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You Can (Almost) Always Find What You’re Looking For… So Be Careful What You Seek!

March 5, 2019 by Joi Leave a Comment

Perspective Quote

Short story to set the stage – even if it does involve telling on myself and my ridiculousness in the process:

A few years ago, my husband was away for a business trip. I’m not the bravest person in the world, so when my daughters began talking about something VERY scary they had read about one afternoon, my brain whispered, “Well, if this doesn’t keep you awake all night, nothing will.” I pushed the whisper aside and reasoned that by the time bedtime rolled around and the lights were off, I’d be fine.

WRONG.

As soon as the lights turned off, the brain turned on. It felt compelled to remind me of the “true” horror story. Being very familiar with myself and knowing what it’d take for me to get any rest whatsoever, I grabbed my iPhone and Googled, “Why {insert horror occurrence} is a hoax.” Badabing! I found explanation after explanation of why this couldn’t possibly have happened and found “holes” punched everywhere within the story.

I slept like a baby.

Here’s the tricky thing – Had I been a complete idiot and Googled, “Why {insert horror occurrence} is true,” I’d have found… you guessed it… just what I was looking for.

I’m sure you’ve figured out where this is heading, right?

So often, in life, what we “find” doesn’t happen by mistake or coincidence – we “find” it because, whether we realize it or not, it’s what we were looking for.  I see it online with social media almost daily. There are some people who seem absolutely SET on finding drama and stirring up stress and emotions. I don’t want to get off track, here, but what is up with these people?! I want things to be as calm and peaceful as possible… who, in their right mind, wants drama circling around them?!

Whether it makes sense or not, they search for it and, naturally, they find it.

I’m always amused when, after it hits the fan, they act shocked and confused like, “How did this storm happen???”

You did the rain dance, honey, that’s how!

By contrast, there are people (raising my hand high) who get on social media to be informed, entertained, amused, and (hopefully) provide these things for others. Again, what they seek is generally what they find.

Have you ever seen a 4 year old who is tired and cranky? He/she seems to be actively looking for trouble, don’t they? How like children adults can be!

This is a short post because the real trick is simply to get your thoughts flowing. You don’t need me to tell you if you set out looking for drama, gossip, and maybe even a little argument now and then. You don’t need me to tell you if you actively seek out calmness, harmony, and goodwill. You already know you – as well as I know my Chicken Little ridiculous self! I’m only here to ask you this – Is what you seek conducive toward your happiness and mental health or not? Is what you tend to actively look for constructive to your relationships or destructive?

Make no mistake about it, each of these questions has a clear answer.

We find what we actively seek… make sure you’re looking for something worth having, because you will find it.

~ Joi

Filed Under: General, How to Be Happy, Positive Thought, Self Awareness Tagged With: positivity, self awareness, thoughts

Life Changing Inspirational Quotes by Mother Teresa

January 8, 2019 by Joi Leave a Comment

Mother Teresa Quote About Smiling

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is bliss, taste it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.
~ Mother Teresa

This Mother Teresa quote about life is a sermon and an education in 16 sentences.  The simplicity of this great woman was part of her beauty.  What takes the rest of us billions upon billions of words to convey, it was a though Mother Teresa said, “Give me 16 sentences and I’ll get my point across.”

And that she did.  Every single time.  She’d have been a Twitter rock star.

More Mother Teresa Quotes:

Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.

Intense love does not measure, it just gives.

Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.

I want you to be concerned about your next door neighbor. Do you know your next door neighbor?

Each one of them is Jesus in disguise.

Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.

One of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody.

If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.

Even the rich are hungry for love, for being cared for, for being wanted, for having someone to call their own.

If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.

Our life of poverty is as necessary as the work itself. Only in heaven will we see how much we owe to the poor for helping us to love God better because of them.

Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.

The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted.

There must be a reason why some people can afford to live well. They must have worked for it. I only feel angry when I see waste. When I see people throwing away things that we could use.

We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.

If you want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.

Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.

We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.

Let us touch the dying, the poor, the lonely and the unwanted according to the graces we have received and let us not be ashamed or slow to do the humble work.

Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within reach of every hand.

Words which do not give the light of Christ increase the darkness.

 

 

Filed Under: Daily Quote, Positive Thought Tagged With: inspirational quotes, Mother Teresa quotes, quote graphic

How to Make Yourself Feel Better

August 23, 2018 by Joi Leave a Comment

When you have a bad day or something wrong happens and ruins your mood, how to feel better about yourself? Actually, it is not so difficult as you think. Here are 5 small things you can do to help yourself move on and feel better.

Take a Laugh Break

Laughing can trick your brain into thinking that you are happy which can stimulate actual feelings of happiness. It lets your muscles relax and helps relieve your body’s stress response. Well, when you have a terrible day, take a break and laugh! Remember some funny situation or joke, call your funniest friends, watch funny video or movie and your bad mood will go away.

