“If you think that I’m nuts, you may be right. But I’m a nut with a positive attitude, baby!” – Jeffrey Gitomer, Little Gold Book of YES! Attitude: How to Find, Build and Keep a YES! Attitude for a Lifetime of SUCCESS (Great, great book!)
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Muhammad Ali on Affirmations
“It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.” – Muhammad Ali
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Smiles, Dimples & Evil Clown Zombies
I’ve often wondered… if I could get one message across with my Self Help blog, what would I want it to be? In addition to raising everyone’s consciousness about the treatment of animals and children, I’d want most of all to help people find happiness. True, lasting happiness. The kind that you feel washing over you so abundantly that you find it difficult NOT to smile.
I was (as I often am) watching a baseball game a few nights and a favorite player and possibly the best the game has ever seen, Albert Pujols, hit a home run. He caught sight of one of his coaches as he rounded third and couldn’t help smiling. He approaches the game maturely and professionally, but he also enjoys the heck out of it, so smile he did.
“One filled with joy preaches without preaching”. – Mother Teresa
Smiles are beautiful things, aren’t they?
It occurred to me then, I HATE the thought of anyone not having a reason to smile. You’ve heard the saying, “He (or she) lights up a room when they smile.” right? Well I’ll let you in on a little secret, everyone lights up the room when they smile because smiles are beautiful. The beauty isn’t in the teeth – it’s in the joy.
You can be as happy as you want to be. You can be as fulfilled as you want to be. You can be as successful as you want to be. You don’t have to be lonely, sad, blue, overwhelmed, or angry. You’re at the wheel of your own life! Take control of your mind and you’ll take control of your life.
One way you can do this is to STOP saying negative things to yourself. When you engage in self-negative-talk, you’re creating a destructively negative environment. Below are some “trade offs” that’ll help:
- When you’re alone, whether at home or in your car, instead of saying, “I’m lonely” and focusing on the sadness that would come with such a statement, say, “This is relaxing!” and focus on the peacefulness that comes with such a statement.
- When your husband or boyfriend loses himself in a game (whether it’s golf, tennis, baseball, or video games), instead of saying things like, “He’s so immature,” focus on how glad you are that he’s healthy and young at heart! SO much better for your relationship. Bonus advice… and this one’s a deal maker… have your own interests and hobbies. Never, ever, ever rely on someone else to entertain or amuse you.
- When you begin to berate your appearance, switch your focus immediately to your best trait. When I was growing up, I never had a problem with weight. Ever. Three children took care of that as well as my husband takes care of a cheeseburger. GONE! After my third daughter, for whatever reasons, I had t-r-o-u-b-l-e losing the “baby weight” and actually kept picking up more. I was in my mid-twenties and feeling very self-conscious about my weight. Even as a baby self-help diva, I realized that I needed to stop focusing on the hips (though they were becoming almost impossible NOT to focus on!) and focus instead on a trait I liked. So, whenever a thought like, “I’ll never get back into a size 8..” popped into my head I’d follow it up with, “But who cares, look at those dimples!” I even stopped myself once in the middle of a self-destructive thought and said out loud, “Yep! I still have those dimples!“
We all have trials and tribulations roll into our lives. We have our share of valleys and sometimes those valleys seem to be haunted with evil clown zombies. But the simple truth is our attitude and our disposition will determine how deep the valley goes. What’s more, they know the secret passage out of the valley. Do I have to point out how important it is to keep them close at hand? Happiness is a secret power that can get you in and out of more places than fame and fortune combined.
Smiling when it’s the last thing you really want to do is an art, but it’s one that’ll serve you well. A funny thing happens when you smile, you trick your brain into thinking all’s well in Dodge. It’s as though your brain says, “Oh, a smile, things must be good!” Try it, it sounds odd, but it’s true. Of course, the effect is even sweeter if you can find a reason to laugh.
A final happiness tip: Watch out for things that are Happiness Zappers. A common culprit is the news. Even the commercials that tell you what’s coming up on the evening news can leave you feeling down all day! Thank God for mute buttons. Surround yourself with things that give you joy and make you smile. Everything else? Kick them to the curb.
Eden is that old-fashioned house we dwell in every day
Without suspecting our abode until we drive away.
– Emily Dickinson
Hans Christian Anderson on Life
“Just living is not enough. One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower.” – Hans Christian Anderson
More quotes about life.
A Look at Life by The Eagles
Is life sometimes unfair? Absolutely. Does life often snatch victory right from your hands and replace it with an epic failure? You bet. Can past mistakes and personal losses seem to heavy to carry? Most of the time, actually. Could you legitimately write a thousand and one “done me wrong” songs? At least! But, every now and then, we just have to LITERALLY take a few verses from a song by The Eagles and Get Over It!
GET OVER IT
by The Eagles
I turn on the tube and what do I see
A whole lotta people cryin’ ’don’t blame me’
They point their crooked little fingers at everybody else
Spend all their time feelin’ sorry for themselves
Victim of this, victim of that
Your momma’s too thin; your daddy’s too fat
Get over it
Get over it
All this whinin’ and cryin’ and pitchin’ a fit
Get over it, get over it
You say you haven’t been the same since you had your little crash
But you might feel better if I gave you some cash
The more I think about it, old billy was right
Let’s kill all the lawyers, kill ’em tonight
You don’t want to work, you want to live like a king
But the big, bad world doesn’t owe you a thing
Get over it
Get over it
If you don’t want to play, then you might as well split
Get over it, get over it
It’s like going to confession every time I hear you speak
You’re makin’ the most of your losin’ streak
Some call it sick, but I call it weak
You drag it around like a ball and chain
You wallow in the guilt; you wallow in the pain
You wave it like a flag, you wear it like a crown
Got your mind in the gutter, bringin’ everybody down
Complain about the present and blame it on the past
I’d like to find your inner child and kick it’s little a$$…
Get over it
Get over it
It’s gotta stop sometime, so why don’t you quit
Get over it, get over it….
More Quotes About Life.