‘Cause You Got Per-son-al-ity

Walk Personality, Talk Personality, Smile Personality...

Personality Song Lyrics
 

I have always LOVED the song  (You’ve Got) Personality by Lloyd Price. What a voice. In fact, I think his is one of the best voices that have ever carried a tune… and this man carried the heck out of it.

There’s actually a method to my madness today – I’m not just posting cool song videos or doing unsolicited music reviews to suit my fancy (though it most certainly suits it fine). I was making a graphic for an old article I wrote about personalities. As I read over the article, each time I read the word personality, I read it as “per-son-al-ity” – and, you guessed it, it was to the tune of Lloyd Price’s song.

By the time I was through with the graphic, I knew I had to make another one (the one above) while listening to the song.

On repeat.

Click the following link to check out the old post: Is Your Personality an Asset or a Liability? but first, listen to the wonderful song below.

What. A. Voice.

What Are the Scientifically-Claimed Benefits of Acupuncture?

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It’s highly unlikely that your doctor has ever prescribed you with an acupuncture appointment. That’s because much about acupuncture has yet to be proven and alternative treatments would tend to get the nod as they’re far simpler to accomplish and regarded as more reliable. However, it is widely claimed that acupuncture could be a better choice of treatment than drugs or medication in some cases.

Research has supported acupuncture as an effective treatment for a number of health conditions in the past, yet it’s not always clear as to whether it would be the best solution to everyone’s needs. So what does research actually tell us about acupuncture and what specific health problems are best alleviated with this traditional method of treatment? Here are six examples of acupuncture benefits stemming from scientific claim…

Improves Effectiveness and Efficiency of Medicines

A study published in the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine that was carried out in China back in 2009 discovered that small doses of a certain pharmaceutical, when accompanied by acupuncture treatment, was just as effective as a full dosage.

The pharmaceutical used in the study was fluoxetine, which is commonly used to treat depression and relieve anxiety symptoms. It was also found that acupuncture reduced the side effects commonly associated with the drug, such as weight gain and nausea.

Reduces Side Effects from Radiation Treatment

Cancer patients who pursue radiation treatment are likely to experience various side effects depending on the area of the body that is being treated. Acupuncture is capable of relieving many of the symptoms experienced as a result of these side effects, including nausea which is a common side effect for those who are being treated in the head and neck area.

However, a study published in a journal from the American Cancer Society showed that a number of cancer patients undergoing radiation treatment weren’t necessarily relieved of their symptoms despite an improved quality of life after the treatment.

One of the studies described the experiences of a cancer patient using an acupressure band. The patient experienced less nausea but still had the same occurrence of vomiting afterwards. Another study focusing on the “dry mouth” side effect of radiation treatment found that patients experienced less discomfort despite similar levels of saliva being recorded.

These studies seem to show that the symptoms weren’t relieved after all. Instead, acupuncture seemed to improve the quality of life of the patients once treatment had come to an end.

Lessens Persistent Headaches

Migraines and tension headaches can be extremely pleasant for those suffering from them on a regular basis. They are one of the most common reasons for people to visit their GP and tend to occur more often in women, although anyone can be affected by migraines and tension headaches.

A review of 22 studies that involved acupuncture and its effectiveness in treating tension headaches and migraines found that acupuncture could prevent headaches becoming a consistent problem. The studies also found that acupuncture worked well treating existing headaches.

Treats an Aching Back

Scientific studies relating to acupuncture have focused much of their time on back pain due to the common affiliation between alleviating

back pain through the use of acupuncture. Acupuncture treatment for chronic back pain has been well documented by scientists as more and more people are visiting clinics seeking acupuncture as a method of treatment.

A study from an issue in Archives of Internal Medicine found that people provided with simulated acupuncture, which involves pressure being exerted onto the afflicted area of the body without the use of needles, resulted in a 15% improvement on symptoms compared to the treatment offered through standard chiropractics.

Helps Fight Obesity

This is an interesting one as it hasn’t been well documented in the past, but Korean researchers claim their findings have enough substance to suggest that acupuncture could become an effective weight loss treatment in the future. 31 studies were analysed and it was found that acupuncture resulted in a greater decrease in body weight compared to lifestyle changes and other forms of medication.

However, the researchers also said that, despite their ambitious efforts to find a proven affiliation between acupuncture and weight loss, numerous flaws in their studies were found making it very difficult to determine whether obesity in the long run could be treated with acupuncture. The findings were published in a 2009 Obesity journal.

The only conclusion we can take from this type of study is that incorporating acupuncture into a weight loss programme wouldn’t cause any harm and may even result in further healthy gains.

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Setting Personal Goals

Why Setting Goals is Important

Below is an article written by Angel  from Self Help Garden. It’s all about setting personal goals… which is, to be honest, where self improvement magic really begins. – Joi

Napoleon Hill Quote
 Setting Personal Goals by Angel

In thіs short article І am going tо lay оut а fеw components thаt еvеrу goal must hаvе sо thаt іt іs nоt јust аnоthеr “Νеw Year’s Resolution” thаt gеt tossed inside thе “wіsh bin.” Тhеsе components аrе key pieces іn Personal Goals setting аnd will mаkе thе difference bеtwееn gеttіng “thеrе” аnd wising уоu wеrе “thеrе.” Ѕо, dо nоt tаkе thеsе free goal setting tips lightly.

OK, let’s get right to it.

