Self Help

As a parent, you want to teach your children as many things as possible. While you might feel this means tangible lessons like helping them learn their ABCs when they are preschoolers and teaching them to drive when they are teens, it’s important to remember that your kids will also learn by simply watching what you are doing.

For instance, when it comes to having good mental health, how you act, the decisions that you make and the way you treat yourself and others can all help your children learn what this important concept means. In order to model good mental health for your kids, please consider the following tips:

Be Mindful of How and Where You Spend Money
While you might not equate solid mental health with spending money, the two are linked together. If your kids see you constantly stressing about bills and fighting with your spouse about money, it can lead to negative associations with money in their future. Strive to live within your means and if money is tight, take proactive steps like trimming back expenses rather than putting everything on your Visa.

Also, to show your kids how to be smart with money, make a point of shopping for brands that you can trust and believe in. Explain how you don’t want to waste money and research the best companies before making purchases. For example, if you are looking for high quality health, beauty and lifestyle products, a company like Amway is a great place to start. If your kids bring up the Amway scam rumor, show them how the company refuted the accusations on their site, and assure them that you only spend your money on products from reputable and reliable companies.

Take Care of Yourself Too
Parents often put their own self care last while their children get the lion’s share of time and attention. You probably make sure your kids get enough sleep, yet you are sleep deprived. Your kids see the dentist twice a year on schedule, but you keep cancelling your own appointments because of your huge number of commitments. While it is definitely important to take good care of your children, you need and deserve the same treatment. Being a parent who handles the needs of his or her kids while still modeling good self-care is a wise choice that your children will definitely notice. Mention that you are going in for a physical with your doctor, go out for walks as a family and establish a family bedtime—these are all ways to take care of yourself and your kids at the same time.

Show Compassion for Yourself and for Others
Another effective way to model good mental health habits for your kids is by being compassionate. As The Washington Post notes, being gentle with yourself and others can help you and your children learn to navigate difficult feelings. On the flip side, poor emotional regulation, including being really hard on yourself, can result in headaches and stomachaches and other physical symptoms. So, when life is stressful and you make an error in your checking account or accidentally burn dinner, instead of blurting out “I’m such an idiot!” try to remain as calm as possible and avoid making self-deprecating remarks.

Remember, Your Kids Are Always Watching
On those days where you have to remind your children 100 times to take out the trash, it may be difficult to believe that your kids actually listen to you. But children really do watch what you are doing and what is coming out of your mouth, as well as your daily habits. By striving to model good mental health, you will not only feel better yourself, but your kids should also grow up to be mentally healthy and happy adults.

by Amanda Green

Some of us have experienced the unfortunate event when a loved one has been suddenly rushed to the hospital. We worry and anxiously pace as we wait in the waiting room for any news from the doctor. Moments pass and a plethora of thoughts bombard our mind, but we remain optimistic. We think about how the bright surgical lights will focus on our loved one. We think about how long it may take before we talk with them again.

Post-Op

The surgeon makes their way towards you and gives the good news that surgery was successful. You breathe a sigh of relief. You head over to your loved one’s recovery room and watch them sleep. As you stand there, you’re wondering what to say first when they wake up and wonder how they are feeling. Hours pass and your loved one wakes up. You rush over to their side and ask if they need anything. You wonder if they want an extra pillow, some water, or perhaps some food. You call the nurse and they indicate that everything is fine and that a meal will be scheduled later on the day. As the nurse leaves the room, your loved one reaches out to you.

Words of Encouragement

Recuperating from surgery is not easy for a patient. Sometimes it can get overwhelming for them and may hinder a quick recovery. We want to encourage them to stay optimistic during their treatment. Reading a book together, bringing in letters of encouragement, or by simply just spending time with your loved one can be a positive distraction. The hospital takes care of the physical recovery and we take care of the mental fitness. Words of inspiration can boost positivity. “To succeed, we must have the will to succeed, we must have stamina, determination, backbone, perseverance, self-reliance, and faith.” – B.C. Forbes

Musical Healing

An article states that “There’s a belief that music and pain are processed along the same [nerve] pathways.” Music therapy is slowly being integrated into recovery rooms of hospitals. It is said that music therapy can help alleviate stress, anxiety, and the “perception of pain.” Music can even decrease the need for medications that aid patients in dealing with fear and pain. Having a personalized playlist for your loved one can inspire and also relieve them of stress and tension associated with recovery.

Laughter

Doesn’t laughing feel good? Laughter can break a bad mood. Most importantly, it can reduce anger and frustration associated with the path to recovery. Your loved one may feel depressed or angry because they feel pain. We want to lighten up their mood and distract them from the pain they feel. Most recovery rooms have television sets; tune in to something that’s humorous. Laughter can be a powerful painkiller but can also help along the healing process. Laughing can also help avoid depression.

Emotional Support

It’s not always fun bearing the brunt of your loved one’s frustrations. We have to put our minds in a state where we can support both our emotions and the emotions of our loved one that’s recovering from surgery. At times it can get so overwhelming it can lead to an environment that can halt treatment progression. It is recommended to take time for yourself. Take time to relax and rejuvenate. Take a stroll in a park or grab a bite to eat; change your surroundings for a while. By doing so, you will find that it will improve your mood and also gives you time to breathe in some fresh air.