Pamper Yourself

You are the best and that is the perfect reason for beautifying yourself, especially if you are feeling down. Pamper yourself to your own standards. Go get your nails done or get a new haircut. If you like shopping (although I don’t know any girl who doesn’t like shopping!), buy yourself some new stuff for fun. No matter if you buy a pair of new heels or CrossFit shoes (to choose the best ones see http://thecrossfitshoes.com/11-best-cheap-running-shoes/), pretty blouse or sexy skirt, you will feel more confident and, moreover, in such a way you can also boost your self-esteem, which helps make you happier.

Dive into Reading

The healing power of literature is amazing! When you are sad, stressed or depressed, reading can transform your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. You can forget about your problems while reading about someone else`s or you can come to understand your state of mind and try to improve it because you can find yourself in the pages of a nice novel or in a wonderful poem. Experiencing someone meets their challenges will give you good ideas and great inspiration on how to meet your own.

Join a Gym

Don`t forget about your physical health because it also affects your mental well-being. Regular physical exercise helps you improve and maintain your physical health that leads to an increased level of mental health. Just remember, you should choose the best trainers for your regular workouts. The right CrossFit shoes will improve the efficiency of your workouts and reduce the risk of injury.

Spend Time with Family or Friends

Strong social support is your key to happiness! Try not to isolate yourself if you feel super down, temporarily depressed or just in a strange mood. Your family and friends are a great source of support because it identifies a sense of belonging and security. When you spend  time with your family members or trusted friends, you understand that you are not alone in this big world and this realization makes you a really happy person. Thus, the support of your family and friends helps you deal with your emotional pain faster and foster a sense of self-worth.  

Well, no matter what life brings you, you should find the strength to feel good about yourself whatever happens. It is in your hands to lift your spirits and you have everything to do that by yourself.

Filed Under: Articles by Various Authors, How to Be Happy, Positive Thought

Use the Power of Positive Thinking to Change Your Life

August 23, 2018 by Joi Leave a Comment

Everybody at least once in their life has heard the phrase that the way we think about something can program our life. Some people are too skeptical about the power of the mind, while others force themselves to control every thought. People can’t believe in the power of positivity, because they can’t think positively. What is the power of positive thinking after all: a myth or reality?

Believe it or not, but the power of positivity really exists. How does it work? The only way to confirm this is to open your mind to positive thoughts. Perhaps, you have heard that if you can’t change the situation, you should change your attitude to it. Haven’t you? It’s better to understand this “life hack” with the help of an example. Let’s imagine that you hate waking up early every morning to go to work, school, university, or somewhere else. Almost all people are familiar with this problem. There are some ways to solve it:

First of all, you can change your working place or timetable. Is it possible? Sometimes yes. However, in most cases, it’s impossible to do. Do you want to live with this perpetual resentment? You’ll hardly be happy. Then it’s the time to apply to positive thoughts. Think about the advantages of waking up early, overlooking all those things which annoy you. For example, early awakening enhances your productivity, gives you a better mental health, improves your quality of sleep, and so on. As soon as you begin to perceive early awakening not as your duty, but as an opportunity, your life will be improved!

In all situations, people can find some great moments, they just have to look for them. It is important to think about the thing you want and the ways how to get them. This is the secret of positivity. Successful people never concentrate their attention on the difficulties. Moreover, they don’t let themselves even think that they will not succeed. They have a greater control of their life because they can control their thoughts. That’s when we’ve come to the question of how to control our thoughts or how to change the way of thinking.

How to make your thinking positive?

Stop believing that you cannot control your thoughts. You can! Of course, it’s not an easy task. However, uneasy doesn’t mean unworkable. The following key issues will help you to change your way of thinking and, finally, life:

  • Positive people

Try to surround yourself with people, able to cheer you up even when everything is too bad. If you hear how someone moans about problems in his or her life constantly, you start to think that life itself is unfair and you should wait for the other shoe to drop. On the other hand, when your friends can see only good things even though life makes them hurt, it’s impossible to become a pessimist!

  • Positive quotes

Reading is the best medicine for everybody and everything. When you feel like losing control of your thoughts, it’s exactly the time to apply to different motivational quotes and sayings about life. You shouldn’t underestimate the power of such things. As a rule, quotes like “Your positive action combined with positive thinking results in success” isn’t an empty promise. People, say something like this, know for sure that it’s effective! Positive thoughts will come with positive quotes.

  • Hope and Belief

Nothing helps more than self-confidence and the hope for a better future. Positivity has the power only in the case you believe that it is going to work. Always believe in yourself, your thoughts, and positive future. If you believe that you are a happy, healthy, and successful person, you’ll surely be happy, healthy, and successful. Vice versa, when you think that you are an unhappy loser with poor health, you’ll always feel bad. This will definitely spoil your life.