Key Components Іn Personal Goals Setting:

  1. Write іt іn а wау whеrе уоur personal DESIRES аrе included іn thе goal.

For example, іf уоu wаnt tо mаkе mоrе money wіthоut hаvіng tо continuously рut іn working hours аnd уоu dread dealing wіth customers, stаtе уоur goal іn thе fоllоwіng way:

I will search fоr аnd read аbоut hоw аn Affiliate Marketer mаkеs аt lеаst $2000/month аnd complete thіs wіthіn thе nехt 10 days sо І hаvе аn idea оn hоw tо create passive income wіthоut dealing wіth аnу customers.

If thеrе іs nо real desire included, іt іs јust а wіsh.

  1. Маkе surе уоu knоw whеn thе goal hаs ended аnd thаt іt іs а realistic time frame. Іf іt іs а big goal, create mаnу mini time frames аnd goals.

Using thе example goal аbоvе, thе goal will еnd whеn еіthеr уоu finish reading а successful Affiliate Marketer’s “Ноw То…” book оr аftеr thе 10 days expire. Іt іs quantifiable аnd measurable. Intensity іs built іn whеn уоu knоw thеrе іs аn еndіng point. Іf уоu rеаllу nееd thе intensity tо kеер уоu “іn уоur goal”, tеll уоur friend оr family member уоu will gіvе thеm $1000 іf уоu dо nоt complete thіs goal wіthіn 10 days, provided уоu dо nоt bесоmе seriously ill оr gеt іntо аnу serious accidents.

Look аt аll thе games уоu participated іn sо fаr. Yоu knew whеn уоu won оr loss and/or thеrе wаs а definite еnd. Аs уоu gоt closer tо thе еnd оf thе game, уоur intensity grew tоо. Тhіs іs whу іt іs critical tо include quantifiable measurements.

3.Маkе surе уоu consider уоur goal BELIEVABLE аnd achievable.

If уоu hаvе nеvеr played football аnd measure 4’7″, 70 lbs, аnd hitting уоur 60th birthday tomorrow, making а goal tо play іn thе NFL іs а lіttlе unrealistic, іn mу opinion (іf уоu bеlіеvе уоu саn mаkе іt аftеr dоіng sоmе rеsеаrсh, thеn іt fits thіs criteria аnd І sау gо fоr іt).

  1. Маkе уоur goal PERFORMANCE oriented аnd nоt outcome oriented.

This slight adjustment іs vеrу effective sо mаkе surе уоu usе thіs оnе іn аll уоur Personal Goals setting.

In thе example аbоvе, notice уоur goal wаs tо READ 1 Affiliate Marketing book (performance oriented) оf sоmеоnе whо mаkеs аt lеаst $2000/month. Yоur goal wаs ΝОТ tо mаkе $2000/month (outcome oriented). Тhіs іs vеrу іmроrtаnt fоr а couple reasons:

  1. Yоu hаvе МОRЕ CONTROL іn reading а book thаn controlling people tо buy thrоugh уоur links оn уоur website (thіs іs hоw уоu generate income).
  2. Whеn уоu асtuаllу finish thе goal thеrе іs а sense оf accomplishment аnd nоw уоu hаvе created momentum оn уоur side.
  3. Іf thе уоu finish еасh goal (whісh іs easier tо accomplish bесаusе оf thе control factor), rеsults will tаkе care оf thеmsеlvеs. Warren Buffett, thе richest stock investor іn thе wоrld, runs hіs company Berkshire Hathaway іn thіs fashion. Не rewards hіs executives іf thеу complete еасh goal, ΝОТ іf thе company mаkеs $2 Billion іn sales. Не саnnоt control thе business environment аnd оthеr extraneous factors, but hе саn control whаt hе аnd hіs executives dо. Іf іt works fоr а billionaire, whу nоt usе іt fоr уоur personal success?

“It’s Іmроrtаnt Тhаt YОU Create Goals”

If уоu feel уоu аrе nоt good аt completing goals, уоu аrе wrong! Yоu аrе successful аt completing goals аlrеаdу. Lооk аt аll thе (major) accomplishments іn уоur life sо fаr, і.е. job promotions, awards received, savings goals reached, graduations, making thе high school baseball team, еtс. Νоw granted уоu mау nоt hаvе соmе uр wіth thеsе goals уоursеlf (sоmе оf thеm chosen bу уоur parents, teachers, friends, еtс.) оr еvеn written thеm dоwn, thеу wеrе goals thаt wеrе suссеssfullу completed. Тhіs іs whу YОU must start choosing whаt уоu wаnt tо accomplish bесаusе уоu саn аnd DО complete goals.

Now уоur parents, friends, teachers, еtс. planted thеsе goals іn уоur mind wіth good intentions, but dіd іt асtuаllу gеt уоu tо whеrе уоu wanted tо еnd up?

-you wеnt tо school fоr а degree…goal accomplished.

-you gоt а high paying job…goal accomplished.

-you bought а nice car…goal accomplished.

-you bought а nice house…goal accomplished.

Now, уоu hаvе tо WORK untіl ____ years оld sо уоu саn pay оff debt (аs opposed tо, fоr example, nоt hаvіng tо WORK but stіll hаvе income coming іn thrоugh passive means).

Now іf thаt іs whеrе уоu wanted tо еnd uр, thеn аll thоsе goals уоu accomplished wеrе rіght іn lіnе wіth gеttіng уоu tо уоur “nirvana.” Congratulations оn а well laid оut plan аnd аll уоur successes.

