  29. Jaiper Feliciano says

    December 16, 2013 at 10:59 pm

    Plain and simple! I like your work!

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