  • Filtering

It’s important to control not only your thoughts but also the flow of information you get during the day. Negative news provokes negative thoughts. TV news, newspapers, magazines will hardly tell you how wonderful our life is. Avoid wasting your time on these things. You’d better choose a new hobby or activity, which will get your head straight. Like reading? Read interesting books about successful people (you’ve already known how helpful inspirational quotes can be). Prefer watching TV? Choose films with persistent characters, achieving their goals.

Filed Under: Articles by Various Authors, How to Be Happy, Positive Thought Tagged With: positive thinking, Positive Thought

Praying for Your Elephant by Adam Stadtmiller (Review of an Amazing Book!)

June 11, 2018 by Joi 2 Comments

Praying for Your Elephant by Adam Stadtmiller

Praying for Your Elephant

I read A LOT of books… Spiritual books, Old Hollywood Biographies, inspirational books, Agatha Christie mysteries, American History books, Ancient Egypt books, cookbooks….

You get the idea. I’m almost always seen with several books in one hand, a caffeinated beverage in the other, and a cat (or two or three) in my lap.

I always have more than one book going at once – usually 3 or 5 because my interests are all over the place. Having said that, three genres are constant:

  • Agatha Christie (I read and re-read her and have one Hercule Poirot mystery going at all times)
  • Inspirational Book
  • Old Hollywood Bio

Agatha Christie is like playtime for my brain.. I simply love everything about her mysteries. Old Hollywood books are an absolute obsession – if I’m not watching an Old Hollywood movie, I’m lost in at least one biography. As for inspirational and Spiritual books – they feed my soul.

The book you see pictured here, Praying for Your Elephant, is one of the best books of any genre I have ever read. You read that right…. I loved it that much.

Have you ever heard of the phrase “Prayer Warrior?” I have considered myself to be a Prayer Warrior for many years. This simply means that I pray day and night with the fervency and determination of a warrior who is smack in the middle of the battlefield. I pray for my family, friends, people I read about, strangers, crazy drivers who run red lights, individuals I see prayer requests for, etc. With this much praying going on and with this much on the line, I need all the inspiration I can get! Naturally, the Bible provides the bulk of said inspiration, but God uses Christian authors to further inspire and motivate.

Prayer does the salvage work of raising the sunken treasure of our lives. – Praying for Your Elephant Page 57 

This particular author, Adam Stadtmiller, has written an extraordinary book and it has taken my prayers to a whole new level. I’ve always believed in asking God for all needs – from small to large and all sizes in between. However, this book has inspired me to go further. It takes the phrase “small to large” and asks, “Why stop at large? Aim for COLOSSAL!”

Elephant-Size Colossal!

From the Back Cover:

What If Your Biggest Prayers are Too Small?

Get ready to re-ignite, re-imagine, and repurpose your prayer life while experiencing great intimacy with God. This is an invitation to identify your elephants—to name, through specific and strategic prayers, the 100 most important and audacious petitions you can imagine. These are the elephants that—if answered by God—would be game changers in your life and perhaps the world.

By supersizing your prayers and daring to ask for the big things – your elephants – you will come to know God in a way you never have, even if His answers aren’t what you expect. Dive deep into the adventure that is the prayer-filled life!

Praying for Your Elephant starts off with a bang. The author guides you into a 40 Day Prayer Challenge: Forty Days to Praying for Your Elephants. He gives you 10 suggested “categories” to create to organize your prayers and all but dares you to pray big!

My take away from this section was to pray as big as the God we’re talking to. Again, COLOSSAL comes to mind.

The book provides a chart for these categories, or you can simply write them down on paper or (my own personal approach) in a Prayer Journal. Writing prayers down helps you to see, over time, which prayers are answered and which ones may take a little longer. I have also experienced something else in my prayer journal – sometimes your prayer changes as God guides you from one destination to the next.

“There is no way that Christians in a private capacity can do so much to promote the work of God, and advance the kingdom  of Christ, as by prayer.” – Jonathan Edwards

Praying for Your Elephant is available on Amazon and I, quite frankly, could not recommend it enough. I love to tell you about books that have the potential to change your life for the better… to help you open up a whole new world… to touch you in such a way that you feel empowered to do anything you set your mind and heart to!

This is such a book and I really hope you’ll grab your copy as soon as possible. You won’t regret it. ~ Joi (“Joy”)

Find out more by visiting Praying for Your Elephant!

About the Author: Adam Stadtmiller is lead pastor at one of the San Diego’s most historic churches, La Jolla Christian Fellowship. A regular contributor to Christianity Today’s Leadership Journal, he is also the author of Give Your Kids the Keys and Discover Your Kid’s Spiritual Gifts. Adam lives in Carlsbad, California, with his wife and two daughters.

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