If іt wаs nоt thе “nirvana” уоu visualized, thеn start writing dоwn goals thаt WILL gеt уоu tо live а blissful, fulfilling,and satisfying life.

“Do nоt wait; thе time will nеvеr bе ‘just right’. Start whеrе уоu stand аnd work wіth whаtеvеr tools уоu mау hаvе аt уоur command аnd better tools will bе fоund аs уоu gо along.” -Napoleon Hill

And уеs, thеrе will bе struggles аlоng thе wау, but уоu асtuаllу WАΝТ thаt. Іt іs overcoming thоsе struggles thаt will gеt уоu mаnу (addictive) natural “highs!” Наvе уоu еvеr solved а problem thаt оthеr (family members) соuld nоt solve, еvеn thоugh іt tооk уоu hours оr days tо solve іt? Тhаt sense оf accomplishment аftеr trуіng аnd trуіng іs suсh аn awesome feeling! Іf уоu hаvеn’t experienced thіs feeling, І suggеst уоu lооk fоr sоmеthіng thаt аnоthеr family member оr friend саnnоt solve аnd solve іt fоr thеm. Тhе harder іt іs fоr уоu, thе better thе “high” will bе. Νо drugs needed tо gеt “high,” рlus уоu саn profit frоm gеttіng “high” аt thе sаmе time. Whаt а deal!

“We find nо real satisfaction оr happiness іn life wіthоut obstacles tо conquer аnd goals tо achieve.” - Maxwell Maltz

Personal goal setting іs fun whеn уоu knоw whаt components tо include аnd knоw thаt уоu аrе planning tо gо whеrе YОU wаnt tо go.

If уоu dо whаt аll thе rest аrе nоt dоіng (writing dоwn goals), уоu will gеt whаt thеу аrе nоt gеttіng (а successful аnd fulfilling life). Маkе UЅЕ оf thеsе free goal setting tips аnd start creating а goal, now!

 

Money Secrets from C-Suite Coach Tony Robbins

What three things does self-help guru Tony Robbins think anyone can and should do to catch their next big break?

In an interview with Rebecca Jarvis, the host of Real Biz with Rebecca Jarvis and ABC News’ chief business and economics correspondent, Robbins shares his secret to creating the best strategy to break through barriers and get results in the shortest period of time. Click the link above to see what he has to say!

 

How We Can Use Cognitive Therapy to Conquer Fears

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Fears come in a huge range of shapes and sizes. Fears can be minor, or can be so cripplingly large that they affect the way you live your life and how you go about from day to day. In most cases, we live with our minor fears, simply avoiding things we find uncomfortable, avoiding situations in which these fears might pop up. For others however, it is not so simple.

The two types of Fear; Irrational and Rational, can both be a major cause for concern in you to enjoy life as it comes. Rational Fears; fears that are based off of solid evidence or a personal experience, are healthy fears to have, if you do not let them control your life. Irrational Fears can also be based off of personal experience, but are more often than not elaborations on a feeling of unease or an association with a bad experience. These fears do more harm than good, so it is important to know how to identify these fears and to start going about getting control over them.

Identifying the Fear and the Possible Cause of It
Let us say that you have a fear of enclosed spaces. In part, this is a totally rational fear as evolution tells us that being caught in enclosed spaces is not beneficial for our survival. The fear is present in years and years of conditioning that enables you to look at a small space and think ‘that is not safe, I do not like that space’ and therefore feel fear from it. However this cannot hinder your ability to work in small or enclosed spaces and how it affects you personally can have an effect on how you live your life.

When the fear starts to negatively affect the way in which you live, this becomes a problem. If you have never personally experienced a bad situation as a result of enclosed spaces, this is where the fear starts to cross over into the realms of irrational fears.

The fear is of enclosed spaces; the cause of this fear is that people have died before from being trapped in enclosed spaces.

The Challenges with Avoiding or even facing the Fear
As you go through life, there may be situations where you will be required to face your fear. This is a natural part of life and although many people go through life without ever having to face their fears, a fear of enclosed spaces is one which you are likely to face often throughout your lifetime. How society is currently living; with daily commutes, office blocks filled with hundreds of people, cars, elevators, all of these encompass the idea of being in an enclosed space. Now you see your problem.

With a fear such as enclosed spaces, avoiding such a fear when we encounter closed space every single day can be an impossible task. However facing a fear can also have an adverse affect, if you do not approach it in the right way. Gradual acceptance of the fear is often proved more effective than just simple ‘throwing someone in at the deep end’ and Cognitive Hypnotherapy works in conjunction with this gradual process in order to help you realise and control your fear.

Accepting the Fear as a Part of you
Denial is just a way to hinder your own progress. Fears can be debilitating, embarrassing, situational and even life-changing, but they are a part of you. By realising this, you are on your way to accepting your fear and making mental and emotional adjustments in order to change the way you think about your fear. All behaviour has a purpose, and with Cognitive Hypnotherapy it is believed that 90% of the actions you take from day to day are driven by the unconscious or subconscious mind. Negative behaviours, including fears, brought on by the unconscious mind are done as a result of the brain thinking that these behaviours will bring your life benefit.

It is important to start proactively thinking about these behaviours and how you want to change them. The brain if not a series of functions set in stone; it makes mistakes, it can be developed, it can also be changed in order to re-think a preconceived notion about a thing; enclosed spaces for example. The brain is given these signals particularly when you are very young and these can develop into serious problems.

