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How to Be Happy
No one ever said inspiration had to be dry or that motivation couldn’t have a personality. The Holy Mole’ comic strips have become my latest obsession. I fall head over heels in love with each one I see.
I’ll be running these comic strips weekly on Self Help Daily, hopefully for a very long time. I know they’ll have the same effect on you, so tell your head to watch out for your heels – they’ll be seeing plenty of them.
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About Holy Mole’ Comic Strips:
Holy Mole’ appeals to anyone who cares about the environment and mindful living.
Holy Mole’s lovable characters include a curious mole (the archetypal seeker), a laid back cat, a wise turtle, socially compliant penguins, technologically challenged snails, and some aliens that remind us that those “other guys” are a lot like us.
The essence of Holy Mole’ comes from the artist Rick Hotton and his experience teaching martial arts for more than three decades.
Here’s something I’m completely excited about: A new book about Holy Mole’ will be released in time for the holiday season! It will feature 100 strips with corresponding commentaries about mindful living and environmental stewardship.
They are also developing their first animated videos.
Keep it coming. Keep it coming. Keep it coming.
The Holy Mole’ Comic Strip will run on Self Help Daily each Monday and we’re beyond honored to bring these strips to you.
Thanks, again, to Holy Mole’ for the opportunity to share these wonderful comic strips with Self Help Daily’s readers.
First of all, before getting to any sort of other thoughts or tangents, a happy belated Happy Father’s Day to my wonderful husband and all of the other dads out there. I was busy cooking for my special guy all day yesterday (Grilled hot dogs and baked beans for lunch, Spinach Manicotti and Garlic Bread for supper and a mulit-layered cake from scratch with lemon fruit filling between the layers – frosted with my favorite fluffy frosting recipe… serious YUM!) for dessert. Then I collapsed and watched a little golf with him.
For obvious reasons, I didn’t get by Self Help Daily to wish you guys a happy day yesterday – so here are your dues today… Happy Father’s Day!
A few of my daughters and I have been talking a lot about relationships lately. So, I figured since my thoughts were already headed in that direction, I’d just run with it. Whether you’re still looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right or you’ve found your soul mate, you know how very, very important it is to choose wisely.
Jackson Brown said it best, “Choose your life mate wisely because from that one decision will come 90% of your future happiness or misery.” So. True.
Young people (and even not so young) often have the wrong priorities when looking for their life partner. If you base your relationship solely on money or solely on attraction, you’ll soon learn that if someone doesn’t have more than a full bank account or a beautiful face going for them, they’re of little worth – to you or themselves.
I wish I could sit down and talk with every girl, boy, woman, or man who’s looking for that special person. I wish I could write down Jackson Brown’s outstanding quote and frame it for them. Getting inside their head with this truth would do one of two things:
- Help them avoid making the biggest mistake of their life.
- Help them make the smartest decision of their life.
Forget money, forget strong shoulders, forget beautiful eyes, forget beautiful smiles, even forget a laugh that makes you laugh right along with them – even when you don’t get the joke. You have to make certain that the person you commit yourself to spend your life with is your soul mate. You have to be certain that this is the person that will bring you happiness, peace, and joy.
He or she has to be the person that will make any apartment, house, or trailer feel like Heaven on earth.
Make no mistake about it, you’ll have arguments. If, that is, you’re both humans and not sheep. You’ll have some doozies, mark it down! You’ll yell, you’ll stomp around, and you’ll (at times) make a perfect fool of yourself. These things happen when people love one another…. comes with the territory. Keeps things interesting.
When I think of the words Soul Mate, I think of my husband – I guess it’d pretty much suck if I didn’t. My husband, Michael, is my blue-eyed proof of Jackson Brown’s quote. See, I think a soul mate should be someone who “jives” with you, someone who speaks your language even when you aren’t speaking. He/she should “get” you and respect you even when they may not see eye to eye with you.
A soul mate should be ready to stand beside you, even when you’re wrong – and dare anyone to say the words out loud.
Here’s one of the things I adore most about my husband: He lets me be me. He doesn’t try to change me or make me feel bad for my quirks (I have a collection of them, but that’s another article.). You may have guessed by now – but I’m the poster child for animal lovers. If I could, I would surround myself with about 20 of every kind of animal known to exist.
I’ve always been this way. When we first met, Michael didn’t have any pets whatsoever. I quickly took care of that.
Over the years, I’ve subjected this man to countless cats, dogs, and birds. Strays are drawn to me like bees to honey. Whenever a new dog or cat has ever come into our yard, the process never deviates:
- I rush out to welcome (and name) the new family member.
- Michael quietly heads off to the store for dog food or more cat food.
He isn’t what you’d necessarily call a “dog person” but not long ago two beautiful, frisky, adorable black dogs came into our yard. He went for food.
When my mom passed away, we took in her adorable dog Wednesday. Michael and Wednesday became the best of buddies and took walks each night. I’m not sure which one of them looked forward to them more, but I suspect that he was the one with just two legs.
The thing is, if you want to have a happy life – one filled with laughter, smiles, peace, and love – choose the individual you’ll spend your life with more carefully than you’ve ever chosen anything.
