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You Can (Almost) Always Find What You’re Looking For… So Be Careful What You Seek!

March 5, 2019 by Joi Leave a Comment

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Short story to set the stage – even if it does involve telling on myself and my ridiculousness in the process:

A few years ago, my husband was away for a business trip. I’m not the bravest person in the world, so when my daughters began talking about something VERY scary they had read about one afternoon, my brain whispered, “Well, if this doesn’t keep you awake all night, nothing will.” I pushed the whisper aside and reasoned that by the time bedtime rolled around and the lights were off, I’d be fine.

WRONG.

As soon as the lights turned off, the brain turned on. It felt compelled to remind me of the “true” horror story. Being very familiar with myself and knowing what it’d take for me to get any rest whatsoever, I grabbed my iPhone and Googled, “Why {insert horror occurrence} is a hoax.” Badabing! I found explanation after explanation of why this couldn’t possibly have happened and found “holes” punched everywhere within the story.

I slept like a baby.

Here’s the tricky thing – Had I been a complete idiot and Googled, “Why {insert horror occurrence} is true,” I’d have found… you guessed it… just what I was looking for.

I’m sure you’ve figured out where this is heading, right?

So often, in life, what we “find” doesn’t happen by mistake or coincidence – we “find” it because, whether we realize it or not, it’s what we were looking for.  I see it online with social media almost daily. There are some people who seem absolutely SET on finding drama and stirring up stress and emotions. I don’t want to get off track, here, but what is up with these people?! I want things to be as calm and peaceful as possible… who, in their right mind, wants drama circling around them?!

Whether it makes sense or not, they search for it and, naturally, they find it.

I’m always amused when, after it hits the fan, they act shocked and confused like, “How did this storm happen???”

You did the rain dance, honey, that’s how!

By contrast, there are people (raising my hand high) who get on social media to be informed, entertained, amused, and (hopefully) provide these things for others. Again, what they seek is generally what they find.

Have you ever seen a 4 year old who is tired and cranky? He/she seems to be actively looking for trouble, don’t they? How like children adults can be!

This is a short post because the real trick is simply to get your thoughts flowing. You don’t need me to tell you if you set out looking for drama, gossip, and maybe even a little argument now and then. You don’t need me to tell you if you actively seek out calmness, harmony, and goodwill. You already know you – as well as I know my Chicken Little ridiculous self! I’m only here to ask you this – Is what you seek conducive toward your happiness and mental health or not? Is what you tend to actively look for constructive to your relationships or destructive?

Make no mistake about it, each of these questions has a clear answer.

We find what we actively seek… make sure you’re looking for something worth having, because you will find it.

~ Joi

Filed Under: General, How to Be Happy, Positive Thought, Self Awareness Tagged With: positivity, self awareness, thoughts

How to Keep a Positive Mindset Everyday

July 22, 2016 by Joi Leave a Comment

Positivity, a strange concept that we get bombarded with on a daily basis. We’re always being told to stay positive, but only ever seems to be the weirdly smiley people who are ever actually positive all the time and they’re really annoying, so who cares, right? Wrong. Being positive will help you to be happy. Keeping a positive outlook on life will enable you to do better at your job and stay away from those people in blue who wear upside down nurse watches and stick thermometers in places that you’d wish they didn’t. Staying positive is a lot more difficult than reading about it, but here are some ways you can stay positive all day, every day.

Cut Out Toxic People

We all know those people who complain all the time or are always bitching about other people behind their backs. These people need to go. They need to be cut out without a care for their feelings. People like this infect the minds of their closest friends and if you’re not careful you become toxic too. These toxic thoughts also stop you from being positive yourself and end up making you miserable, so say adios!

Don’t Complain About Little Things

As humans we love to complain, especially if you’re British, however you should really stop. It doesn’t matter how small or insignificant the thing you’re complaining about is, it is still making your brain think negatively, which is what we are trying to avoid here. If you’re driving to work and the road is blocked, say ‘oh well’ and find an alternative route. If you break a mug, say ‘oh well’ and brush it up. Don’t bring it up again to anyone, unless you’re just sharing the facts. Complaining about little insignificant aspects of your life is a one way ticket to Miserable Ville.

Focus on the Good

Things can always get worse for you, remember that. This is why you should always focus on the positives in your life instead of the negatives. Everyone has little problems that they can’t seem to shake from their minds and this is natural, but when you’re brain starts worrying about them, force yourself to think about something else, something happy and wonderful. Think about your kids, or your partner, or look forward to something exciting that’s coming up in the future.

Future: Good; Past: Bad

It doesn’t matter what has happened in your past or how it’s still affecting your present, you can’t change it, so ignore it and think to the future. Plan your future happiness and focus on the positive changes you can make today to ensure tomorrow is a better world for you. This is where you’ll really see the power of positive thought. By focusing on what you want and how to achieve it, you are much more likely to actually get there.

If there’s any secret to leading a happy, successful life, then it’s by thinking positively. Changing your mind-set is like going on a diet, you need to trim the fat from your brain and focus on the healthy goodness that is left.

Bill is a freelance journalist who specialises in writing about culture and the arts, however will write about anything that piques his interest including business, travel and lifestyle.  @BilboClark01

Filed Under: Positive Thought Tagged With: positivity

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