How Cognitive Hypnotherapy Can Help
By using Cognitive Hypnotherapy you are essentially re-wiring your brain in a manner that suits you. This includes activities conducted that help alleviate the stress and negative connotations associated with the fear. For example, a good way to face a fear is to use the reasoning technique; Why am I frightened? What happened in the past? What are the chances of it happening again? What would I do in such a situation? How likely is it that this situation will be completely inescapable? How many people have encountered this situation before?

Providing yourself with an internal monolog of actions and re-actions to a perceived fear can help you with it. However it is important to keep a calm head and to work through each action and re-action slowly, as trying to think of a hypothetical solution too quickly could lead to panicking and overall worsening of the fears. All in all, slow and steady, positive thinking can work wonders in helping you come to terms with a fear and then eventually, overcoming it.

Sarah Price is a marketing executive for www.helendaytherapy.co.uk; a UK based cognitive hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner specialising in conquering stress, anxiety and confidence issues.

 

 

10 Tips for Starting Your Own Blog

There's A Lot to Consider Before You Write Your First Word

Alexa

My boss, Alexa, questioning a post title.

I recently received an e-mail from a VERY sweet lady who was interested in beginning her own inspirational blog. She asked, like many have over the years, if I had any tips, suggestions, or advice.

I thought I could actually best serve her (and possibly even you, if you have an interest in this sort of thing) by devoting a post to the subject.

Jumping right into the Top 10, I will start with the most important tip of all….

 1.  Be absolutely certain this is what you want to do. I’m certainly not trying to talk anyone out of their decision to have a blog – far from it. If you have equal amounts of time, determination, and ability – having your own blog can be extremely rewarding. There are many great benefits – running the gamut from earning a little extra income to honing your writing skills. If your subject requires research, you can also keep your mind sharp… which, let’s face it, is always a good thing.

However, as someone who has done this for well over 10 years, I feel it’s only fair to point out a few things:

  • Running a blog takes a great deal of work.  It isn’t simply a matter of typing out a few thoughts and popping a picture at the top. The reason you see SO many abandoned blogs along the internet highway is the fact that what looks so easy and simple really isn’t. At all. It takes time and it takes commitment. For anyone with a full-time job, I’d strongly consider thinking long and hard before jumping into something that’ll take more time away from recess.  I work, full time, from home and even I find the work load to be overwhelming at times. When it’s time to get up and fix supper or clean house, I often find myself jumping out of my seat like a kid at the end of a school day.  Bottom line? It’s work.  Frustrating line? Few people see it as such.
  • There are a lot of “technical” aspects to blogging that you’ll need to learn – preferably before you even buy your domain. You’ll need to have at least a “good” understanding of search engines (seo – search engine optimization – will become a permanent resident in your subconscious thoughts).  You’ll also need to learn the rules and regulations of using content and pictures (basically, use your own – more about that later), “plugins,” link-building, disclaimers, privacy statements, graphics, themes, etc.  If you’re accustomed to Facebook or Tumblr, beware that having a blog is nothing like these social media websites.  A lot of people have the misconception that it’s basically the same thing, and it really isn’t. At all.
  • There are costs involved. If you’re going to run a website or blog, and do it right, there are costs involved. I’ll spell them out below, but (again, unlike Facebook and other social media sites), it isn’t free.
  • Speaking of social media websites…  You can create a great following and help tons of people simply by being active on Twitter, Facebook, or another social media website.  If you were to decide that having your own blog IS more work than you’d counted on, you don’t have to give up on reaching out to people or throw out the idea of expressing yourself creatively. Simply build a following on your favorite social media website and interact there.
  • Finally, consider guest posts. I work with people on each of my blogs in the area of guest posts. If an individual is not promoting a website or product that isn’t relevant to my subject, I am more than happy to consider publishing their article or articles on one of my websites. I’ve published quite a few on Self Help Daily, alone.  The authors of these posts are credited, of course, and have an opportunity to reach people they might not otherwise have the chance to reach.  Guest posts are simple to do – simply search out blogs that are relevant to your subject and contact the owner. Ask if they accept guest posts and ask if you can submit one for consideration. I’ve often had people ask me if there’s a particular subject I’d like for them to write about… I always think that’s pretty cool. Just be sure to only submit original articles that you have written yourself and never submit the same article more than once. Once a blog has published an article, it’s done – don’t ever submit the same on anyplace else. It’s called duplicate content and it’s bad, bad, bad. Suffice to say, it’s a terrible way to get on a website owner’s good side.

 2. Decide on Your Niche.  If you’re still reading, I assume you either are wholly committed to the idea or are simply one of those people who follow through anything they begin to the end. Either way – my hat’s off to you!

If you are certain you want to make the commitment to having your own blog, decide upon your subject. While some “personal blogs” are successful, most people do not enjoy reading what the average person eats, drinks, or thinks.  And selfies? Yeah, you can probably go ahead and keep them to yourself.

People are more interested (understandably!) in how THEY can get more out of life. They’re interested in how you can help them improve themselves and, as a result, improve their life.

They don’t care as much about seeing you happy as they care about what you can do to make them happy.

You need a good, solid “niche” (subject) and this niche needs to be obvious to your readers right away. If you have something to offer people that is worthwhile… something that can help them.. then you have solid ground to build on.