Exercise

A good exercise routine will help maintain a positive attitude. Not only are you the guiding light for your loved one, but they also depend on you to keep things positive when they are feeling down. Exercising can promote circulation and help prepare for the day ahead. Whether you’re assisting them with their physical recovery or encouraging them to stay optimistic during treatment, it is important to always stay positive.

From words of encouragement, healing through music, laughter, and everything in between, always remember to remain optimistic and reassuring for your loved one. Remember, they are recuperating from surgery and feeling tremendous amounts of pain. When you feel overwhelmed and fatigued, take time for yourself. Taking the time will help improve your mood and help you refresh, and in turn, promote a favorable environment for quick recovery.

by Dakota Murphey

Your feet are some of the hardest working parts of the body. Located at ground level, they literally have to carry your entire weight and keep you mobile. You use your feet to walk and run, dance and jump – in fact not a day goes past when you don’t use them.

Over a quarter of all the bones in the body are in the feet, which should give you a pretty good idea of how intricately they can adapt to the weight of the rest of the body as it moves around. And did you know that your feet will take you the equivalent of 3 times around the world over a lifetime? That’s hard work!

And yet, we mostly take our feet for granted, don’t we? When was the last time you lavished some TLC on your feet that went beyond a perfunctory toe clipping followed by some nail varnish? As a woman, you are more than likely to have at least one pair of high heeled shoes in the cupboard while many females routinely wear heels, often all day every day.

But however fashionable you want your look to be, it stands to reason that squeezing your feet into tight, high heels with little foot support on a regular basis is bound to have consequences. That’s why so many older women are suffering serious long-term and often painful health problems involving the foot, knee, spine and general posture.

And that’s just the women.

A recent survey has shown that as many as 2/3 of Brits suffer from foot pain, though many simply ignore the problem out of lack of knowledge about what to do to prevent or cure the problem. Issues range from minor disorders such as ingrown toenails to severe deformities of the feet.

The obvious answer is to give your feet the respect they deserve. Not just on the odd occasion when you want them to look nice for you, but as part of your regular health routine. Here’s what to do.

Be very picky about your footwear
Well fitting shoes and boots are vital for providing a healthy environment to support your feet. And it’s not all about devil-may-care stilettoes either. Even the most sensible footwear can cause problems if the shoes don’t fit properly.

“The best shoes are well fitted, have a firm sole, are well cushioned with a still heel counter that is strong and supportive, while the front of the shoe should be flexible,” says one footcare expert. When it comes to the right size and fit, “shoes should be long enough and deep enough to avoid any pressure on the tips of the toes. The shape and the width of the shoe should be more or less the same as your feet, and soles should be made of non-slip resilient materials.”
Next time you go shopping for shoes or boots, take heed. Aesthetics are important, of course, but comfort is key. A cavalier attitude towards the long-term health of your feet will have detrimental consequences a few months or years down the line, so bear this in mind and make an intelligent purchase decision that gives proper respect to your feet. While you can always buy another pair of shoes, your feet will have to last you a lifetime.

Give your feet some tender loving care
Just as you would have a beauty routine for your face and body, look all the way down your body and remember your poor, overworked feet! A footbath followed by a home pedicure can work wonders as a general pick-me-up while paying attention to the health of your feet.

Start with a relaxing bath, shower or just a footbath (ideally using a foot spa for extra bubbles). Exfoliate with a foot scrub of your choice, massaging it on damp feet and focusing on any hard skin areas. Rinse and thoroughly dry your feet one at a time and pay particular attention to in between your toes where Athlete’s Foot (myocosis), a fungal infection, can easily develop. Finally apply a good moisturiser all over, including the soles, to nourish the skin.

Next, take a pair of nail clippers and trim your toenails, making sure you cut straight across and leave the corners a little longer. Long toe nails are prone to fungal and bacterial infection while overly short nails can cause ingrown toenails. To finish off, gently smooth down the nail edges with an emery board to get rid of any jagged bits.

For all out pampering, a foot massage can be heaven. What’s more, it can increase blood flow to the lower extremities and prevent hardened arteries in the feet. There’s no reason why you can’t learn to do this yourself but if you’re after complete relaxation, it’s best to have a willing helper on standby. Here’s how it’s done.

Be proactive about foot health problems
With regular care and attention, you will get to know your feet well and be in the best position to spot when anything looks wrong. Ingrown toenails, for instance, can be caused by incorrect toenail trimming, shoe pressure or repeated impact trauma to the feet from everyday activities. In most cases, a minor toenail procedure at your local podiatrist is all it takes to rectify the problem.
Fungal infections are also very common. If you notice any discoloration of the front of the nail, thickness, brittleness or the nail lifting off the nail bed, you should go and see a podiatrist immediately. Left untreated, even minor fungal infections can cause serious nail bed infections.

Calluses and corns are caused by continuous pressure on one particular area of the foot, usually as a result of ill fitting or inappropriate footwear including high heels. Bunions can also be caused by badly fitting shoes as well as overpronation (excessive rolling of the foot in the shoe). This can cause a bony growth on the outside of the big toe as the bone under the toe moves. It’s a painful condition, often with blisters, skin irritation and joint redness as well as bone deformity.

If you notice any of these foot health issues affecting your feet, there’s much a podiatrist can do. As always, early effective intervention is recommended, so don’t delay in making an appointment.