- Choose the person who makes you smile even when you’re down. Stay away from the person who brings you down even when you’re smiling.
- Choose the person who makes you feel good about yourself. Stay away from the person who makes you feel bad about yourself – as though you don’t quite measure up.
- Choose the person who fits in well with your family. Avoid the person who ridicules your family, causes tension, or tries to start trouble. So not worth it.
- Choose the person who makes life fun! Avoid the person who seems to be allergic to fun and laughter.
- Choose the person who has similar interests to your own. Sure, you need to have individual interests as well (I’ll never be a golfer any sooner than my husband will be a baker), but you should have plenty of things in common. If you don’t, you’ll never have anything to talk about!
- Choose the person who respects you, your opinions, your beliefs, and what you stand for. Avoid the person who’s looking for a clone of themselves. Give them a mirror and send them on their way.
If you, like me, have already found your soul mate, you might want to pause for a while and just think about how lucky you are. It’s a pretty rare thing, you know.
“Choose your life mate wisely because from that one decision will come 90% of your future happiness or misery.” – Jackson Brown
As you know, I’m a self-confessed addict of The Biggest Loser. I never make it through an episode without crying, laughing out loud, and feasting on high levels of inspiration and motivation. And that’s all before the first commercial break. This show is in a league of its own. It’s one of the few truly important shows on television and one of few that I’d totally recommend to anyone and everyone. It can change your life.
This has been one of the best seasons of The Biggest Loser yet. There hasn’t been one single contestant that I wanted to drop kick to Kansas (Remember Tracy?). In fact, each elimination has kind of smarted and a few brought tears. Any of these remaining 4 could be – and should be – the winner.
I’ve got nothing but love for the entire group, but there’s one particular contestant that I fell hard for: Ashley. What a doll! As the mother of three girls, I’m always a bit partial to young girls. When they’re on the show, I pull for them with the same passion I shop for coffee with. There’s something extra special about this girl, though, and it’s all in her beautiful personality. She and her gorgeous smile have lit up this entire season and I guess I always knew that there’d be a future “Ashley post.”
Understandably, these contestants are going through huge, emotional changes. They’ve been uprooted and forced to face – head on – past mistakes and unhealthy lifestyles. We cry as they cry, we curse fatty, fried foods with them, and we feel their pain when they see the original number on the scale.
They struggle with challenges – especially early on. Again, understandably. They get frustrated and some lash out while others cry. Some, like Daris just summon up fresh, newly-found courage and charge right through it. My girl, Ashley, fell countless times early on. How she kept from really hurting herself is beyond me.
But she kept getting back up. And what’s truly remarkable – none of it ever took her personality away and it never wiped the smile off of her beautiful face. She seemed to always be extremely thankful for being on the show and always ready to give it her all.
In the last episode, the contestants were watching early clips of themselves. Like most past contestants, the rest of these contestants cried at the sight of their former selves. Ashley smiled. That struck a chord with me. She didn’t seem to detest the old Ashley – she knew that she was still a beautiful, vivacious, fun, spirited, and lovely girl. In a clip that was about to show one of her epic falls, Ashley laughed and said something like, “Here it comes!”
She’s having fun with life and that’s probably the number one trait I’m drawn to in people.
I realize that it’s risky to write an article or tribute like this when the season isn’t quite through – I mean my girl could go all swamp girl psycho in the next episode. Hopefully she won’t go to the dark side.. there are far too many people there already.
Personally, I think she’ll finish as beautifully as she started.
We can learn something from Ashley’s attitude and upbeat personality. Our situation shouldn’t dictate our personality or our happiness. We should be who we are regardless of what’s happening to us or around us. You can tell Ashley would be a fun person to be around. She wouldn’t mope around, complain, or wallow in misery or self-pity. Since she is human, I’m sure she’d have her moments – but I’m also sure she’d have the humor and spirit to overcome them in record time.
At the first of the season, Ashley seemed like a complete underdog. There was something about her, though, that told me she’d be around for a while. There was a certain determination and focus in her eyes – plus, whenever she fell she didn’t yell at Jillian or snap at Bob. She didn’t whine.
She just got up.
At one point she was talking to the camera (how odd must that feel?) about how she knew she was considered the underdog. Her smile and her words made her an all-time favorite of mine. She said, “I’m going to sneak up like a ninja on their a$$es.”
And she did.
She did a couple of other things too:
- She reminds us all that life is beautiful and is worthy of embracing whether we feel like we’re on top of the world or not. No matter what we think we have that is so hideous, there are always others who have it far worse.
- With her beautiful face, stylish clothes, and perfect hair, Ashley proves that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.
- Her sense of humor and upbeat personality show that if a girl can smile while climbing such a huge mountain (with falls along the way!), there’s no excuse for the rest of us.
- Ashley seemed, to me, to be almost like a tonic to her friends. When she was around Mike and Daris, they seemed happier. We should all have that effect on people around us. They should leave our presence happier than they were when they first entered it. Are you a tonic or a wet blanket?
- What others think of us or expect from us isn’t what counts. The only thing that matters is what WE think of us and expect from us.
Who, or what, would you like to sneak up on like a Ninja? Whatever it is…. disarm it with your smile, jump back up when you fall, and believe in yourself.