 3. Take a Look at What’s Already Out There. This one’s tough to explain, but I’ll do my level best.  If your subject is one that is uncommonly popular, you’re probably going to be one small fish in a great big ocean.  For example, if anyone were to start a food blog today, they’d be up against it. WAY up against it.  Not only are there countless recipe websites online (Food Network, Cooking Channel…), every conceivable food product has their own website – complete with, you guessed it, recipes. Add Pinterest, with it’s limitless recipes, and a food blogger has their work cut out for them. How do I know? I’m a food blogger! I began my food blog Get Cooking! many years ago.  I didn’t do it for any other reason than the fact that I loved to cook and experiment with recipes and I wanted a “cool” place to accumulate my recipes, tips, and advice for my three daughters.  Over the years, competition for visitors to a food blog has become nuts. The tricky thing is – you want your subject to be popular enough for people to care… but not so popular that… well, again, you end up a tiny little fish swimming with sharks. If you DO decide to run with a subject that’s greatly saturated, just be sure you stand out!  Look at the different blogs in your niche – take a good look at the top 10 that show up in Google. Ask yourself (honestly) if there’s anything that you could or would do differently.

 4. You’ll Need a Domain Name. From the start, I have used GoDaddy.com for all of my domains.  They are completely trustworthy, dependable, and have a stellar reputation. In the RARE event a problem does arise, their people are lightning fast in responding to the issue. You’ll want to choose a domain name that’s easy to remember and easy to spell. When naming your website and choosing your domain name, be sure to (again) search on Google and make sure you aren’t stepping on any toes that are already on the dance floor.  You pay for a domain name yearly , but it’s a very low price – around $12 – $15.

 5.  You’ll Also Need a Reliable Host.   GoDaddy.com also offers hosting but I’ve always used HostGator. Completely trustworthy and helpful  – plus, I’m pretty crazy about the gator. You can find all of the information you need about domains and hosting on either one of these websites. Each spell everything out beautifully and there are always helpful experts on the other side of the phone or e-mail.

6. You’ll Must Have WordPress.  A lot of articles about “starting your own blog” will outline your different options. Not me. I’m just going to tell you, flat out, you need WordPress. It’s free and it’s the best platform for your blog. The best plugins and “themes” are made with WordPress in mind and, when it comes to your readers, it’s by far the best.

7. You’ll Need a Theme. A blog theme is basically it’s “design.”  There are free themes available, and you’ll be able to access a great number of these as soon as you install WordPress. However, free themes can come with a lot of headaches and, no matter what you do, they will almost always look as free as they are. If you plan to treat your blog as a business, you’ll want to purchase a premium theme. A quick Google search (“Premium WordPress Themes”) will give you plenty to choose from.  Before purchasing one, be sure to read different reviews of the theme and theme’s creator. Also, look at their different demos, and ask yourself, “How much tweaking and customizing went into this? Is it something I could do?”  Most of us weren’t born with the information to code or design websites or blogs. It’s incredibly complicated, in fact, so be sure you find the most intuitive and easy-to-use and understand theme possible.  I stand 110 percent behind the GetNoticed Theme.  In fact, I tend to get annoyed with my blogs that aren’t yet sporting this theme!

8. Graphics and Headers, Oh My!  See the “logo” at the top of the page – it says “Self Help Daily – Inspirational Blog with a Save the World Complex.”  This is called a “header” and your blog will most assuredly need one of these. 9 out of 10 people are best served by finding someone online (a graphic artist) to hire for this part of the process.  Unless you have Photoshop (EXPENSIVE!) and some experience with graphic art, paying someone to design a logo for you would be the smartest way to go.  They’ll need to know the dimensions (information found within your theme), colors, whether you want it to be transparent or not, and possibly even some information about the font(s) you had in mind.  If you find a graphic artist you’re thrilled with, be sure to keep them in mind for future work.

 9. A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words. When it comes to content and pictures you publish on your website, you can find endless advice online about what pictures to use, where to find “free, loyalty-free images,” etc.  Yet again, I guess you could say my advice is narrow-minded…. use your own.  People have been taken to court for using other people’s pictures. Actually, it happens every day. Personally, I don’t even trust the websites that tell you to use their pictures free because, unless I know where that picture came from… how do I know IT wasn’t once taken from someone else?! I’d much rather eliminate all worry and prevent all headaches by only using only pictures I (or a member of my family, of course) have taken.  I also simply make a lot of graphics – such as the quote graphics you see everywhere on the website. These are perfect for a blog because they’ll be shared on Pinterest, Facebook, and Twitter. If you use someone’s quote on your blog, always give their name and never post anyone’s content as your own.

10.  If You’re Looking to Make Money…. Sorry, Charlie, it’s the rare fish that strikes it rich. Maybe it’s because this blog is an inspirational, self-help blog, but most of the people I hear from aren’t looking to start a blog for money as much as they are simply interested in reaching out and helping others. However, most people DO think, “Eh, I can make my own blog and make a lot of money… people will pay me to advertise, people will buy books….”  When I come across that mindset, I think, “Bless your heart…. bless your heart..”

Blogging is like anything else, really – sometimes people strike it rich, but most of the time they don’t get anywhere near anything resembling rich.  The only “riches” I’ve ever known had last names… and there was only one of them:  Rich Brooks, a former UK Football coach.

And I never even met him!

Yes, there are more people online than ever before – common sense would tell you that this is where the money is, right? Problem is this: The internet is saturated with websites and social media. There are thousands upon thousands of websites covering every niche known to man, woman, or cat.  The streams of income that were once “handsome” online are starting to look downright “homely.”

Social Media can be a two-edged sword. While it can, hopefully, be used to draw people to your website – the competition for people’s attention has never been greater.  A great, great, great number of people… when they get online… go to Twitter or Facebook and that’s it.  They jump on, then they jump off. You have a small window of opportunity to catch them and pull them to your blog.

It can be done, mind you – but, again, it takes work.  It takes time, self-confidence, determination, elbow grease, and… to be perfectly honest… more than a little stubbornness.

BONUS Tip: A somewhat thick skin will serve you well. People can be jerks sometimes and putting yourself “out there” invites the jerks to approach you. Whether on Twitter, in e-mail, or in your blog’s comments, the jerks will appear from time to time.  They seemingly have no life of their own to speak of, so they’ll simply try to bring you down to their  level of misery.  There are spell check police who degrade you if you accidentally leave an i or an e out of a word, there are clowns who are anti-God, anti-America, and anti-just about anything you can think of who just sit out there ready to pounce on anyone who DARES to be pro anything, and there are simply people who live to start stuff.

Years ago, I tried to reason with the jerks of the world. I’d be as sweet and hospitable as my Kentucky upbringing demands. Southern charm would ooze out.

More times than not, approaching jerks that way is about as effective as spraying perfume over a cow pasture.

You have to realize that miserable people try to spread misery the way happy people try to spread happiness. Always remind yourself that the problem lies with them, not you. If you allow them to make you miserable, they’ve won.  Come on now… that’s the last thing we want!

Spray a little perfume, if you must, then walk away as fast as possible before you step in anything.

If you have any questions and/or advice, please leave a comment below.

~ Joi

Alexa


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How to Read More Often AND How to Get More Out of Reading

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Quote About Books
 

If one of your New Year’s Resolutions was to read more, I hope you’re just blazing a trail right through a string of amazing books! If you fell off a little bit over the past few weeks, I  hope I can help you get back on track.

First a few things about reading:

  • Reading is, to the mind, what travel is to the body. It opens up a whole new world!
  • Reading has been proven to help a GREAT deal in the prevention of dementia, including Alzheimer’s Disease.
  • If you read inspirational books, they can help lift your spirits to new heights.
  • As wonderful as books are, remember that reading is only as valuable as the books you read.  Reading bad books isn’t really much better than not reading any books at all.

 The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who can’t read. – Mark Twain

How to Read More Often

If finding time for reading is an issue for you, I have a few suggestions.

  1. Keep a book near one of your favorite spots.  For example, I’m almost always reading more than one book at a time. I’m always (and when I say always, I mean always!) in the middle of an Agatha Christie mystery, so I keep her nearby at all times. I’m also, at any given time, reading a cookbook or book about cooking/food, a historical non-fiction book (history buff), and a self help related book (usually to review for Self Help Daily).  I keep the cookbook or food-related book in the kitchen, so I can read it during lunch or breakfast – sometime during the day when it’s just me and my cat Alexa dining.  I keep the historical non-fiction book near my chair in the den, and the self help related book is kept by my bed.  Wherever I happen to be, during the day, I have a book nearby. It really doesn’t take a lot of time to read a chapter, after all, and they can be slipped in at just about any given time.
  2. Fall in love with reading e-Books! Whether you have a Kindle or download books to your iPad or iPod, this is the ultimate way to keep your book with you at all times. I have a Kindle, but I also download books right to my iPad, so it’s convenient to keep Hercule Poirot with me at all times.  In celebration of National Reading Month, Amazon’s Kindle is just $59, twenty dollars less than the regular price. Amazon is also the perfect spot to order your books – whether they’re physical books or downloadable books. Amazon also has you covered for the next suggestion…
  3. Two words: Audio Books.  Audio books are a dream come true for a lot of people – people who are on the road a lot, people with attention spans that tend to wander, and people who aren’t just busy, but darn busy!  You can listen to your book being read to you while driving, doing dishes, taking a bath, doing chores, etc. It’s still “reading” and it’s still gaining information and, when applicable, inspiration and motivation.
  4. Set goals.  Pick a book you’d really love to read and set a deadline. Map out the number of chapters and the amount of time you’ll devote to each. Most people will rise up to a goal, even if it’s one they set themselves.
  5. Choose a reading buddy.  Plan to begin reading a certain book with a friend or family member, with each grabbing their own copy of the book. People always watch tv shows and discuss them, why not treat books the same way? I’m in the middle of a WONDERFUL book, John Adams, by David McCullough and I often wish someone I knew were reading it as well. The topics of conversation would be epic.  This book is available in every conceivable format on Amazon and, I just can’t possibly say enough good things about it. This is a book to end all books.
  6. Read about what interests you.  I am a huge history buff, so I can’t get enough of historical books, biographies, and autobiographies.  I’m such a history nut, I could read a History text book just for fun. And I have.  Think of a subject (or subjects) that interest you, then search out books relating to this subject(s).
  7. Explore different Fiction niches and authors. If you don’t think you’d enjoy reading fiction, try a few different authors and even niches before you swear off fiction entirely.  You’ll probably come across a particular author and think, “Now I want to read everything this author wrote!”
  8. Get a Library Card and Use it.  Whether you prefer fiction or non-fiction, you’ll probably find that visiting a library is just as fun as an adult as it was when you were a kid. More so, actually, because we actually LIKE quiet now.  Library trips can be the most tranquil and relaxing part of your week – especially if you find a comfy chair or table and dive right in… to the chair and the book.
  9. Make Reading a Personal Retreat.  Set aside a time where you grab a cup of coffee or tea and escape with your book. It’ll become a time that you look forward to each day.
  10. Get great ideas for books to read from book reviews. You can find killer non-fiction book reviews AND fiction book reviews online.

How to Get More Out of What You Read

To read without reflecting is like eating without digesting. – Edmund Burke

I actually asked the biggest book lover in the world to share with you her tips for getting the most out of books.  Below is the advice from author, book reviewer, and book lover extraordinaire Emily Dill:

I have one main tip for non-fiction and one main tip for fiction. When reading non-fiction, my main tip for getting the most out of the material is TAKE NOTES. No matter what kind of non-fiction book, I’m reading, I take notes as I go.

Bob Harper book about exercise or nutrition? I write things down as I go.

A book about how to write an entire novel in the month of November? Take notes.

An Amen Clinics book about keeping your brain healthy? Yep, notes.

My main tip for getting the most out of fiction is to read in a quiet area. I know a lot of people brag about reading while the tv is on, kids are yelling, music is playing, and so on, but that doesn’t work for me. And it probably doesn’t work for most people either, because I can promise you they’re missing a few things in their reading. It has happened to me before – when I try to read in a loud or active room, I’ll end up reading the same page two or three times and still missing things.

So treat yourself and concentrate 100% on your reading – that book deserves your full attention!

I totally agree with the tip about taking notes! I am a note taker from way back. Writing something down helps you retain the information – it can also serve as a fantastic reference point, specially for long books or if you’re reading different books covering the same subject.

This actually brings me to another tip for getting the most out of reading.  If you find a particular subject that you enjoy reading about, search out as many books relating to this subject as possible. Make a list of all the different subjects you want to learn more about.  You can get inspiration for reading subjects anyplace – just pay attention to the things that spike your interest and follow through.

Here’s an example: My husband and I watched a GREAT mini-series on the History Channel, Sons of Liberty. Was this History nut ever in Heaven?!?!  By the time the series ended, I had a LONG list of subjects I wanted to delve further into: John Adams, Abigail Adams, John Hancock, Thomas Jefferson, George Washington, The Boston Massacre, the Tea Party, Paul Revere, Benjamin Franklin… and on and on.

Suffice to say, I have enough subjects to last several years!

My note-taking will really come in handy while reading through these fascinating subjects. I can cross-reference and see, for example, where George Washington was (and what he was up to) during the Tea Party, or what Abigail Adams thought of Benjamin Franklin… that sort of mentally delicious thing.

You should also pause to reflect on what you’ve read with fiction as well as non-fiction. Think back over the lessons that could be carried away from the characters, their experiences, their choices, etc.

A good book should leave you… slightly exhausted at the end. You live several lives while reading it. – William Styron

I hope this article will serve as inspiration to you in your quest for reading more and for getting more from your reading. Thanks again to Emily for her words of wisdom and experience.

If you have any reading tips of your own, please share them with us in the comments!

~ Joi

All the secrets of the world are contained in books. Read at your own risk. – Lemony Snicket

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“We are told to let our light shine, and if it does, we won’t need to tell anybody it does. Lighthouses don’t fire cannons to call attention to their shining – they just shine.” – Dwight L. Moody

 

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People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys (Review)

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People Can't Drive You Crazy if You Don't Give them the Keys
 

Continuing the Focus of 2015: Building a Happier Family!

A while back,  I downloaded an interesting sounding e-book, People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys (Kindle edition link) by Mike Bechtle.  I fell in love with the cover image Come on, who wouldn’t be? It’s a duck. In a snazzy jacket with a whackadoodle hat.

And can we talk about the fact that he has green hair?

The title is, to be honest, what initially caught my eye. Even before the duck. The title reminds me of a something I always said to my three daughters while they were growing up. I don’t know about where you live, but in Kentucky we have a popular saying, “He’s getting my goat…” or “That really gets my goat..”

With three little girls, I often heard, “She just gets my goat…” In one of our infamous, “table talks,” I told my girls, “People can only get your goat if you put it out in the open. If they know where your goat is, it’s easy pickings.”

The title of this book just kind of reminded me of homespun wisdom and it had me at “crazy.”

When doing book reviews, as I often point out, I want to give a great “feel” for the book without giving the entire premise away. If I were to lay out all the brilliance of a particular book right here, why would you need to read it for yourself?

Since I VERY much want everyone to read People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys (paperback link) as soon as they humanly can, I’m going to tread lightly.  I hope you’ll stick with this book review, even if it gets lengthy – this book is extra special.

As we continue the focus of 2015 on Self Help Daily, Building a Happier Family, I have to strongly suggest everyone read this book. If you are a really, really busy individual, and simply don’t have time to devote 30 minutes to an hour reading each day, I have a few solutions…

A reaction is how we feel; a response is what we do. Reactions are automatic, but we choose our responses. – Mike Bechtle, People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys

Like most books, this particular WINNER is available in a variety of formats, so there’s simply no reason NOT to make this the next book you read… even if you read it with your ears.

The beauty of People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys (as it relates to building a happier family) is that it gives you the motivation, information, and inspiration you need to do your part to make your family the happiest family in town.  This book is, also, ideal reading for anyone who’s looking to improve their relationships at work or school (or anywhere for that matter) – but since our focus is on families… we’ll just stay seated around the dining room table rather than a board room table.

The food’s better anyway.

As I said, I read People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys on my iPad – so I couldn’t highlight or underline extra-insightful and/or humorous quotes and paragraphs. I could, however, write them down – and I did just that. You never saw so many notes and notations!

…. Your emotions got the best of you, and your crazy person has you dangling in her grip like a bungee jump gone bad….  Mike Bechtle, People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys

True story: One night a History Channel show that my husband and I wouldn’t miss for a million dollars had just gone off.  I knew I had about 15 minutes to read a little something before bedtime, so I grabbed my iPad to read from one of my e-books. I flew past PCDYCIFDGTTK (looks like a cat just walked across the keyboard, doesn’t it?) and chose an Agatha Christie mystery I was in the middle of. Why? I didn’t have my pen and notebook with me and I knew that even just 15 minutes with PCDYCIFDGTTK would have produced more than a few note-worthy points.

It’s that good.

For one thing, People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys is a very enjoyable and entertaining read. The author is absolutely hilarious. I’ve read that he’s a popular speaker and I can absolutely see why. GREAT sense of humor.  The sense of humor and warm stories about his own family and friends (including precious granddaughters) make for a very, very special book.

A certain passage about the author’s oldest granddaughter reminded me so much of my oldest daughter (Emily) that it’s beyond uncanny.  I was delighted –  the world can never have too many colorful, detail-oriented, little girls who march to the beat of their own drum. They grow up to be colorful, detail-oriented young women who just keep on marching.

People Can’t.. is also a really “fast reading” book.  When you aren’t taking notes, that is.

A lot of self help or self improvement books are good, while you’re reading them, but fail to “stick.”  This is not one of those books. It’s fantastic while you’re in the middle of it, and it sticks like super glue.

History brings us to where we are right now, but it doesn’t have to dictate how we respond in the future. – Mike Bechtle, People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys

I will, in the foreseeable future often quote or refer back to this wonderful book. However, I have to give you one of the most profound messages or points from the author and his wonderful book.

Ever read a quote or a passage that is so profound and packs such a wallop that you go back and re-read it… allowing it to wallop you from the other side? Early in the book, Mike Bechtle hits the nail on the head when he says, “Never allow yourself to become a victim of anyone else’s shortcomings or weaknesses.

I read a lot.  A LOT. But it has been ages since a single cluster of words had such an impact on me. When we allow others to impact our peacefulness or happiness, we become their victim. This could be anyone..

  • rude servers
  • inefficient store clerks
  • family members
  • co-workers
  • friends
  • toxic people online…. I’m looking at you social media

…. anyone, anywhere, anytime. If we allow them to remove us from where we want to be —- content, peaceful, happy —- and place us anywhere else, we are at their mercy. Worse, we are their victim.

I guess I’d just never thought of it that way before. Since reading (and re-reading) the words, however, I’ve thought about it plenty!  There are a lot of jackals in this world, after all.  Not one has victimized me since.

Not even vile online toxicity rattles my cage anymore.  If I see someone being a complete jackal, I just thank God that it isn’t my jackal and go about my business.

Book Synopsis: Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes they seem like they’re on a mission to make us miserable! There’s always that one person. The one who hijacks your emotions and makes you crazy. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If you could just FIX that person, everything would be better. But we can’t fix other people – we can only make choices about ourselves. In this cut-to-the-chase book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows readers that they don’t have to be victims of other people’s craziness.

With commonsense wisdom and practical advice that can be implemented immediately, Bechtle gives readers a proven strategy to handle crazy people.

More than just offering a set of techniques, Bechtle offers a new perspective that will change readers’ lives as they deal with those difficult people who just won’t go away.

How Can People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys help You?

Let’s get right down to it, want to? Why should you get your hands, eyes, and possibly ears on this book as soon as possible?

Because you deserve to be happy. Simple as that.

Yes, reading this book can help you keep peace within your family. Yes, the author’s wonderful advice can help you get along with even the craziest of the crazies, at work or home.  Yes, if you read this book and allow it to sink in, you can have the kind of peaceful, happy family holidays you see in tv commercials.

But, just for a minute, don’t think about any of that. Just for a minute, put everyone and everything else out of your mind and only think about yourself. It isn’t easy to live in a world of crazies – they’re everywhere, after all.  They can, and will, leave their footprints on your psyche. You’ll find yourself coming unglued, sighing deeply, whining, crying, and arguing with people over the silliest things. If it continues, you may even find yourself unable to sleep or unwind as well as you once did and your health can (and will) pay for the turmoil.

A lack of harmony in your life and an inability to “deal” with the handiwork of a crazy person can affect every corner of your life.

This book will help you clean out those corners. You’ll be happier and, as a result, everyone around you will be happier.

Think about it – if you feel tension in your family or at work, everyone feels it.  A tense individual in a room is like a caged tiger. Everyone focuses on the show, holding their breath waiting for the roar.

If you aren’t handling your crazy person (or crazy people, if you’re an over-achiever) well, you’re making everyone around you tense, unhappy, and downright miserable. Whether you encounter your crazies at work or home, you will be happier when you know how to cope with them.

You know I always level with my readers – and I’m telling you right now, this is a book you have to read.  This one’s a life-changer. ~ Joi

 “Never allow yourself to become a victim of anyone else’s shortcomings or weaknesses.” – Mike Bechtle

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